posted April 14, 2019 07:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
the mars in aquarius guy i used to hook up with just brought it up by telling me he found me attractive and he wanted to have sex, so we talked a little about what we were into and had sex

we chilled a few times together before that

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posted April 14, 2019 08:02 PM            

he had a gf at one point i didnt know about until they broke up, but i knew he was ******* around with other people so it was no big deal because neither of us cared about that and i didnt tell him everything either

we'd just hang out and sometimes we'd have sex, usually if he didnt just straight up say it he'd stay over for a while it'd start getting late and if i got tired of hearing him talk so i'd initiate it that was about it

idk it was no big deal and really detached

edit: i actually found out about her because he asked me for a tarot reading and it was about their break up so when i read it we spoke about it

idk we didnt really bother with feelings and **** more than half the time we didnt even kiss

he did talk to other people about how much he liked me though, and he'd ask me to cuddle with him the times he slept over after that was about it

posted April 14, 2019 08:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
no games, it was casual i mean he was just a fwbs and it was mostly threesomes and there was a point where he wasnt our only fwbs

he had a gf at one point i didnt know about until they broke up, but i knew he was ******* around with other people so it was no big deal because neither of us cared about that and i didnt tell him everything either

we'd just hang out and sometimes we'd have sex, usually if he didnt just straight up say it he'd stay over for a while it'd start getting late and if i got tired of hearing him talk so i'd initiate it that was about it

idk it was no big deal and really detached

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posted April 14, 2019 08:19 PM            

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Originally posted by MMarie:
Hmmm maybe the detached is part of the Aqua mars trait. It’s interesting aqua combined with Mars since Mars is action and the “detached” quality is almost lack of action in a way? Laughed at the part of you initiating because you got tired of hearing him talk lol. Maybe he was talking until you made the move or maybe mars in aqua just like talking a lot lol.

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i think he'd talk hoping it would get somewhere, even though he started things off after that first time he had a hard time with initiating even when he wanted to

but he'd go on and on making noise (leo ascendant) and i'd feel like going to sleep so i'd shut him up with sex so i could because he'd just do that til the sun came up otherwise lol

he had an aqua sun too which added to it im sure, sag moon, cap venus (retrograde) and mercury

i dont think ive known any other aqua mars people he's the only mars ive been with that wasnt a water mars actually

posted April 14, 2019 08:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i think he'd talk hoping it would get somewhere, even though he started things off after that first time he had a hard time with initiating even when he wanted to

but he'd go on and on making noise (leo ascendant) and i'd feel like going to sleep so i'd shut him up with sex so i could because he'd just do that til the sun came up otherwise lol

he had an aqua sun too which added to it im sure, sag moon, cap venus (retrograde) and mercury

i dont think ive known any other aqua mars people he's the only mars ive been with that wasnt a water mars actually

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Hahaha I’m a Leo ascendant and can go on and on until the sun comes out! Actually have done that before. So funny...but can be the complete opposite at times and completely silent because of my Virgo mercury.

posted April 14, 2019 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by MMarie:
Hahaha I’m a Leo ascendant and can go on and on until the sun comes out! Actually have done that before. So funny...but can be the complete opposite at times and completely silent because of my Virgo mercury.

Yeah mars in aqua intrigues me because I can’t seem to grasp the way Aquarius operate yet but seems from your story that they may be a bit passive? I’ve known some aqua suns to be passive aggressive.

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he could be verbally forward, but not physically and then he was frustrating because he was an exclusive top right but then he may as well have not been because he also me to do most of the work most of the time

mightve been better if he didnt have all kinds of sexuality hang ups, but i tend to get guys who are curious or experimenting but uncomfortable with being bi so they all have this idea that it's "less gay" that way or whatever

anyway i only had sex with him because he'd come over and be there lol and after the first time it was just like "i guess we do this now so may as well" because i was always drunk and/or high too (just in general all day) and it was ok enough because even bad sex is still sex

i can talk a lot, but this was more like being talked at and about nothing

i'll talk to the right person all night

i'm surprised youre a virgo mercury usually they give me a headache (my mercury is leo) with the nit picking language and the 20 minute semantics discussion preceding what couldve been a 5 minute talk lol

