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ChildofVenus
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posted July 08, 2019 01:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So my parents like the Gemini guy I guess it's probably because they are both Gemini's? My mom is always saying how she thinks he's nice. My mom knows that he makes music and she's always asking me about his music. She wants to see him play and get's upset with me when I don't let her listen to his music. It's making me feel a certain way now. Because we aren't dating and we aren't in a relationship. At first, it was my mother but now my dad is saying that he likes him. The other day my dad told me that I need to make up my mind before someone else get's him. That kind of made me upset. And it's hard for my dad to actually have a good feeling about a guy. But I can't just force something to happen. Sometimes my parents talk to him when they see him where he works at the store. And so sometimes they mention him to me. They see things like "I saw your boyfriend at the store today" It's annoying because I'm not with the guy. Should I tell the Gemini about what my parents have been saying about him? This is the first time they have ever done this. I just feel like they are both intruding but I don't understand why.

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posted July 09, 2019 12:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for DualGemV2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Its Ironic because one of my coworkers I really get along with is a Taurus with Gemini parents..although she's old enough to be my mother, lol.

I was shocked when she told me her she remembers my birthday because its two days before her fathers...and her mother was a may born.

As per your predicament..I don't like what I see its as if all three of them are conspiring as if your an item with that guy and would make a good fit.

Don't know who started it...all I know is if you put three Geminis in a room and one gosips the remaining two will go along.

Best thing to do is make yourself appear busy...then it makes it easier to a Gemini to realize a relationship is out of the question.

...there's still plenty of summer left..take on a hobby and make yourself appear unavailable time wise.

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posted July 12, 2019 08:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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So my parents like the Gemini guy I guess it's probably because they are both Gemini's? My mom is always saying how she thinks he's nice. My mom knows that he makes music and she's always asking me about his music. She wants to see him play and get's upset with me when I don't let her listen to his music. It's making me feel a certain way now. Because we aren't dating and we aren't in a relationship. At first, it was my mother but now my dad is saying that he likes him. The other day my dad told me that I need to make up my mind before someone else get's him. That kind of made me upset. And it's hard for my dad to actually have a good feeling about a guy. But I can't just force something to happen. Sometimes my parents talk to him when they see him where he works at the store. And so sometimes they mention him to me. They see things like "I saw your boyfriend at the store today" It's annoying because I'm not with the guy. Should I tell the Gemini about what my parents have been saying about him? This is the first time they have ever done this. I just feel like they are both intruding but I don't understand why.

Obviously, I missing some backstory here. What is the deal with the Gemini guy? Is he just a friend? Is he just some guy you are sleeping with (no strings attached?) I'm trying to figure out why you introduced him to your parents when you don't seem too thrilled about having him in your life. I'm not sure whether you dislike him just because your parents like him or whether there is something off putting about him.

What exactly are you going to complain to the Gemini guy about regarding your parents? Are you going to complain that your parents really like him? He's going to think you are strange for complaining about that. Based on your post, it doesn't sound like your parents spoke poorly of him behind his back, so there is nothing for him to be upset over.

Why not let your mom listen to his music? That doesn't sound like an unreasonable request. If you know his style of music will offend her, then just give her a warning and she can make her own decision.

I'm trying to sympathize with your situation (I really am), but I just don't know what you're hoping will happen here. You need to ask yourself how you feel about this Gemini guy. Do you like him as just a friend? If so, just tell your parents this," I'm glad you like him, but I would appreciate it if you would stop referring to him as my boyfriend since I am not in a relationship with him. I don't think of him in that way. We are just friends and that's it."

Just be direct and straightforward, but you can only do this when you have sorted out your feelings regarding the Gemini guy.

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posted July 12, 2019 07:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's just a mess I think I messed everything up. I told the Gemini how my parents really likes him. And that I think they wanted me to date him. That my mom was happy when she found out we had actually gone out. I only told him this because sometimes my parents see him where he works and will talk to him. And I wanted him to be prepared in case if they addressed him in a certain way.

So now he thinks that I want to be in a relationship with him. He said that he enjoyed our time together but that he thinks that it should just be a one time thing. And that he never meant to pretend or make me think it was going somewhere. And that he didn't mean to hurt my feelings but That it was just two friends enjoying an evening together. Then he adds that he thinks I'm attractive and he loves my body that I'm stunning. And says my pictures are amazing and that he will always be grateful to accept any pictures from me.

I replied telling him that I didn't want to be in a relationship and that all I want is sex. That he didn't hurt my feelings and that he hasn't lead me on at all. He hasn't read my message as of yet. But this is just all a misunderstanding it's a miscommunication. Now I wish I wouldn't have said anything to him about my parents. Because it has ruined our sex thing I hate it because I really wanted more sex with him. But I still have the Virgo though thank goodness this is why I didn't want to cut the Virgo off in case something like this happened.

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posted July 14, 2019 02:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
It's just a mess I think I messed everything up. I told the Gemini how my parents really likes him. And that I think they wanted me to date him. That my mom was happy when she found out we had actually gone out. I only told him this because sometimes my parents see him where he works and will talk to him. And I wanted him to be prepared in case if they addressed him in a certain way.

So now he thinks that I want to be in a relationship with him. He said that he enjoyed our time together but that he thinks that it should just be a one time thing. And that he never meant to pretend or make me think it was going somewhere. And that he didn't mean to hurt my feelings but That it was just two friends enjoying an evening together. Then he adds that he thinks I'm attractive and he loves my body that I'm stunning. And says my pictures are amazing and that he will always be grateful to accept any pictures from me.

I replied telling him that I didn't want to be in a relationship and that all I want is sex. That he didn't hurt my feelings and that he hasn't lead me on at all. He hasn't read my message as of yet. But this is just all a misunderstanding it's a miscommunication. Now I wish I wouldn't have said anything to him about my parents. Because it has ruined our sex thing I hate it because I really wanted more sex with him. But I still have the Virgo though thank goodness this is why I didn't want to cut the Virgo off in case something like this happened.


Oh! Ok, this makes more sense. I'm sorry all of this miscommunication happened. You did the right thing in warning him about your parents, but I would've told him everything in one single message before giving him a chance to reply. Don't worry about it though.

In the future, it's best to just tell the guy up front what you are looking for. The best time to say something is when he asks you out or sometime during the first date. Say something like "Just so you know, I'm looking for just sex; I'm not interested in a relationship." This prevents a lot of confusion later on.

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posted July 14, 2019 06:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Oh! Ok, this makes more sense. I'm sorry all of this miscommunication happened. You did the right thing in warning him about your parents, but I would've told him everything in one single message before giving him a chance to reply. Don't worry about it though.

In the future, it's best to just tell the guy up front what you are looking for. The best time to say something is when he asks you out or sometime during the first date. Say something like "Just so you know, I'm looking for just sex; I'm not interested in a relationship." This prevents a lot of confusion later on.


I did tell him upfront that I just wanted to be friends with benefits. But I guess telling him about my parents made him think I want more. But I replied telling him that I’m not interested in having a relationship and that I only want sex I hope he understands.

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