posted November 29, 2017 04:46 PM            

I've heard people saying they don't like romance or don't see the point (even Aquarians themselves!). Then, people saying they don't fall in love, but can love someone like a friend, and others saying they just see their partner in a platonic way, and some saying that they're just not into commitment or solid relations - all the way to some saying that Aquarians are just cold.

So, what do you have to say about Aquarians regarding love?

And if you've got prominant Aquarius, how do you feel about love and romance? How do you fall? What do you feel for the person you fall for?

posted November 30, 2017 12:03 AM            

With that being said, I would say that Uranus energy makes love like an adrenalin rush.The mystifying intensity of electricity that coarses through ones veins when they meet someone that they are strongly drawn to.

Anything at all that takes our feelings away from the everyday drudgery of real life numbness is life affirming(even if temporary)And love/lust or spontaneous attraction can definitely shake things up.

But when it comes to long term commitment however,the same type of energy can lose steam when the attraction/love settles into "normalcy".

Uranus-Moon . Feels safe with erratic feelings
Uranus-Ic. Erratic at their core
Uranus-Venus. Wants love to remain exhilarating
Uranus -Dc. Drawn to excitement in partnership
Uranus-Asc . Seeks to infuse excitement in everyday life
Uranus-Sun. Generic self is vitalized by the erratic/change and excitement.

These guys can be especially noncommittal and find it hard to settle down to "normalcy". They may prefer romance but not attachment(and there is a difference).

In the long run -especially when Pluto is in the mix- they can be obsessive about their freedom and maintaining personal distance.

posted November 30, 2017 03:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I personally consider someone who has strong Uranus energy as the "Aquarian" archetype i.e Uranus involved in a stellium, Uranus hitting the Sun/ Moon or Uranus hitting the angles. Midpoint aspects that involve Uranus Moon/Sun combo which are often overlooked, are included herein.

With that being said, I would say that Uranus energy makes love like an adrenalin rush.The mystifying intensity of electricity that coarses through ones veins when they meet someone that they are strongly drawn to.

Anything at all that takes our feelings away from the everyday drudgery of real life numbness is life affirming(even if temporary)And love/lust or spontaneous attraction can definitely shake things up.

But when it comes to long term commitment however,the same type of energy can lose steam when the attraction/love settles into "normalcy".

Uranus-Moon . Feels safe with erratic feelings
Uranus-Ic. Erratic at their core
Uranus-Venus. Wants love to remain exhilarating
Uranus -Dc. Drawn to excitement in partnership
Uranus-Asc . Seeks to infuse excitement in everyday life
Uranus-Sun. Generic self is vitalized by the erratic/change and excitement.

These guys can be especially noncommittal and find it hard to settle down to "normalcy". They may prefer romance but not attachment(and there is a difference).

In the long run -especially when Pluto is in the mix- they can be obsessive about their freedom and maintaining personal distance.

Neptune involved there can literally have them want to "disappear" out of your life. Or remain completely unreachable or mysterious/ aloof. This is where the "cold" energy comes from.

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Thank you for that description. And it's really fascinating how you say it is like an adrenaline rush for them, something that makes them feel intensely. Could this be because Aqua (and intense Uranus, as you said) can be so detached that they CRAVE that type of intense feeling? And that's what the associate love and romance with?

And as for the rush wearing off when normalcy comes - that is what many feel when they jump into a relationship, and then get bored and break up, because they finally realize that it was mostly chemicals that emulate the real thing, but isn't created by real love. If it's just about the rush then of course it isn't real love, and or course it won't last - it's like drinking a cup of coffee for a buzz, and once you become desensitized, stop drinking the coffee and take Ginseng tea to give that caffeine boost.

All you've said tells me how they feel superficially about love and/or romance - but actually being in love in a permanent way, well, is it the same - but with a permanent rush that never wavers?
Or, will they just get bored of the person regardless? Because the sense of normalcy is inevitable.

I mean, what does it say if they have a partner, who becomes seriously ill for a long time, and they have to take care of them, and the exhilaration is gone? Would the possibility of their partner's death exhilarate them enough to make them stay?

I use that example, because realistically in a real, serious love dynamic, we cannot simply depend on things being exhilarating.

