posted October 22, 2018 10:43 PM            

So I was living with my friend and his girlfriend for a month, I am trying to get my band up and running again with a different drummer, but he is already in a band. I told him if he cannot commit please do not waste my time. My drummer (not who I was living with) dropped out of school to pursue more time with his band and music. He has also been my new drummer for a year now. It seems the reason my band isn't going anywhere is solely my fault. Saying I need to find a job if I want to make this work, but I have had a job for the most part the entire time I have been here. We have been jamming for a year now but haven't gotten anything done. Before moving in I was living in my car and doing my own thing at my own time. I recently caught my friend in a lie. And I detest the hell out of liars. He has apologized for lying to me and says he still "loves" me. The entire time I have been working with this man I told him that I had to kick out my other two members before him because they were not nearly as talented as him, but they were more motivated. Being in two bands is not hard, especially when all you do is work and play around. Everyone who knows me, KNOWS that music is my life. It is the one thing that hasn't given up or ridiculed me. I told me drummer that if we don't get serious as a unit, his band and mine, that I am going back to Nashville. He didn't take that well and punched me in the face, we both started fighting each other in the car, then I leave the vehicle cursing at the top of my lungs. When I'm not looking my friend comes and slams me on the ground.

The next day rumors go around that I'm trying to smash my friend's girlfriend sister and her friend. When I not done anything but exsited. I have been lied on simply for the fact that I am a black man doing punk rock. I literally cannot stand being around people unless I'm high or making music. I am not a people person and it sucks because people tend to genuiely like me. I have had my style stolen, and people try to always copy my swag (I am not joking). I have been an entertainer for about 4-5 years now after my Youtube career. I am determined and I feel like no one has ever met someone as motivated as me when it comes to making music. I don't just want to be a bar band, or a band playing just for the sake of it. I have connections and I have talent, I am tired of wasting my time with people who can't get behind my vision but want to steal it. I am constantly asked why I like to be by myself and that's because people are nothing but drama. I don't even want a girlfriend right now because women annoy me after a couple of hours (sad but true). I physically and mentally do not know how people do it. I get exhausted from being around people for a day.

I don't know if I'll ever settle down or even have a relationship at this point. I want to get a job but I hate where I'm living currently. I feel like even when I get a job things still won't be taken seriously. I have been blessed to know someone with a beast recording studio who provides equipment for an entire band. I am done playing games, I want to go solo but the sound I want (Punk Rock) requires a bassist and drummer. I am fed up. Fed up with everything being my fault because I do what the **** I want when I want. If your going to use my connections and status the least you could do is show some ******* respect and come up with a drum riff or something for the band. Just because I am the lead singer and guitarist doesn't mean it's a one-man effort.

Thought I would post my Venus aspects since that's what rules relationships:

Venus Conjunct Neptune
Venus Conjunct Uranus
Venus Sextile Pluto
Venus in 3rd
Venus in Capricorn
7th house Taurus

posted October 23, 2018 12:27 AM            

What sign do you have your venus in?

posted October 23, 2018 03:22 AM            

It's pretty obvious that you have Neptunian/Piscean energy since you love music that much.
And short attention span is a Uranus/Aqua thing.
I feel you for being drained so easily thats also Neptunian, it's a problem I find on heavy Pisces/Neptune including myself and it is not common with other signs.

Having Neptune and Uranus conjuct my DSC I have obviously problem with relationships. All of them are platonic and I had mainly internet relationships, I haven't ever met anyone who had internet relationships, and the ones I've been in that kind of relationahip didn't initially wanted to, it just occured because we had some chemistry between us.

You vould try a distant relationship, probably you know Uranus is attracted in foreign/weird/different/original/indepedent/distant people.
You should find someone just like you
Heavy Uranus/Aqua and Moon in air or fire signs (excluding Leo I guess). Actually it would be natural for you to attract those people. Thinking about it though I attract people with Cap Venus conjuct Saturn and they genrally lack Uranus and Neptune aspects or they are looser than what their Saturn is to their Venus. Maybe that happens in order to balance out my Neptune and Uranus DSc? or because my DSc is in Capricorn?
What do you attract? Have you observed if there is a pattern in your case too?
Could you post your chart? I am wondering about your 5th and 7th H especially.

posted October 26, 2018 02:35 AM            

All this back/forth, round and round,up/down motion that I infer from reading your posts,suggests to me that I would not think a relationship ideal right now. If not downright impossible.

Your attention is also on your band and making it work and so the demands of a relationship will tax you. But as you put it, you "smash" and go. And so hey...we all got needs I guess.

If it happens that you get into a relationship, I think its likely to be someone who is at work or shares your aspirations somehow.

All you talk about is your band. And its a source of great preoccupation. Little else. I think playing "house" may seem appealing because your peers are doing that. But I don't think you ready yet. You are not settled emotionally imo.

I presume you have a stellium in the 3rd house(if not mistaken). That house is the busy, busy little bee!!!!

posted October 26, 2018 09:45 AM            

all kinds of artists are flakey, and if you havent gotten anything at all done that's not just on everyone else

are you writing songs by yourself? what's stopping you from picking up a bass and layering when you record? finding a bassline in a song while you play it on guitar and then just playing it on bass yourself would work just as well if you need it (and it's easy)

not to mention with just a guitar you can play a bassline as you strum and add percussion yourself by hitting different parts of the guitar in between for different tones (i've noticed wearing rings is helpful for getting a louder tone and different sounds when doing this)

so you're only limiting yourself really, it's not like punk has solid rules where everything's gotta sound like rancid or nofx with heavy power chords and ****

look at a band like gogol bordello, and there's a lot more innovative strumming techniques that allow for you to do more on your own

punk and music shouldnt exactly be limiting

it doesn't seem like you're doing things to make people want to work with you

roommates with girlfriends is a bad idea

my fiancee and i lived with a couple once and that all went to hell when we turned down the girl when she said if her relationship didnt work out the three of us should get together

i'll be honest i find your viewpoint on making music odd, because i cant imagine actually caring about being famous as opposed to a bar band or as opposed to just making music no one else even hears because it's all the same to me

what matters is making the music itself rather than anything else so i cant really grasp that sort of vision where what matters is results rather than music

relationships are work, not everyone is a relationship person

which is fine, just find a friend with benefits or hook ups then

in all honesty i get hard to work with and demanding vibes from you, higher expectations than what you put out

often people who go on about how much more serious they are than everyone else around them are mostly just overcompensating lack of action with a lot of words about their desires (because "more serious" often just means "stronger desires" not "more action towards a goal") not saying youre necessarily doing that

but it's common and the vibe i get from you

you being black seems irrelevant to me considering the afropunk scene exists

an old friend of mine from hs has been in and out of that scene for years

posted October 26, 2018 10:32 AM            

Venus conj Uranus--Commitment is really scary

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posted October 27, 2018 12:35 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by Radium:
u just told me I'll forever be single....

and im cool with that

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posted October 27, 2018 05:28 AM            

But even then, genuine leaders do attract people, they do not coerce ever.

posted October 27, 2018 06:27 AM            

quote:

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you seem demanding and tbh people who find other people really difficult are often usually the ones who are hard to be around

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This is often true.