posted December 14, 2017 03:06 AM            

His life is waaaaay different from mine. Which I found a little disappointing tbh. As i was also looking to connect dots.

posted December 14, 2017 12:31 PM            

- http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/023442.html

Your friends that divorced were super-young to get married. Must have been right out of high school or first years of some college.

There's always two ways to look at a thing.

You are still in the decade belonging to discerning and establishing your own tastes and values, which are separate from your friends' values. You are also working on psychologically having separated from the dependent relationship with your parents and establishing your own self-identity in the world. Hopefully, you've been having some traction with that, building towards the vocation you want to have, and what you want to establish with the earning-years of your life. Takes tenacity, perseverance. Really hard work. Lots of dedication.

Each of those friends you have with a failed-committed relationship now have an emotional 'wounding' they must contend with, which can affect self-esteem and even a woman's earning-power (at least, in my day it did).

If those friends are open to it, you would now be able to 'consult' with them, to ask wise advice concerning any choice of mate you might do. There's a difference in 'choosing' between a boyfriend, and a husband (or whatever gender applies to you, or, that you prefer).

It's one thing to be having a dating-relationship and having fun, playing the field, sowing your 'oats' (as they say).

It's good to do that. It's wise. It's good to find out what your likes and dislikes are.

Narrow down and establish what you think you would value in a committed-partnership.

The more you make your rounds, the more information you have to add to your bank of self-knowledge.

I saw that you are coming up on Saturn conjunct your Moon. ... When I was your exact age, I went through that transit... and applied to a vocation within a religious monastery. LOL. .. Didn't eventually work out, after that transit finished.

I went back INTO the working world. Established self. Met my future husband. Married, and had my first baby DURING my 1st Saturn Return.

Most of what life is, you cannot judge in the moment of living it. The Gift comes as you look over your shoulder to see how far you've come. ... Then, with objectivity, suss out the Lessons, Forgive self for any perceived failings, and Gather Strength in the things that you have done 'Well'.

BE who you are.
WALK in and WITH integrity.
If you can, establishing a spiritual life, an Ideal, can be of GREAT Benefit to one's life... especially during times of Storms.

Cultivate a Sense of Hope at your CORE.
And notice the Others on your Path, who share Journey with that same Essence inside them. Encourage each other.

Take Excellent Care of your Beautiful Self.