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Originally posted by Iridia:
I know of 3 Aquarius Moon females who's been always single and they're 25+. 2 of them have more stuff there. I think Venus in this sign is next in line when it comes to the amout of time spent solo. I never associated Aqua with being unable to commit though (I'd sooner point at Uranus). Aloofness? Could be.

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Same. Many with aqua moon, ones I know of, remain single - or, they like one night stands occasionally to scratch their itch, but that's it. I know of 1 Aqua sun who is happily married, but she has a lot of earth and water thrown in. And I know Aqua sun isn't always so typical or exalted here.

And I know of a man with Venus, Mars, Mercury and Jupiter (think jup?) in Aquarius and he's said many times he does not see the point to romance, that it is simply an illusion meant to entrap a mate so that you can have sex with them. Sure, for some people that's all there is, that's their point - and I don't know if he speaks for all Aquarians anyhow.

He also doesn't believe in falling in love, but he does know he cannot deny attraction, and he does not believe in deep bonding. For him, the bond between his woman is very superficial, and he says he likes to make sure that whenever he is with a woman, that she knows she is not his number one person, and if she gets in his way, he'll drop her. So in a way for him, being with someone, is simply for a long term sex partner who cooks, cleans, helps around the house, but the moment they want too much, too much emotional bonding, too much mind bonding, too much intimacy, he backs off or dumps her. And if she gets too attached and likes him too much, it repulses him.

So, since this guy has such strong Aqua, then I really do wonder is this how undiluted Aqua can be? And if so, then what is the karmic significance of being like this?

But your guess is as good as mine. Aloofness, maybe, indeed? But from what I've noted Aquas don't tend to come forward on this subject often, so....

BTW Iridia I like your quote.

posted November 30, 2017 04:05 PM            

In my chart My Uranus is in contact with my: Moon, Mars, Chiron, MC, Mercurius, Sun, Juno, Vertex and Asc and DC and Saturn.

posted November 30, 2017 04:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I personally consider someone who has strong Uranus energy as the "Aquarian" archetype i.e Uranus involved in a stellium, Uranus hitting the Sun/ Moon or Uranus hitting the angles. Midpoint aspects that involve Uranus Moon/Sun combo which are often overlooked, are included herein.

With that being said, I would say that Uranus energy makes love like an adrenalin rush.The mystifying intensity of electricity that coarses through ones veins when they meet someone that they are strongly drawn to.

Anything at all that takes our feelings away from the everyday drudgery of real life numbness is life affirming(even if temporary)And love/lust or spontaneous attraction can definitely shake things up.

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Oh I really missed this post wow this is gold!

I have lots of Uranus contact and wow I thought that rush i felt making eye contact with for ex my crush earlier in our relationship was all my Aries stellium! I completely overlooked the Uranus! Oh man I always miss something out, just when I think I grasped my chart it comes out I have missed other details :/.

I also have strong Pluto and Scorpio and 8th house stellium. So I thought the Aries and Pluto/scorpio in me was what caused my obsessions!

Well yes I'm really addicted to flirting via ey contact. There is a hormon called "phenylalanine" that surges through the brain when we make eye contact with people but much more so when we look into a love interess eyes. So Yes I'm addicted to that feeling (and hormon it seems) and dopamin. I blamed aries in me for them addictions but Wow hello Uranus! haha!

posted November 30, 2017 05:16 PM            

I think Aquarius Moon is more detached than Sun and Venus in Aquarius. Even if they are in love, sometimes it seems they don't?

posted December 01, 2017 07:37 AM            

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Originally posted by MilaBirkin:
I actually can say that I don't know what it feels to have a boyfriend for more than 1 month and that makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes... I mean to me is so hard to imagine myself having a 'normal' relationship. I want to, I want to be in love with someone who is in love with me and I want to have a relationship, a serious one... But everytime I get the chance to live that, Idk, I lose interest somehow. Is more easy to me have friends than have lovers, for real.

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Do you think that maybe, part of you makes you lose interest because things might be getting more serious, more intense? And because Aqua tends to detach to get a clear, objective view of a situation, maybe that objectivity feels threatened? Maybe a fear of losing control of yourself, in a way?

posted December 01, 2017 10:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
TY Hypa! Aquas are pretty darn mysterious lol

Do you think that maybe, part of you makes you lose interest because things might be getting more serious, more intense? And because Aqua tends to detach to get a clear, objective view of a situation, maybe that objectivity feels threatened? Maybe a fear of losing control of yourself, in a way?

