posted February 27, 2018 12:30 AM            

When you go cold, what is it that triggers you?

What helps you come back from your aloofness? How can I tell if you've left for good or are just taking space? Liking my posts? Sending me a message about my later father's birthday and sending love? I guess that means you're still here....but there....from a distance.

How do you battle with your need for closeness too?

Please tell me about your romantic relationships.

I'm perplexed at how your emotions work. I don't know whether to communicate with you about it. I tried but I can tell you guys literally cannot come out of your numbness unless you are ready. I can see the emotion all over your face though. Speaks mountains.

Also, does anyone have Moon Quintile Uranus? Does it affect you in a similar way?

posted February 27, 2018 01:00 AM            

I joke ofcourse. But I do have a friend with the Moon square Uranus in Scorpio. I think he enjoys being left as he chooses really dodge partners.

As a Moon/Uranus biquintile person, I think that this affects my ability to stay consistently emotionally in tune.

Its like I welcome emotional interruptions Whether that be not talking to my partner for a couple of days or not seeing/talking to them for just as long etc.

posted February 27, 2018 03:32 AM            

I find their inconsistency opens up the possibility for them to either be left or have the partner start seeing someone else on the side.

What helps me come back from the aloofness? Nothing. Mood change I guess.

How can u tell if I am gone for good? You can't. I like being open ended and for the other person to be. Its selfish as hell. But true.

When I go cold, what triggers that? Nothing. I just am naturally distant. The warmth comes and goes. Does not mean I don't care. I just prefer more subtle expressions of intimacy.

Moon-Uranus needs to be close enough to be friends. And further enough to be lovers.

If you can get that contradiction in perspective. You will not be as insecure.

posted February 27, 2018 04:35 AM            

As most of us are taught to be self sufficient and independent, the idea of commitment or even letting another feel that you need them is completely OUT.

posted February 27, 2018 04:58 AM            

You’ve explained it well Aries. Thank you. The neediness hmmm. I know that repels me too. Maybe I don’t like this in him because it’s also a part of me. However I do have a cancer venus too so..... 😑

It just is. That’s what they’re like.

posted February 27, 2018 05:51 AM            

The time away could be used to get a perspective.

Communication/ contact over the phone over those "down" times won't feel so good. The text conversations will seem like they are distracted and their voice over the phone may not be as welcoming as you want it to be. Creating more hurt.

I dated a Venus-Uranus conjunct in Scorpio with Moon-Saturn square. And there was never a more unresponsive person on the phone: whether it was text or voice. There was more cheer in a graveyard.

Now if you come into the relationship with a "your aloofness will not bother me" approach. Its better. But that means you will have to cool your heels on wanting immediate gratification.

Uranus can do surprises. Some good and then some not so good. But it does not do passion.

posted February 27, 2018 06:19 AM            

^^ that’s so on point what you wrote. The communication he has now given me after our intense passion is there but it’s felt with so much detachment. Here I am being my Gemini witty self and he’s just ice. Although when he sent me the msg about my late fathers bday he said “lots of love xxx”. This was big of him to do. But then he sank back inside after I replied to his “how are you?”. I didn’t say anything remotely needy except maybe asking him if he knew when he was going back to the U.S as I would be going too. Not that that’s even needy 🤷🏻‍♀️ But he wouldve FELT my desire for him to become close again, esp with his Scorpio receptivity.

“So you will feel your stomach punched in when you think you are in the throes of intimacy with your Uranus lover. And then they answer the phone right when your orgasm peaks”

posted February 27, 2018 07:04 AM            

Its like indulging an orphan with so much love and attention. And then when the Sun goes down, you say "See ya". And then SMS them on Xmas. So painful.

Next time he sends anything remotely sentimental. Clap back. Example:

Him: " Hey how are you"

You: "Hey stranger ! My fiancé and I are fine"

Or

Him: "Hope u good"

You: "Just gave birth to twins. So should be"

posted February 28, 2018 08:31 AM            

Anyway, although it would be lovely to have his take on what happened when he bolted, that’s never going to happen as he simply didn’t understand he was doing it! The response was subconscious and involuntary, I did contest him at times and he’d deny all knowledge. He wasn’t even lying he simply couldn’t really ‘process’ his emotions in a way which brought about self-awareness.

Uranus can be quite difficult to get a handle on sometimes, it doesn’t so much desire freedom, as demand it. In a way it’s like having to stay connected to this electromagnetic field of possibility and grounded, earth relationship take that possibility away a lot of the time. It’s not actually fear of commitment or feeling, or experience, it’s that there is a commitment to something much bigger, and more esoteric already.

You’ll never ‘pin down’ a Moon-Uranus the only chance really is to be electrifying enough that they are always drawn back to you and make it so that you enhance their creative consciousness and never block it. ♥

posted February 28, 2018 07:30 PM            

Actually these questions are so hard for me to answer !
I never really know what to say when people don't understand me. And that's when I peace out sometimes. It depends on the person. I don't like when people try to put me in a box. I also get confused when people expect me to be anything other than what I've been.

But if someone is hurt by something I did or didn't do, I would prefer for them to just say it. And I'll try to change if I care enough, but I'm not gonna fake it or anything.

That said, I've been in an intimate relationship where we see each other every day, for 2 years (we both have the square), and I've never 'poofed' on someone I was in a relationship with, until we broke up.

posted February 28, 2018 07:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

What helps me come back from the aloofness? Nothing. Mood change I guess.

How can u tell if I am gone for good? You can't. I like being open ended and for the other person to be. Its selfish as hell. But true.

When I go cold, what triggers that? Nothing. I just am naturally distant. The warmth comes and goes. Does not mean I don't care. I just prefer more subtle expressions of intimacy.

I don't mean to hurt feelings and I do need for you to bounce back and not personalise everything I do.

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posted March 02, 2018 04:04 AM            

he wrote to me last night. but i'm questioning things now hmmm....

posted March 14, 2018 02:20 AM            

Yep I’m all for attachment theory but thanks for the link, I think I’ll read up on them again.