posted July 20, 2018 11:44 AM            

But I have some intuitive hunch that there will be some shift due to this eclipse with the energetic relationship with my abusive ex. He is an Aquarius.

My daughter, me, and my husband are all leo ascendants and my sun is north node leo.

Does anyone have any advice or links to pages that address how the eclipse may be influencing these signs, I just feel that something may be shifting.

posted July 21, 2018 12:42 PM            

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Originally posted by missblyss:
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Will add that my ex is forcing supervised visits with our daughter who he has tried to kidnap in the past.
He’s a violent wanna be rapper who poses photos with guns and is overall awful.

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I can definitely relate to the abhorrence you would feel at his exposing the daughter to such a negative, criminal and violence-oriented culture.

My Heart goes out to you!

You might want to keep close tabs on the physical and emotional state of your daughter. Be discrete. … Not too alarming or probing in a suggestive way to your daughter, but be subtle.

You could even have a small vlog where you record her for a few moments, and have that as a 'record' just in case there were huge swings in her emotional states?

Again -- Don't worry!, since his visits are being "SUPERVISED" okay?

If they are supervised by YOU, then, I would say the spotlight for this might be more on YOU, and your own behaviors and reactions that could become "toxic" for you to engage in? Could backfire on you..

Avoid any fights, any anger-confrontations right now, as the sky transits might potentiate, add 'fuel' to, your impulses and instincts.

You (and not he) would be seen as the aggressor to the courts by your actions? This would backfire, especially during this time of tMars-tSN Aquarius in retrograde until August 27.

He's the ex who was a trained psychologist, right? He might know how to trigger you, and push your buttons.

Not sure but-- I thought I had seen you post that you are also in a legal battle with someone who tried to complain about a product you have? You might be showing some 'legal' transits somehow. (I don't know your chart, sorry, except for what you shared in OP.)

With your Leo Ascendant, that places parts of Aquarius on your 7th house? The 7th House is a legal house (lawyers; while the 9th House are Judges, courts and higher courts), and any one-on-one relationships you have.

Is tPluto in your 5th House possibly Capricorn?? 5th House is Children.
Pluto Power struggles with Authority?

The 11th House is a legal house too. You have Zodiac Cancer there? There was a Solar New Moon Eclipse 20+ Cancer opp Pluto.

.. If 20+ Cancer is your 12th, it might have brought up some 'unconscious fears' you may have -- whether 'perceived' fear or real-life. There might be something 'more' going on with you, than just this ex trying to visit the child?
.. You might want to take an opportunity to explore this issue on a deeper level. Journal it, or talk to objective good friend (not present husband, unless HE can be objective), even with a counselor if you go to one of those?

I don't know the degree of your Leo...
SouthNode is about releasing and letting go of things (that, for now, you might not have too much control over).
.. 5th house? Children
.. 6th house? Needing to adjust something that was 'routine' to you (Visitation schedules?) omg, I just realized too that this is the house that pertains to Health, daily routines.. (ref, your tooth product is used for that purpose??)

I'm so sorry you're having this scary time.

I remember when my ex, who had COMPLETELY abandoned his daughters, "suddenly" decided he wanted visitation.

He was "using" the kids to get at me.
He knew how crazy-upsetting that was for me to let them go with him.

He wouldn't take care of dau#2 diaper, and left her with rashes that blistered.
He would take them in his car without having filled his gas-tank, and the oldest told me he had run out of fuel on a highway, and strangers picked them up and took them somewhere.
He would be horrible to them emotionally, and talked bad about me the whole time. He had a woman in his life whom they felt uncomfortable with.

So, I remember when the lawyers had gotten together, and HIS lawyer suggested *they* wanted MORE time with the children. (Which, my ex/their sperm-donor, wanted LESS of??? oh yes.)

My lawyer was very clever... she said YES, and "What added day did he want??" (She knew!!! LOL)

That lasted three weeks, Missblyss.
He "failed" to pick them up at the daycare in time ($1.00/minute late-fees).

He "gave up" on all visits, by himself.

What *I* did (to keep myself from going nuts!!), was to find a new activity to fill in the time he would take them (on Saturdays). I joined a gospel choir (which took my mind off 'missing' them).
.. When he saw that I was eager for him to pick them up, so I could go to choir practice?? He stopped his Saturday visits.