Your English is great by the way

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posted December 01, 2017 12:22 PM            

In love I am fully committed, and need a strong woman.

I want be owned just as much as I want to own you.

I want to know that your yearning for me is unbearable, because that’s how it makes me feel.

In it for the long run. Jealousy is a turn on; if I don’t feel that, my head turns - I like to be kept in my toes.

A little bit twisted, a little bit tough; protective and affectionate.

This passionate Aqua, breaks the mould.

posted December 01, 2017 02:15 PM            

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Originally posted by MarsSaturnDelight:
Aqua Sun here 🤗

In love I am fully committed, and need a strong woman.

I want be owned just as much as I want to own you.

I want to know that your yearning for me is unbearable, because that’s how it makes me feel.

In it for the long run. Jealousy is a turn on; if I don’t feel that, my head turns - I like to be kept in my toes.

A little bit twisted, a little bit tough; protective and affectionate.

This passionate Aqua, breaks the mould.

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posted December 01, 2017 04:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:

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So, what do you have to say about Aquarians regarding love?

And if you've got prominant Aquarius, how do you feel about love and romance? How do you fall? What do you feel for the person you fall for?

I don't just mean the Venus signs. I mean any and all Aquarius, no matter where.

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I've heard it too and I don't think they are wrong as Aquarians people may seems like that to each different people who have some expectations of what should be what. And Aquarians are pretty much EXPERT to let you know only the outer as they are very protective of their emotional heart and sometimes will listen the brain more than the emotions.

Regarding to romance, well, I think it depends on the whole chart? I do like romance, but people have different definition on how romance should be. I definitely do not like dramatic or too emotional romance that turn into smothering romance. I may love to watch other people do that to other people, but if it happens to me, I will feel uncomfortable.

I like simple, a lil bit dreamy, and classic romance, like dinner, the interlock fingers, intellectual deep conversation, do traveling or groceries together, cuddling while watching tv/movies, cooking for my partner, overall not attracting too much attention from other outside people? rather than complimenting me TOO MUCH or exaggerating the relationship like it's the best relationship or the best partner I have, no, as I am a pretty much realistic within the relationship, at the end of the day I hate LIES, I want and will build a REALISTIC relationship and I don't care if my partner likes it or not but that's the consequence of building a relationship with me. I like to service my partner BUT not because I have to (as if I think it is, I will get BORED quickly in the relationship, so I need to change my mindset to keep myself out of the bored state), but because I like to treat people the way I like them to treat me, although sometimes I don't get the feedback and it hurts my water venus but somehow I keep doing it in the relationship (damn*t!).

Those are some of the things that I may consider as a romance and the most important thing is I crave the stability of that romance, I can't stand the hot and cold romance OR if I sense that it's insincere which means just trying to please me, I will call my partner out of those behavior and express how I feel about it then put him in the same feeling as I have.

I have Aqua as sun and mercury. Uranus conjunct ASC. Uranus trine moon. Uranus sextile mercury. Uranus minor aspect to venus.

In the past, dealing with relationship I was so Aquarians. Cold as I also had built a wall guard, didn't know how to express emotions, very very very much realistic, wouldn't say romantic or did romantic things, put my brain first, workaholic as I was very much thinking to the future that I didn't realize the present of "now" of my relationship so I might look treating it like a platonic although deep down I took very seriously. And also I was so naive that thinking other people have the same devotion as I had in the relationship. Since I was a kid I was a very much responsible with my own actions (as I taught so) and I thought other people would also have the same responsible with their own actions too that they would think twice before consciously hurting or playing with other people emotions in relationship. I was wrong.

After had been through rough path of abuse and cheating, I had change a lot by learning. I can be a person who is very hard on myself although I may appear like a true Sag rising though. So, yeah, how I feel about love is about responsibility, responsibility to watering, nourishing and nurturing your own flower. And how I feel about romance is like what I mention before. I like simple.

