posted December 10, 2017 04:53 PM            

I have sun conjunct ceres in the 2nd house and moon conjunct jupiter in the 4th house. I am anxious about the abandonment to children (intellectually, spiritually, emotionally) as the one I'm dealing with sometimes do this to me especially when he doesn't want to deal with the issue we have or thing seems complicated (not saying the abandonment occur everyday, but only when we have some complex issue to deal with or to discuss with, for example: silent treatment, which in my mind can be a sign of abandonment, and others). I don't want children experience abandonment.

posted December 10, 2017 05:47 PM            

Her mother was essentially a loon. Same with a coworker I know who had a Gemini mother too.

I don't hold a positive view of female Gemini mothers there somewhere between Madonna and a nervous wreck.

I'd assume the Gem both male/female would teach there kids to be independent free thinkers.

posted December 10, 2017 06:14 PM            

Except for one uncle who is naturally sweet. Their other two children are incredible selfish, mean, and irresponsible.

posted December 10, 2017 08:41 PM            

*I'm still hoping hearing the good news about them as a parent though*

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I suspect they didn't know how to deal once their children started demonstrating negative characteristics.

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This. This's I'm worried about. Sometimes when children start demonstrating negative characteristic, that's the time they need parents the most who can/should give them the guidance. I am worried I will feel alone when dealing the hard times in parenting role and the kids feel abandoned from their Father present in the bad times as I feel my Gem can be so cold hearted when he feels the pressure of something heavy in chest and thoughts by flying away to get away from the burden.

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@arcturus90, oh my, I also have Sun square Pluto WIDE aspect, it can be really tough, but I thank my parents parental cooperation as they give us a lot of unconditional love beside a lot of strict rules at home. Their love is as dreamy as fairy tale I feel. I have a very strong self control though, almost like a perfectionist, but I don't project it to others, I tend to be hard on myself to continually transformed/learn myself.

My Gemini had cheated on me in the past, but somehow after having through hard turmoil in the relationship, we're still trying (he doesn't want to let me go, it's weird after intense situations we had) but I keep my eyes open all the time because I still keep seeing his old pattern here and there.

posted December 11, 2017 09:46 AM            

Politics aside, Donald trump is a Gemini. The way he tells it, he raised his children to be responsible, well adjusted members of society. Ivana tells a different story; Donald was gone all the time, the burden of raising the Children fell on her. Marla tells a similar story; Donald provided financial support, but she did the day-to-day raising of Tiffany. The same pattern is emerging with Baron...he is Melania job.

A Gemini parent's strength is in helping kids be kids. They are great at play, and lightening things up. Discipline and structure will have to come from you.

posted December 11, 2017 10:07 AM            

No I don't see him as a friend, at all, but you're right, he seems to act like a friend with my sister (and she does too, or she seems to, I don't know)... I don't see the way he acts, as a friendly behavior. It seems normal to me. He doesn't tell very funny jokes sometimes, lol... and he tells them to my mother too, us three (sometimes funny but not all the time)... And playing is normal, it's not acting like a friend, we did some boards games, cards, darts game, and maybe others... And watching films each Saturday, also. Those are hobbies a father do with his children, not necessarily a father who acts like a friend.

posted December 11, 2017 11:49 AM            

It puzzles me. I love Geminis. Especially my mom.

She definitely encouraged independence and free thinking but was also a very nurturing mother - She has Virgo Moon conjunct ASC and Cancer Venus/Mars and Taurus Mercury.

posted December 11, 2017 01:47 PM            

He’s also passive aggressive and will hold a grudge for.ever.and.ever :-/

posted December 11, 2017 05:29 PM            

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@DualGemV2, even if they have Cancer placement somewhere in their chart?

*I'm still hoping hearing the good news about them as a parent though*

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As many people have mentioned they are more of a friend then an actually parent.

I don't have kids. My Neice and my nephew are the closest thing to kids to me right now and they pretty much see me as an older friend with some cash, lol.

My concern is they might play a little psychology in where the child will grow up treating the Gemini parent as there friend and loathing the other parent since the other parent will do most of the disciplining.

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Why do Gemini suns get such a bad rep?

It puzzles me. I love Geminis. Especially my mom.

She definitely encouraged independence and free thinking...

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That's what puzzles me about July born Leo's. I know one that's a complete book worm to the point she became a store manager of Indigo books (Canada's largest book retailer).

My coworker whose old enough to be my mom loves the Discrete Math puzzles I have to do for school while I'm just annoyed by them. For example prove 3 people that hate each other won't cross paths. Answer planer, biparte graph and Euller's graph Theory.

I'm starting to think July borns are more intellectual then the mid-late August borns and thats where the connection lies.

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My dad is a Gem Sun, Leo Moon. He’s kinda erratic, talks big words and follows up with little action, has MANY friends and can have a fierce temper (hello, Cancer Mars!). He does have a soft and kind heart and will help you as much as he can. When he’s stopped talking..

He’s also passive aggressive and will hold a grudge for.ever.and.ever :-/

He’s basically only taught me one thing and that was: don’t cry over men because MOSTLY, we are not worth your tears.

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Its funny you say that My niece that is also a Gemini has noticed my friendly and angry streak.

I was also going to say the same thing to my Gemini niece about men, too lol.

posted December 12, 2017 08:49 PM            

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Yes, the Gemini parent is more like a good friend, than a strong parent.

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A Gemini parent's strength is in helping kids be kids. They are great at play, and lightening things up. Discipline and structure will have to come from you.

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Do you think maybe the Gemini copy the parenting style from their parents? As, to be honest, due to their adaptability they can suddenly take other people's personality and then get lost in it, not knowing who they really are as they meet/talk with a lot of people or later developing split personality.