It wasn't about "them"/his kids. Visitation was about "upsetting ME".

In conclusion!!…

TIME will tell on him, Missblyss.
Find a GRACEFUL and gentler way to handle yourself-- especially if YOU are the supervisor in the visits.

You must have Ceres/Persephone aspects (with your Pluto??), that lend to this "lesson" of needing to "share" the child?
(rhetorical question, mythology)

I wish you the BEST Luck, in ALL your issues of life.

posted July 21, 2018 12:54 PM            

I remember reading some of the early posts you made here years ago, when that same 'ex' was in your life, and putting you down so badly.

I want to say that I *admire* you for having gotten your life "together"!! It's inspirational for me (inside) to see another woman who "got up" and became Successful after the breakup.

You're just badass!!

posted July 21, 2018 07:26 PM            

i am blessed and grateful for your reply and for all your support and kind words.

what is interesting is that me, my husband, and my daughter all have leo ascendants!

i can relate so much to what you wrote about your ex because i believe that is the same motivation with my ex. he went months many times without so much as asking a single question about her or even attempting to see her. 6-10 months multiple times this happened!

he only has been trying to force the visits since my new partner has been in my life. he even told me in the past that he would take my daughter from me if i got with someone new.

i do believe he loves her, but i think his primary motivation is to hurt me... and it is working.

i am just WAITING for the ball to drop and for him to get arrested again and go away. i really think it is truly a matter of time before it happens, and i was thinking maybe the eclipse would bring this in. with the combo of mars retrograde and the eclipses, i was thinking it could be prime time.

btw my ascendant is at 19 degrees leo.my husband is at 2 degree leo.my daughter is at 4 degrees leo.

and thank you for the well-wishes. it is insane to believe how far i have come... from being in an abusive relationship, i am now with someone who loves me and treats me so amazingly well. we haven't even gotten in a fight! i have my son now too, who i dreamt of for many years. on top of that, my business is doing so well that my husband has been able to quit his job so we get to stay home and work together and be with our kids all day!

anyways, can't thank you enough for the interpretation.

it's so scary to know my daughter is with someone so volatile. she also really hates going on the visits and cries about it so often. i just know in my heart it won't last forever and i hope this is the time where it ends.

posted July 22, 2018 05:52 PM            

I'm an Idealist, and, I have a 'both feet on the ground' practical side too. Lots of real-life experience. As the song goes, "I've looked at life (and love) from BOTH sides now" …

Part of what's going on with the sky energies right now "could" have to do with 'legal' matters.

While Mars is retrograde in Aquarius, some astrologers advise that it is best NOT to be impulsive nor 'an instigator' when it comes to court matters? (to end of August)

If he were right now to "initiate" a court battle with you, chances are it would not go 'as well' for him? What I've heard is that "Defending" an issue (with a Mars retro Aqua event-chart) is thought to be the more-favored place (if that were to occur)? .. But then too, it depends on what's going on in ALL charts combined, plus, 'Having Faith in a God' that Sees and Knows, and Believing in Divine Providence.

There are times that I myself am GLAD I was never deeply into astrology while I was going-through it-- through all the custody fights, and other parts of the law I had to take on-- sometimes 'solo'. Actually, I still have ALL my court papers from all that.

You win pieces of it, and lose other pieces. I've never broken it all down astrologically, but, parts of my case made History in the state I lived in over that time. I got to call-up some influential players in the affairs of myself and my kids, who had told me to "give up" because it was 'too slim' that I'd make it-- and I said, "I told you so!!"

At one point, because I "refused" to for my matters to be 'thrown under the bus' by my lawyer's stale protocol 'cookie cutter' viewpoints, she surprised and "quit on me" with only 10 days to go in a VERY VERY complicated case. (I had paid her in-full already to represent me!!)

I had a business; marriage; children; and property to fight for.

I had to take all these things in my own hands.

One lawyer person I had called to ask for help, said she could not represent me, but she taught me the formula of "how" you present a case in court--
first you say what you're "going to" say.
Then, you say it.
Then you say what "you just said."