How do I fall? I don't fall in love easily. The only time I really feel that I fall for someone is when I was about 16? (I forgot) with a Pisces sun man. But it was an unrequited. Since that, hmmm, I never have that same feeling anymore with anyone, I think because I have been developing realistic love? It's hard to explain, but I fall with a person who at least have similar intelligence as I have, like a quick mind. I don't expect he needs to be the smartest academically, but I like someone who has a very quick mind to answer everything intellectually. I fall for the mind first, last is the body/face.

What do you feel for the person you fall for? This is a hard question, but I will use this words instead: I will feel like I want him to be happy, I will help him to find his true potential of his better version, I want him to feel life is good when he is with me.

posted December 03, 2017 07:40 AM            

Thanks for your input on the subject. It was quite enlightening.

I wonder though, do you feel a need for things to be exhilarating? As proposed above.

posted December 03, 2017 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:

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I wonder though, do you feel a need for things to be exhilarating? As proposed above.

If there's a sense of normalcy, does this bother you?

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Exhilarating? Like what? Can you give me an example?

For me, I don't really like anything that "too much".

posted December 03, 2017 01:29 PM            

I value close friendships,
but I'm rather independent as well
won't go around looking directly for romance

if I am to get close with someone, I need to befriend them first
even after the romantic feelings are ignited, I need to feel that me and this person are together part of something larger,
contributing to and influencing a specific part of community in some way, through promoting our shared social/moral ideas and values

I think venus in 11th, venus in aquarius, and venus/uranus aspects play out a bit differently

posted December 03, 2017 02:03 PM            

He is an anarcho capitalist, nonconformist who questions the status quo, futuristic, he would love our system to collapse, government to collapse and to start a new system that is not centralized and more empowering to the people instead of the government.

He has a hard time adapting to the system we have and just doesnt want to.

When it comes to relationships though he is faithful as hell and has zero interest in seeing other people, I have many times giving him a free pass or talked about open relationships. I have been with him for 10 years.

We have venus square uranus in composite and synastry. I am the first girl he actually thought of marriage with. He got attached to me, he is a libra with moon in cancer, mars in scorpio and venus in leo. We have a strong bond. He always fights for us and for me, he has the bigger staying power. He does have sun conjunct saturn in libra, saturn is exalted in libra. He does not believe in divorce. Due to uranus and libra's indecisiveness he perhaps takes his time committing but once he does he is in it for the long haul.

He does not seek excitement in a relationship, uranian types want peace and companionship in a relationship, they dont need a lot and dont want drama. A lot of women complain that uranian types approach relationships too much like a friendship and want more excitement.

Uranian types want their relationships to be chill and low maintenance. If they are seeking excitement in a relationship then they are not harnessing the creativity and love for knowledge that comes with uranus energy and are probably boring themselves. Like my partner is always learning something new and always starting some new project, learning is what he is passionate about and exploring his creative side. He is not addicted to romance or love, that is more a neptunian thing.

They want someone who gets them, gets what they want and gets it without they having to spell it out, bc in their head is not rocket science and is actually very simple.

posted December 03, 2017 02:31 PM            

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Exhilarating? Like what? Can you give me an example?

For me, I don't really like anything that "too much".

And, can you explain what's normalcy you think? I think everything is normal until it consists immoral behaviors and violates the norms applicable in a relationship.

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I honestly don't know all the things that pass for exhilarating for Aqua lol Read above post from Aries. So, adrenaline is mentioned - so, is that true for you? Do you need exhilaration? Would you say what's said there is true for you personally? And by too much, as in, you wouldn't skydive? (first thing that popped into my head)

posted December 04, 2017 05:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:

I honestly don't know all the things that pass for exhilarating for Aqua lol Read above post from Aries. So, adrenaline is mentioned - so, is that true for you? Do you need exhilaration? Would you say what's said there is true for you personally? And by too much, as in, you wouldn't skydive? (first thing that popped into my head)

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I'm sorry, I don't really read the whole of what Aries23Degrees posted. I have moon in Aries, I tend to skip fast.

(scrolling to Aries23Degrees' post)

I don't quite understand the "adrenaline rush"?, as for me, love can be with anyone but falling in love is hard as Aquarians need times to "process" emotions/feelings about them falling in love to a person as they will listen to the head first. "Adrenaline rush" looks like what MEN tend to use to try to explain the first stage of falling in love with someone or strongly drawn to someone. Aries23Degrees is a man, isn't it?

