posted January 07, 2019 05:03 PM            

it feels like giving an interview and unnatural to speak any different

people tell your their likes and dislikes eventually anyway whether or not you ask so there's no need

interrupts the flow of conversation to start asking questions like that, and i find it more interesting to see what people choose to tell me typically

i only ask questions to get someone talking if they're particularly sad because it directs their focus and people usually need that sort of **** when theyre upset and can't otherwise

then they can work through **** on their own better

posted January 07, 2019 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
I probably didn't come across clear with my question. Basically, when you do ask questions from a particular person, about them personally... Is it because you're sincerely interested in them or because you're just being Libra about it.

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posted January 07, 2019 05:47 PM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
Sorry but that is impossible to answer

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posted January 07, 2019 06:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
I probably didn't come across clear with my question. Basically, when you do ask questions from a particular person, about them personally... Is it because you're sincerely interested in them or because you're just being Libra about it.

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depends on the person, sometimes it's just for conversational purposes other times i'm interested

but part of finding out whether or not someone is of interest can be a process so i give people chances in case i change my mind

that's hard to answer though because it can depend on so many different things anyway

posted January 09, 2019 02:30 PM            

As ruler of Libra, it makes Libra sensitive to external sharp edges (with Taurus it works more internally) and makes them proactive in smoothing them out.

Awkward silent moments,someone saying something controversial,confrontational moments, falling /being humiliated in public,swearing etc. Are all the things that make Libra Asc cringe with embarrassment

So its an unconscious thing for them to act in a manner that seeks to smooth out rough edges or surfaces in their external environment (especially when it comes to relating with others)

Is it genuine interest in the other? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. But one can never really guess from the surface level.

posted January 09, 2019 04:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Venus is about smoothing out surfaces and creating cordiality.

As ruler of Libra, it makes Libra sensitive to external sharp edges (with Taurus it works more internally) and makes them proactive in smoothing them out.

Awkward silent moments,someone saying something controversial,confrontational moments, falling /being humiliated in public,swearing etc. Are all the things that make Libra Asc cringe with embarrassment

So its an unconscious thing for them to act in a manner that seeks to smooth out rough edges or surfaces in their external environment (especially when it comes to relating with others)

Is it genuine interest in the other? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. But one can never really guess from the surface level.

But you can always watch out for follow-up and consistency. If this is shown by them. Then that means that their interest in you is genuine. If they don't follow up, it was probably just them being cordial.

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i appreciate people who say controversial things, it keeps things interesting whether or not i like what they say

i can also enjoy conflict sometimes, usually not, but every so often i like a good argument

i swear all the time, so does my libra mother so does my libra brother

i follow up whether interested or not if i see a person more than once

edit: im also hard to offend or embarrass

posted January 09, 2019 07:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Venus is about smoothing out surfaces and creating cordiality.

As ruler of Libra, it makes Libra sensitive to external sharp edges (with Taurus it works more internally) and makes them proactive in smoothing them out.

Awkward silent moments,someone saying something controversial,confrontational moments, falling /being humiliated in public,swearing etc. Are all the things that make Libra Asc cringe with embarrassment

So its an unconscious thing for them to act in a manner that seeks to smooth out rough edges or surfaces in their external environment (especially when it comes to relating with others)

Is it genuine interest in the other? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. But one can never really guess from the surface level.

But you can always watch out for follow-up and consistency. If this is shown by them. Then that means that their interest in you is genuine. If they don't follow up, it was probably just them being cordial.

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Good point. However, I wonder if it's a good enough indicator? Like aren't they just curious about you cuz of your existence and the love for knowing stuff about people in general?

An example, the first time I met this guy he was just asking stuff about my life and whatever... When I told him to hit me up... He was on again with his 'interviewing' questions, jokingly saying 'you kinda owe me'.

posted January 10, 2019 09:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i appreciate people who say controversial things, it keeps things interesting whether or not i like what they say

i can also enjoy conflict sometimes, usually not, but every so often i like a good argument

i swear all the time, so does my libra mother so does my libra brother

i follow up whether interested or not if i see a person more than once

edit: im also hard to offend or embarrass

it takes a lot to make me cringe

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Well this was general(barring other aspects). I haven't met many Libra people who swear as part of their everyday vocabulary. Unless there is Mars/Uranus action is also happening. Most dont think it kosher. Especially when Saturn/Venus are in Libra.

Not all controversy is bad -especially that which seeks to expose unfairness. So Libra may be for that (unevolved Libras however could dislike any sort of tension for peace for peace sakes).

But there is a difference in being controversial when i say "I think gay marriage being legalised was long overdue".Most people will disagree with me ofcourse and the subject will garner criticism from others. Whilst conservatives may consider my support for gays "controversial".

But here, I am asserting a point for the "underdog". People that have been largely marginalised by society etc. Most Libras will support that because they like fairness.

But if I say "i dont think that that priest who was having sexual relations with children should be punished. He is a man of God and had no way of knowing that what he was doing is wrong."

The latter statement is controversial as well. But here, i am not for the underdog(children), I am for the privileged Priest who has acted unethically etc.

In such an instance,most Libras will not support that(few people would actually)because i am opposing the rights of someone. Infringing upon an individual (child) who can't speak for themselves. Libra is not for that and will be more vocal in their disapproval.

Plus there is a difference between sparring and arguing to a point of tension. Librans I know appreciate the former and avoids things getting to the latter.

Aries however wants it to get to the latter. Lol. Especially on a subject that they are personally invested in. They(Aries) lack objectivity many times.

If you follow up on an issue its because you care for the person and thus preserving the relationship(a Libra thing).