I took a few days off.
Went to the law library of the college I worked for. I looked up and read through all the pieces that pertained to my case, writing down the references inside the various "Titles", then went home to work it all out on my little inexpensive plain orange typewriter -- (the best catalog Christmas gift my parents granted me a wish for when I was around 14 years old!!).
.. I had to go and defend myself in front of the judge, alone.

The judge listened, even though I could tell 'in the beginning' that he 'especially-liked' the lawyer who had quit on me.

I was strong. I put myself in the role of lawyer, donning my wool navy-blue suit. I presented everything like the lady-lawyer had said to do it.

.. I watched the judge soften.
He was "actually" listening. At the end he said he understood in which ways I differed in viewpoint from the lawyer who quit on me. He also thought my viewpoints had merit. Then told me he "agreed" to hear my case, and to "get a lawyer."

Now, … I was used to watching Perry Mason-- I thought, THIS was "over"??, WHY does the judge want me to find another lawyer??? Afterall-- I had JUST already TOLD the judge everything????

Now, he wants me to do it all over AGAIN??, with a lawyer????

Laughed uproariously at myself AFTER I became MUCH more knowledgeable at what 'court' does!!!

The man who was in charge of the courts that day, came up to me on his own later, to let me know that I had done a really good job. He came to tell me that this judge had actually given me quite a 'compliment.'
.. The judge said I had a perspective about a side of (business) law that had 'merit'-- told the man (in an aside to him) that he would like to see that argued in a court of law some day.
(Was about the value and worth of a Name or Brand. Have seen that issue come up since that time, to be argued.)

Anyways.. I digress!
(Part of the reason for going into that 'reverie' is that I've been looking at my Vedic positions in the chart. {Shallow analysis by my self} had said that I could have had success as a lawyer!! (ROFL)
I don't think I'd be capable of that (with health problems I have now). But it was it was fascinating to find that!!!, and to be remembering what that judge said long ago.

In a super-strange way...
I thought you might appreciate the synchronicity of this...

I had read your post asking for help the day before I answered. WHILE I had you in mind, there was a news blurb on my local tv news that said a man (of your ex's character description) had been denied custody he was suing for, and got arrested too!!

Also..
I had been looking/wondering about my own neighbor who is putting up with her baby-daddy who won't leave her premises alone.
They have a daughter who is a stellium LEO 4-yr old.
Momma has had an injunction against him. (Had to also call police to arrest for abusing her, pictures of what he did.) She said she did not have the courage to 'set' the injunction of protection, because she is afraid that he will try to get custody of the child if she refuses to let him in the door to her premises. There's been a trend to be pro-father in some courts.

You have to have to TRUST and have "faith" that judges ARE aware of 'character' issues.
Judges are for doing what the law says, yes;
and, they are experienced and supposed to be able to judge 'character'-- able to be discriminating of what the right thing is, FOR the sake and welfare of 'the child'.

*fingers crossed?*
I would hope that were your baby-daddy to try to wrongly try to take your child, and he repeatedly proves to be a bad-person, that your experienced and trained judge would be able to "know the difference"??

I would MIGHTILY Pray for that.

Remember too... that your child has a chart.
There are things that she opted to have experiences doing in her lifetime???

AND!!

You have the option of PRAYING~Down some amazing Divine Interventions?

She's got a team of invisible (and visible) Angels assigned, that watch over her.

*~

I'm exhilarated to hear that your business is doing THAT well!! Double wows.

And yes, your little "Echo" is a Sag, and trines your partner's LEO, and his sister's, LEO ascendant.

Happy Home!!! {{ }}

I'm like you as far as liking Peace??
Some couples say it's good to have some fights.
I'm not into those... I prefer "Come, let us Reason together!!" after a good night's sleep on it.

posted July 22, 2018 06:44 PM            

Always be prepared.

Don't let your self be convinced that you can 'ignore' things you see that call your attention in subtle ways?

Gently, prepare ahead for any sudden turns or worse-case scenarios, SO THAT you do not get caught off-guard "emotionally" or mentally? That way, you will have worked-out the energies of that possibility, "in advance." May give you more of a proper edge. Your psyche will be more settled to handle what happens.

I'm NOT at all predicting things..

This is a "practical" manner of thinking to say to stay gently aware of various perspectives.

AND, EXPECT Best outcomes.

I'm sooo glad you have your partner (new husband) to support you through it all.