I don't know if women experience the adrenaline rush too? as for me, the moment I felt a feeling for the Pisces sun man in the past, it was kind of a SUPER BIG of HUGE ADMIRATION of his personality, pretty much in the head level first then fall to the heart. Like yota13 have said, there's a reason why the Aquarians are the opposite of the Leos. Leos love being admired/adored by their partner, Aquarians love admiring/adoring their partner.

When Aquarians decide to commit for life, that's for sure they have truly falling in love (after passing the war between their head vs heart about love), which is rare, as Aquarians do not commit to just anyone or just that easily, they are almost similar with the Virgos, very picky and perfectionist choosing a partner for life or giving their heart to someone.

It is a very important to take a note that it is a personal opinion, I can not represent every Aquas. As there are a lot of factors such as psychology, beliefs, early home life, or the environment may affect the person. And in Astrology, need to consider the whole chart.

No, I don't have an adrenaline rush run through my veins at all. Perhaps, a sparkling eyes, yes. Adrenaline rush looks like emotions for me.

Skydiving? Probably not. lol. I like a proven safe ride. You know, I also have Saturn conjunct ASC, moon trine Saturn, mercury sextile Saturn, and Saturn minor to venus, so Saturn keeps me from doing extreme things.

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:

And I think what's meant by normalcy is habits that are routine. There's atypical habits, and then there's like a mellow kind of "settling" into normalcy - meaning something becomes so common and so done over it's just normal and not erratic. So, do you feel like you need more excitement and regular change, or are you fine with routine/normalcy (which can apply to anything that becomes common and daily the same)

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Oh, okay. I see.

But I think normalcy and routine are two different things as normalcy can be very subjective.

Like I said before, for me, everything is normal until it consists immoral behaviors and violates the norms applicable in a relationship.

With routines, well, I don't see any problem with routines. As long as it is productive. My Mom (Aqua sun - Cap cusp) was a pretty much strict in a good way and it became the consistent routine when I grew up, like, we had this strict time schedule at home since I was a kid, what time we got allowed watching tv, what time we got allowed to go outside and arrived at home, what time we got allowed to use phone or computer, what time we should go to bed, what time we should do the house cleaning, what time we should have dinner, Saturday night was a family night, etc, and it happened until we graduated from school. Those routines make me see no problem having the same routines as I grew up like that. But, aren't we all doing the any kind of different routines in life? I only don't do lazy routines, lazy moments I have, but not the lazy routines. Even in my aloof times, I do something productive to my brain.

I may look erratic with the outsider, even one of my friends told me that I looked unpredictable, but I don't think I like do erratic things in my relationship or with my close people. I'm pretty much fixated, stable, and having consistent emotions/feelings in the relationship (roller-coaster relationship can spin my head off like crazy that will make me doesn't think about the future of the relationship which also means I won't plan it which also means I'm always in the exit doors waiting the big hit). I like my comfort zone but I still need some variety here and there to keep myself out of boredom and keep the relationship interesting. "Need more excitement and regular change" looks like a desperation to me, I prefer to use "variety" but it should not be done every day, once for awhile is okay and I think a necessity.

So, I'm fine with routine. It's not like a disease or not attractive things to my fix sun sign. As long as it is productive, having a good benefit to life, and build structure to life.

posted December 04, 2017 08:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Lalafortunaea:
Aquarius + love & romance seem to be quite misunderstood.

I've heard people saying they don't like romance or don't see the point (even Aquarians themselves!). Then, people saying they don't fall in love, but can love someone like a friend, and others saying they just see their partner in a platonic way, and some saying that they're just not into commitment or solid relations - all the way to some saying that Aquarians are just cold.

So, what do you have to say about Aquarians regarding love?

And if you've got prominant Aquarius, how do you feel about love and romance? How do you fall? What do you feel for the person you fall for?

I don't just mean the Venus signs. I mean any and all Aquarius, no matter where.

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As an Aquarius Sun conj. Jupiter conj. Aquarius ASC... I can say that I prefer a very serious and deep love. My Sun/Jupiter are also trine my Uranus (8th house).

However, there are a lot of other things in my chart that affect that. I am a geek, at times zany and crazy, I can also be aloof. Friends are important to me.