posted April 24, 2019 09:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
looking for a sugar daddy?

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Lol actually I was asking because I wanted to know if a friend of mine had the aspects or placements in their chart. Sometimes I wish that one day we could live together. But I know I would be the one paying for mostly everything. I just wonder if their the type who wants someone to take care of them.

posted April 24, 2019 09:44 PM            

i'd be cool with it, also have strong libra (him and i both have a 7th house north node btw, though his moves to the 8th house in whole sign) in my chart and my fiancee is more work focused than i am but in my case there's health issues as part of the equation and at other times in our relationship that wasnt the case

so libra with any kind of focus on the 7th house seems to help with that

posted April 25, 2019 01:53 AM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Financially or just wanting someone to take care of them in general. As in providing a place for them to stay? In a man's chart.

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I think Pisces/Taurus/Cancer/Libra placements can attract someone who wants to be taken care of in that way OR themselves be the type who want that.

Pisces in 7th-Can mean spouse wants to be taken care of.

Taurus in 7th-Can mean the spouse is well off

Cancer in 7th-Spouse likes to be "babied".

Libra in 7th- Spouse expects you to take the lead.

Moon in Pisces-Can have a "savior" syndrome.

Moon in Taurus-Enjoys pampering and spoiling spouse

Moon in Cancer-Enjoys "babying" the spouse.

Moon in Libra-Enjoys support from spouse and can themselves provide support equally.

Ruler of 2nd in 7th-Relies on partner for physical security

Ruler of 1st in 7th-Depends on partner's efforts for direction.

Ruler of 12th in 7th-Tend to attract partners who are not independent or need to be "lead".

Ruler of 4th in 7th- Rely on partner for emotional security/room and boarding.

Ruler of 7th in 12th-Partners with dependency tendencies.

Ruler of 7th in 2nd-Partner tends to rely on them for money.

Ruler of 7th in 1st- Partner follows your lead and counts on your efforts.

Ruler of 7th in 4th- Partners rely on them for emotional security or may want to move in.

Venus in Pisces-Can fall for the "needy" types

Venus in Cancer-Derives joy in meeting needs of partner

Venus in Taurus-Can fall for those more financially "capable" than they are to provide

Venus in Libra-Can fall for those who want to go for the "idealistic" 50/50.

Since the 8th also deals with partner's resources(2nd from the 7th), I would say that ruler of the 2nd in 8th would suggest ones physical security(2nd) is dependent on partner's money(8th).

Ruler of 8th in 1st/2nd suggests your partners physical security depends on your efforts(1st) or money(2nd).

Ruler of your 6th in your 7th/8th suggests you may be a burden(6th) to your partners efforts(7th) or money(8th)

Ruler of 8th in 12th suggests that your partner's materialistic needs may be a burden/undermine you. They are an "expense"(your 12th).

Note also that the universe tends to balance people who want to be taken care of and those who want someone to take care of. There is a "yin" and "yang" to this.

So one shouldn't feel "bad" if they desire a partner to take care of them as there is likely someone out there for them who will derive great joy in doing this.

There is Cap Asc/Moon in Scorpio guy I know who doesn't want his Moon in Cancer wife to work(at all). He wants to be the TOTAL provider and thwarts her efforts to be independent of him because he says he likes having her home.

He also has Mars in Capricorn so he derives sexual pleasure from being with a woman who is as passive and feminine as his wife is(she has Mars in Libra).

I see her having to work on a way for them to come to a compromise long-term as he can be very domineering. I think her Asc probably puts her Mars in 12th as she compromises a lot. But that's the lesson with Mars in Libra i.e learning not to give so much for fear of escalating tension.

To others(and myself), he seems(and probably is) a chauvinist. But it seems that the set-up makes him feel "needed" and validates his role in the partneship. I think there are psychological issues amiss imo that have him behave so ultra "macho".

Far be it from me however to judge their relationship as the wife has yet to challenge this set-up(overtly) for the many years they have been together.

She for instance also believes in the whole "wife must submit to husband" philosophy and so this situation serves her as not everyone (contrary to what I may protest) wants 50/50.

posted April 25, 2019 06:28 AM            

i have mars in capricorn and find submissive women boring, i like physical femininity but passivity doesn't do it for me

i've taken care of my fiancee financially in the past that never bothered me, but i just see that as being part of a relationship sometimes life having its ups and downs people take care of each other