Even what you say is almost similar to what I capture from my Gem saying, but, I notice that it is also similar with his parent's parenting style.

He said to me that kids should be allowed to do whatever they want to do and go wherever they want to go without any rules from the parents, they should experience everything so they can learn by themselves and if they do bad things, they should deal with their own problems by themselves, they should take their own responsibility so they learn to be independent.

And I see his mother do the same thing to him (can't talk about his father as he looks like having estranged relationship with him).

*I am just wondering what's his mother's sun sign? *

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I see. I think I can understand.

My Father has Aqua moon and if my friends come visit me at home, he suddenly acts like "OUR" friends, it's funny sometimes. He may suddenly come to us, smiling offering foods or asking what are we doing and if it is a homework he wants to join helping us or if we only want to hang out at home, he will be here and there checking us. But he always keeps the distance, not too close and not too far, so I still feel I have some space with my friends, but he can talk with my friends like a friend, really.

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Why do Gemini suns get such a bad rep?
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Having a relationship with a Gem, I think I can understand why they can get such a bad rep. lol.

I mean, I can understand both sides, the agree one and the disagree one.

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Originally posted by charlie:
My dad is a Gem Sun, Leo Moon. He’s kinda erratic, talks big words and follows up with little action, has MANY friends and can have a fierce temper (hello, Cancer Mars!). He does have a soft and kind heart and will help you as much as he can. When he’s stopped talking..

He’s also passive aggressive and will hold a grudge for.ever.and.ever :-/

He’s basically only taught me one thing and that was: don’t cry over men because MOSTLY, we are not worth your tears.

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The first paragraph is what I feel and experience too.

Holding grudge for ever and ever is that fixed moon sign strengthening it..

posted December 12, 2017 09:34 PM            

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My concern is they might play a little psychology in where the child will grow up treating the Gemini parent as there friend and loathing the other parent since the other parent will do most of the disciplining.

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This is interesting.

I've seen this behavior too, but in a different occasion, it was when he tried to compete with me in the office (when we were still work together). I actually noticed that he wanted all the attention on him and he wanted to be alike so much (although at the same time, he tried to avoid heavy responsibility) but I had been there longer than him and he saw me as a well-liked person, relax, and life looked good on me. He was jealous and it was gone too far that he was spreading bad gossip about me to the colleagues while he knew nothing about me at all.

I think, I can see this. Didn't know if it's called psychology games, I also had a hard time to define it first. I wondered a lot.

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My mom is a gemini and she was pretty much a dream mom!
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lol. I think because of Saturn is making aspect to my Asc, moon, mercury, and venus, paralleling mars, I think I prefer a mature at heart as a parent.

posted December 12, 2017 09:54 PM            

I don't understand your Gem. I've always viewed Aquairans as one of the best signs to ally with not form a competition.

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posted December 12, 2017 11:18 PM            

I don't understand either. I'm just assuming that he tried to compete as he tried to bring me down at work. I think it's kind of a power games or his controlling behavior as he didn't enjoy his life as much as I did at the time.

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posted December 13, 2017 12:21 AM            

I don't know..with my Aqua friend she pretty much knows or understands the way I think.

...and as much as I regret to say some power over my decisions. She's stopped me from running away from things half the time.

You really need that before anything can happen.

posted December 19, 2017 11:38 AM            

Is it bizarre that the Gemini is suddenly changed after he learns that his partner is conceiving or he learns that he will be a parent? I mean, like, he is starting showing that he wants to involve in everything and sometimes the chase can feel overwhelming.

Or is this just a temporary change, like, we all know that Gemini can be so adaptable to every situations?

posted December 20, 2017 11:18 PM            

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it's not just about the sun sign sheesh....

I'm a gemini sun (in the 8th), moon in virgo and cancer venus. I'm incredibly nurturing and kids love me.

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Gender make a difference thought were referring to a Gem Male, not Female.
Your a Female Gemini, I'm male.

posted December 21, 2017 08:47 PM            

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Part of me thinks he'll show initial interest, but once it gets to demanding he'll want to flee.

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I don't know why but it feels like we almost always have the same thoughts to answer things. I have it in the back of my mind too but I feel like I need some reassurance of insight as sometimes I need two or more views to process my own conclusions.

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Originally posted by EmGem:
it's not just about the sun sign sheesh....

I'm a gemini sun (in the 8th), moon in virgo and cancer venus. I'm incredibly nurturing and kids love me.

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Yes, it is not only about the sun sign. But sometimes you still can not avoid your sun sign personality as part of your behavior.

My Gemini has Mars in Cancer and Mercury, but still, he is a Gemini, the run away thing (even in the small tiny doses, but you can see they NEED some time to be away to deal with heavy things then maybe or maybe not come up with how to get out) and the teenager soul are still there.

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Originally posted by etherealsaturn:
My Mom is a solar Gemini, also has a Sag Moon. She was always more of a friend than a strict parental figure.

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posted December 22, 2017 03:20 AM            

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I don't know why but it feels like we almost always have the same thoughts to answer things. I have it in the back of my mind too but I feel like I need some reassurance of insight as sometimes I need two or more views to process my own conclusions.

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Its Ironic because I always turn to my Aquarius friend when I need reassurance.

If you don't feel comfortable with him as a parent do what your instinct senses.

posted December 24, 2017 05:06 PM            

My air mercury is in 3rd house and it's sextile to uranus. My way of thinking can be so wide with information and very active, and for me a long term decision is a very serious matter as I also can be fixated and don't want to regret it later.