but yeah there's an odd forward but passive thing that happens with aquarius in my experience even outside of sex just being friends too

i usually get along with aqua placements (my fiancee is an aquarius rising and i have a lot hitting uranus in my chart) but if this guy was a good representative of what theyre like in bed than nah

and it wasnt just me who felt that way, my fiancee and i agreed on it, and if he didnt spend the night and left after we'd have sex again with just each other and treat what happened with him like foreplay

posted April 14, 2019 09:03 PM            

he would talk about all of this **** he'd be into trying and then too passive to try it, which i found disappointing because im the kind of person who will try everything and anything that comes up if im ok with the idea of it

i dont actually have lines like that, and for someone to talk like they dont and then hold back was a disappointment too especially because ive gotten pretty used to my fiancee and i always indulging each other when we want to try something and there not being boundaries sexually like that

noticed that too

posted April 14, 2019 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
he was also more talk than action in bed in regards to fetishes too

he would talk about all of this **** he'd be into trying and then too passive to try it, which i found disappointing because im the kind of person who will try everything and anything that comes up if im ok with the idea of it

i dont actually have lines like that, and for someone to talk like they dont and then hold back was a disappointment too especially because ive gotten pretty used to my fiancee and i always indulging each other when we want to try something and there not being boundaries sexually like that

noticed that too

i'd have sex with another aqua mars but if it was more of the same id never want them to be the only person i was having sex with for an extended period of time

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posted April 15, 2019 04:05 AM            

I have a Mars in Aquarius and know some guys with this placement as well. I pursue more subtly. To me it's a mental stimulation and I would agree on the "idea of sex" is more fun than the actual sex. I enjoy the kinky stuff, but it's more in my head that I enjoy.

I often feel very detached at least emotionally. One night stands are no big deals to me. I don't get emotionally attached, not very often at least.

I come off VERY friendly so it's difficult to tell if I like you as a friend or as a romantic interest. The guys I know with this placement are the same. They say things that may seem romantic, but it's just being super personable. Or maybe they do like you... but I can never pick up on that.

I can be creepy with knowing information hahah or I might coincidentally know your interest. I tend to initiate often, but doesn't always mean I like the person. Sometimes I'll pay lots of attention and other times I can be distant - I read the situation and based on my 'feelings' sometimes go with the opposite flow of things. Like the guy seems really attached to me and if I like him, I won't necessarily heed to his every text and call, I sometimes just look at it and respond later. Other times, I respond ASAP. Though I tend to answer to questions about plans a lot rather than a random "how are you". I don't mean to come off as playing games or anything, it's just I don't feel like it's necessary to respond asap at times - I might be busy or it's not urgent - this is just how I think and I feel. There's no real rhyme or rhythm, I approach the guy case by case. So one guy I might be more attention grabbing and another one I might give some space.

It's real weird at times because situations work themselves out if I wait it out or play it out (initiate some action, but not carry it entirely so the people can meet me half way). And it just works. I do some strange things that's all I know - strange like call randomly (I usually never call people) or communicate through different mediums, or do a really nice gesture, but not like the person. I really get to know who my person of interest is since I like the mental stimulation and I enjoy their eccentricness. I try to get to know them far away and in your face. Usually I am NOT passive aggressive, but if the person is... I might play into that. I don't want to say I am entirely mirroring someone, but I def do my research on the person and get a feel for them/try to understand them and work accordingly. But that's for a guy I like. Dating and all that can be a different field -like I don't take it very seriously and I observe, but not necessarily like them. I know how to be friendly and be friendly, but I'm pretty bent on friend zoning people lol

posted April 15, 2019 05:54 AM            

I'm a Sag female Scorpio Moon and Aqua AC, my Mars is in Aqua 12th house: I enjoy mental stimulation rather than having actual sex and when I'm on it I'm very kinky in general. My favourite part is kissing, I enjoy that like if I was having sex.

I'm absolutely dettached, and when it comes to pursuit my goals, I never tell anybody about it, in secret.