But it doesn't mean you care for the subject. Just the person. And since the subject affects the person you care for,you will follow up(whether you are interested in the subject personally or not)

What i fail to understand about many Libra people I have come into contact with however,is how they continue to mantain a relationship or friendship where they were/are clearly taken advantage of?

The latest is a friend of mine with Libra Sun and Moon whom befriended an Aries Sun/Leo Moon who betrayed him many times by sleeping with his partners. The friendship baffles me to no end.

The Libras justification for this continued loyalty is that the Aries " friendship" means so much to them. That they(Libra) treasure friendship above all else.

posted January 10, 2019 09:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Good point. However, I wonder if it's a good enough indicator? Like aren't they just curious about you cuz of your existence and the love for knowing stuff about people in general?

An example, the first time I met this guy he was just asking stuff about my life and whatever... When I told him to hit me up... He was on again with his 'interviewing' questions, jokingly saying 'you kinda owe me'.

So my question, perhaps he's just curious about people's lives in general? Without it being directed at me specifically, but rather to gather knowledge about human beings? You know what I mean?

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It could be. Libra is the sign of the"interviewer". Whilst Scorpio is the "interrogator". Plus Libra is social. Air signs like to know a little bit about everything. And with Gemini and Libra, their focus is usually titbits about people.

posted January 10, 2019 09:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Well this was general(barring other aspects). I haven't met many Libra people who swear as part of their everyday vocabulary. Unless there is Mars/Uranus action is also happening. Most dont think it kosher. Especially when Saturn/Venus are in Libra.

Not all controversy is bad especially that which seeks to expose unfairness. So Libra may be for that(unevolved Libras however could dislike any sort of tension for peace for peace sakes).

But there is a difference in being controversial when i say "I think gay marriage being legalised was long overdue".Most people will disagree with me ofcourse and the subject will garner criticism from others. Whilst conservatives may consider my support for gays "controversial".

But here, I am asserting a point for the "underdog". People that have been largely marginalised by society etc. Most Libras will support that because they like fairness.

But if I say "i dont that that priest who was having sexual relations with children should be punished. He had no way of knowing that that was illegal."

The latter statement is controversial as well. But here, i am not for the underdog(children), I am for the privileged Priest who has acted unethically etc.

In such an instance,most Libras will not support that(few people would actually)because i am opposing the rights of someone. Infringing upon an individual(child) who can't speak for themselves.

Plus there is a difference between sparring and arguing to a point of tension. Librans I know appreciates the former and avoids things getting to the latter. Aries however wants it to get to the latter. Lol. Especially on a subject that they are personally invested in. They(Aries) lack objectivity many times.

If you follow up on an issue its because you care for the person and thus preserving the relationshop(a Libra thing). But it doesn't mean you care for the subject. Just the person. And since the subject affects the person you care for,you will follow up(whether you are interested in the subject personally or not)

What i fail to understand about many Libra people. I have come into contact with however,is how they continue to mantain a relationship or friendship where they were/are clearly taken advantage of?

A friend of mine Libra Sun and Moon befriended an Aries Sun/Leo Moon who betrayed him manh times by sleeping with his partners. That baffled me to no end

The Libras justification for this continued loyalty is that the Aries " friendship" means so much to them. That they(Libra) treasure friendship above all else.

Well, I guess the Aries didn't get the memo. As the Aries only thinks for number one

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my venus is in libra conjunct ascendant, my older brother has a libra venus as well

i actually havent met many libras who were uptight but it could be cultural

i'm from nyc and profanity being mixed with every day speech is perfectly normal for the most part especially depending on area

i don't see either statement as something i would take issue with tbh, or be bothered by

i expect people to think all kinds of **** so it doesnt bother me when they do you know?

im fine with arguing to the point of tension if it's necessary, i'd rather not in a good deal of cases but sometimes i enjoy it

particularly when i dont care about the person (aries moon though)

that all being said i will put up with things that aren't positive with people and can be extremely forgiving

to me it feels unfair to hold one issue above all others or above someone's better qualities etc because i expect people to **** up, fall short, do **** that can be hurtful etc and i can sympathize with the behavior on some level if i know other **** about them and their insecurities issues etc

i take a lot into account is part of it, the other part of it is that i grew up with abuse being so commonplace that to me a lot of things just aren't a big deal ultimately and so i'll brush aside things other people might not as "that's how people are" with the idea that anyone who you let in will eventually hurt you in some way

posted January 10, 2019 09:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Good point. However, I wonder if it's a good enough indicator? Like aren't they just curious about you cuz of your existence and the love for knowing stuff about people in general?

An example, the first time I met this guy he was just asking stuff about my life and whatever... When I told him to hit me up... He was on again with his 'interviewing' questions, jokingly saying 'you kinda owe me'.

So my question, perhaps he's just curious about people's lives in general? Without it being directed at me specifically, but rather to gather knowledge about human beings? You know what I mean?

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could be that tbh, i find people in general just sort of interesting and like to know things about everyone i meet just for the purpose of knowing and understanding both them as individuals and people as a whole

it's honestly really hard to gauge that sort of thing though with libra because there's usually a lot of factors to weigh in on to get an answer and the answer is usually all of the factors rather than a singular conclusion

posted January 10, 2019 05:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
could be that tbh, i find people in general just sort of interesting and like to know things about everyone i meet just for the purpose of knowing and understanding both them as individuals and people as a whole

it's honestly really hard to gauge that sort of thing though with libra because there's usually a lot of factors to weigh in on to get an answer and the answer is usually all of the factors rather than a singular conclusion

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posted January 10, 2019 08:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
True, that's the feeling I got. That he's probably just interested in anyone.

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that doesnt mean he isn't interested in you though is the thing, he might still be deciding that takes time