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Topic: First Date during Mars retrograde?
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TaurusVenusGirl
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From: Heavens Above
Registered: Aug 2016
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posted June 26, 2018 06:13 PM
  
Would you or wouldn't you?Will the passion and determination to chase them still be there after the first date and mars goes direct? Or just wait until then? IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: From a galaxy, far, far away...
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posted June 27, 2018 12:22 PM
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Kannon McAfee
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posted June 27, 2018 03:07 PM
I don't ever let retrogrades stop me from moving forward with what is in the flow of my life. Retrogrades are not periods for inactivity or holding back, but for allowing expectations of forward movement at the usual pace to be suspended in favor of reconsiderations (depending on planet involved).This is not a 'come to naught' situation asserted regarding the VOC Moon. An hypothetical example ... Let's say you have a first date with someone after Mars has gone retrograde, maybe a second. But something about the dynamic or the other person makes you realize that you left off with a behavioral approach that was getting you better results. You may even reconsider a person as dating material that you overlooked because you worked with them, but now you don't. In general, Mars-Rx may mean a 'cooler' approach in which you observe your internal motivations or redirect attention internally. But its dynamic is never as simple as doing or not doing. Mars-Rx is more a dynamic of either competing with yourself, or dealing with internal motivations, but that does not neutralize the effectiveness of outward action as a way to get to that. ------------------
"Drift like a cloud and flow like water, seeing that all life is a magnificent illusion, a playing of energy, and there is absolutely nothing fundamentally to be afraid of." -- Alan Watts Soul Stars Astrology by The Declinations Guy
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hypatia238
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From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 28, 2018 12:46 AM
There can be a stronger desire than usual to go back to “fix” old problems and especially disagreements. Returning to old relationships that didn’t end well or that otherwise broke down may not be the best idea, although it can be tempting, as the problems may seem easier to resolve or non-existent. However, after Mars’ direct turn, the frustrations can emerge once again. It’s, in fact, a very good time to look back at a relationship or endeavor from a new perspective – one that is less clouded by anger – but not so wise to make final decisions based on what we’re seeing or experiencing now.Cafe astrology ^^ IP: Logged |
hypatia238
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From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 28, 2018 12:48 AM
It’s not so much a bad time to take on new projects as it is a time when we may be less courageous and more anxious about doing new things. Slowing down makes sense. We shouldn’t panic if a new job, project, interview, or relationship happens during the Mars retrograde period, but we should probably adopt a wait-and-see attitude and take things slowly before locking something down since our perspective may change once Mars turns direct and our needs can seem considerably different.Cafe astrology ^^ IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted June 28, 2018 04:23 PM
Here is a good rule of thumb: if a single day can have the power to ruin a relationship or potential relationship, then the relationship wasn't meant to be anyway. You could have a date during Mercury Retrograde if you want and it can turn out just fine. Be yourself during the date and let the chips fall where they may. IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 9317
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 28, 2018 04:33 PM
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Originally posted by Astra:
Here is a good rule of thumb: if a single day can have the power to ruin a relationship or potential relationship, then the relationship wasn't meant to be anyway. You could have a date during Mercury Retrograde if you want and it can turn out just fine. Be yourself during the date and let the chips fall where they may.
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mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 9965
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 28, 2018 04:51 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Astra:
Here is a good rule of thumb: if a single day can have the power to ruin a relationship or potential relationship, then the relationship wasn't meant to be anyway.
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capricorncheriscty
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Registered: Nov 2017
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posted June 28, 2018 04:54 PM
Retrogrades are honestly not THAT serious. What's in your natal chart will always be the most powerful effects, forever and always. Do not let transits dictate your life. If one tries to knock you down you just have to keep getting back up again because that's what the essence of your natal chart is about; fulfilling a destiny laid out before you. The transits are simply obstacles that may or may not come up but they are also rewards. You don't know which it will be so just keep going because you know how that saying is "You never know until you try". Like they said above me, just be yourself and let the chips fall. Retrogrades are periods of thought and recollecting energy in that sign and house, not to run away from the energy of that sign and house. A retrograde is basically saying, "Hey, I know you burned yourself out using up this sign and house's energy earlier so here is a period for you to recollect your strength, declutter your mind, and prepare yourself for a second, better chance in this sign and house of this planet once it goes direct again." That's all it is. IP: Logged |
Sulkyarcher
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posted June 28, 2018 06:42 PM
Sounds intense.IP: Logged |
Astra
Knowflake Posts: 943
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posted June 29, 2018 06:09 AM
TaurusVenusGirl,Perhaps this will make you feel better: I bought a house during Mercury Retrograde. I had to read through 100+ pages of paperwork. And you know what? It turned out completely fine! It was one of the best decisions that I made. There were absolutely no problems that popped up. Buying a house is a much bigger commitment than agreeing to go on a date and I didn't have any problems. So if you want to go out on a date, then go for it! Remember, it's just a date. You don't need to decide whether to marry the guy. Just go out, have fun and get to know him. Don't worry about transits. There will always be good transits and bad transits. You have to live your life on your own terms and not let transits dictate your choices. P.S. Make sure you bring plenty of money to pay for your own meal, movie ticket, etc. I don't know your age, but if you are under 40 in the U.S., a lot of men (not all) assume you will pay for yourself on the first date. Also if your date is picking you up, then make sure you have enough money to call an Uber in case the date is unpleasant and you want to leave early. If you do choose to leave early, then definitely leave enough money to cover your expenses for the date. IP: Logged |
TaurusVenusGirl
Knowflake Posts: 383
From: Heavens Above
Registered: Aug 2016
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posted June 29, 2018 06:36 AM
All good advice everyone! Thank you  Yes I would never go on a first date again without paying for myself. So many men think that if they buy you a drink, they are now entitled to sex! I did try and end a relationship today. He completely shut down on me. Rejection always hurts and he wasnt giving me what my soul craves, he was just a "shag" . He wasn't happy about it, but I wanted to move forward with someone else instead. And that someone else isnt ready right now anyway.. But if he is ready, and whats to meet before the 27 August, I'll do it!  IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 9965
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 29, 2018 02:11 PM
So... He wasn't looking for a relationship.
Just a cold hookup for some sex? {'shag'}Good for you that your criteria of what qualifies a person is whether they can makes your soul sing.  Good to know the Truth. Good to have experiences that help you realize and sift-out WHAT it is you want in a relationship. Simply, … Getting More efficient? LOL (music) It's Getting Better  (Mama Cass, Aug 1969) [2:48] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNpx7CWLbCk
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