My private life is absolutely private and tend to act under hidden actions.

posted April 15, 2019 06:34 AM            

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Originally posted by MMarie:
Weird because I’ve read Mars in Aqua are into fetishes/ kinky sex etc but interesting he didn’t want to follow through with it. You know I’ve read Mars in Aqua are sometimes more into the idea of sex or things like phone sex/ porn - mental stimulation turns them on more than the act or physical touch. Wonder if that’s true in some cases. Probably depends on individual charts and aspects. I’m curious what your mars is? I’ve been with an Aqua Mars before and it almost exact squared my Taurus Mars. He was a Cap sun so maybe helped a little with my Taurus Mars but definitely detached in some ways. But I’m pretty sure he has a Scorpio Moon or moon/ Pluto conjunction so that helps with passion. Kissing was great.

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yeah a lot of talk liked porn too, and that bored me because if i tell someone something i'm not listing things i think are interesting to watch

i didn't care that he was detached on an emotional level because i wasn't interested in him like that at all, and found it easier to not deal with feelings or anything like that, but i care when someone talks like they'll be a much better time than they are

i'm into rough sex he was into talking about it and then during sex he'd treat me like glass so it was disappointing and not my thing

i'm cool with talking, but without delivery it's just disappointment

my mars is in cap (conjunct neptune square venus/ascendant/south node in libra and square my aries moon/descendant/north node) 3rd house with placidus

this guy had a moon/pluto conjunction, but i mostly just got this feeling that he had some really ****** emotional **** and it didn't help with any kind of passion other than him having clear anger issues and holding grudges etc i never really got too deep with his emotional **** because we didnt really talk

we got along when it came to making music but only because we both enjoy doing that not because we connected heavily working together on ****

the mental stimulation without it getting physical was definitely true of him im not 100% on his mars aspects i'd have to check

posted April 15, 2019 07:48 AM            

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Originally posted by MMarie:
How does this Mars pursue someone? What are their traits?

Also, does a mars need to be aspected to want to pursue?

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My friend has Aqua Mars on the cusp of Pisces. And I see them both manifest in him. Mars in Aqua is turned on by the unusual or "weird". So the way they pursue someone will be unusual.

Erratic Uranus and very rational Saturn rule Aqua. So expect this individual to be an individual who enjoys solving mental puzzles, often confuses "sophistication" with "complexity" and tends to prefer the "unusual" approach in everything. If its intellectually challenging, they will engage.

How does Mars in Aqua pursue you? Recall all the Rom Coms you have watched? Delete them from reference in as far as Mars in Aqua is concerned. It will not happen in that way.

Expect "chumminess", expect to be taken to a pub and served German Beer on a first date instead of going to the movies. Expect the friends to join the "date" very early on, expect to go to a food fighting contest instead of a up market restaurant,go & join the "improvisation" team appearing on YouTube with dance moves instead of a night club etc. Just expect the unexpected really.

Friendship is the initial point of departure. So my guess is that they will not do the "flirtatious" things before that. The confidence to pursue you will be apparent after that.

So after that is covered,they will "close in" the same way that brethren Saturn ruled Cap does. Its a sure & unambiguous pursuit to get what they want. The more.intellectually stimulating the chase,the better.

What I do admire about Mars in Aqua is how faithful they can be when they get the person they want. Unlike many, Aqua is very clear about how difficult it is to find an intellectual "equal". So when they do, they hold on for dear life

posted April 15, 2019 10:47 AM            

I'm neither detached nor do I enjoy mental stimulation more than the real thing, actually I have met people who wanted to just have mental sex and sooner or later I felt like it was going nowhere.

The only things I can relate to about Mars in Aqua is teamwork, I've never minded doing the dirty work for the team in Sports while others take the credit, and another thing is getting off on mental stimulation in a weird way, I for one always enjoyed cheating in exams, the stricter the rules and invigilators, the more I enjoyed, and I rarely got/get caught. Atleast I don't enjoy cheating in relationships, so thank god for that, atleast not as much, hehh(Gemini Moon and Piscean Placements...Knock!! Knock!! Who's there??!! )!!...

posted April 21, 2019 04:50 PM            

I’ve been been with my bf since May 2015. Moved in with him after a year of dating.

I definitely need to get off regularly. I function better as a person. When I’m not getting off, I feel way less confident, awkward, vonerable and paranoid around people.

posted April 22, 2019 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
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