posted August 03, 2019 06:59 PM            

I have always been this way, I have never not been this way. Its a freaking curse...

DC in gemini
Mercury in Virgo RX
Mercury in the 9th house!

posted August 03, 2019 07:12 PM            

And I don't even label it a relationship but once we connect on that level, its just that deep need to be in each other presence that drives it into a relationship or whatever it is called, it's very magnetic and intoxicating. Its like unbearable not to be together so it results in a union regardless.

posted August 03, 2019 07:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
I personally don't have this dilemma and never had it because I only get in a relationship if I am head over heels in love, otherwise I don't get sucked into a tie with another, needs to be a vey strong pull. If I am only mildly attracted, I don't invest my energy at all, its basically nothing, a flat line. I never do the "give it a try" thing, I already know it if I want it or not.

And I don't even label it a relationship but once we connect on that level, its just that deep need to be in each other presence that drives it into a relationship or whatever it is called, it's very magnetic and intoxicating. Its like unbearable not to be together so it results in a union regradless.
I have strong Neptune in my chart and chart ruler and Venus in the 8th.
I also have strong Virgo Mercury in my chart located in my 7th house (also it rules my DC) so my person would have checked a long list of requirements hence clicking the final button.

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I have gotten involved in relationship were I was head over hills (with my ex) and the pull was magnetic even a decade later and like you I know when I want someone but wanting someone and committing to be in a long term relationship are different things and you DONT LIVE with your boyfriend, it sounds like you don't move in so that makes a huge a difference.

posted August 03, 2019 07:25 PM            

I think I need like a best friend who is my lover but is a long term arrangement and we hang out weekly and we don't live together but we travel and go on road trips and are basically boyfriend and girlfriend without the label. I think that is probably the ideal arrangement for me.

posted August 03, 2019 07:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
yes, you are absolutely right. Just writing " committing to a long term relationship" gave me a rash. I don't want to promise anything for a decade ahead. But I am going to be totally committed for the time being and I will not have doubts about it because I already know that I love to be with my person, in fact I need to be with them. For the time being. No promises for next year or a life time. But for now I am all in, no doubts or fears or question marks.

p.s. My DC ruler conjuncts Pluto in my 7th house at 0 degree so I am like all in or not at all.

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I get what you mean! I like your style.

posted August 03, 2019 11:01 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Nope, can't promise a decade or marriage, but I don't think of ending it, hell I've never really ended any relationships, they wanted out, and I left after that. I don't believe in making promises and vows and all that crap tho, been with those who made it and sooner or later they forgot about it, and thats usually the "See?? " moment for me ~
Hell Om a lot younger than you tho, so lets see.. lol

But then again Om a Taurus DSC, Ruler Venus in 5th .
Nothing in 7th, just SN, which is opposite Pluto so I seem to keep getting into relationships with people who have planets either near my NN or SN .

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posted August 03, 2019 11:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
This always happens to me, unaspected uranus in the 7th. I'm terrified to get into a committed relationship but yet I yearn for that deep connection. I'm currently in a relationship that started really fast, the pull was too strong and now I'm doing the hot and cold thing where I desperately want my own space and freedom but I don't want to be alone either... WTF!? Where is uranus in your chart?

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I think it can be explained very well by the aspects I mentioned.

As for Uranus I have Jupiter as my chart ruler conjunct exact Uranus both in Sagittarius at 5 degrees.

I also have Venus Sentagon Jupiter and Uranus. The sentagon is a 100 degree aspect but is used more in predictive astrology.

Now perhaps this also plays a role, my draco Uranus is in Virgo at 16d00 which would conjunct my tropic Mercury in Virgo at 17d12 which is my DC ruler as mentioned before and falls in my 9th squaring my nodes. Then add my draco Juno is in aquarius and I have jupiter conjunct uranus inconjunct Juno.

posted August 04, 2019 01:54 AM            

I also don't know how I'd get used to someone else, after being single for so long. I have Uranus conjunct my ascendant, and it aspects a lot of my chart, so I'd need to be with someone who doesn't need to be attached at the hip.

I used to be acquainted with a couple who were very happy when they were long-distance. Once they were in the same country and able to live together for more than a few months, adding in a baby they both wanted, they broke up (about two years after he was able to move to her country).

posted August 04, 2019 02:21 AM            

So all relationships are in effect a "trap". One must just choose the "trap" they can stane.And I think planets in 7th(and perhaps 5th house in Libra/Venus or Taurus) tend to make us more dependent.

Also possible is when the Ic/2nd house ruler is in the 7th, has Venus there or is ruled by Venus. Or the ruler of the 7th is in the 2nd/Ic and perhaps Venus in 2nd or on the Ic.

Venus in Taurus
Venus in Libra
Moon in Libra

With the aforementioned,the native can be vulnerable to the peaks & troughs of being with a partner. That is a prison too as dependency is disempowerment when taken too far.

The ones that insist ln maintaining independence can be saved from this constant need to "please". They may look at relationships as something "separate" from them and not something inextricably combined with their being(provided that the mentioned planets do not rule or are nowhere near the 2nd house or 4th house)

Pluto in 7th/Scorpio 7th
Neptune in 7th/Pisces 7th
Uranus in 7th/Aqua 7th
Saturn in 7th/Capricorn 7th
Jupiter in 7th/Sag 7th
Mars in 7th/Aries 7th
Mercury in 7th/Virgo or Gemini 7th

posted August 04, 2019 02:39 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
And how old are you?

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posted August 04, 2019 04:05 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
^Also in addition to my DC ruler falling in the 9th house my chart ruler is jupiter conjunct exact Uranus so I have a strong desire to feel free! that doesn't help either.

I think I need like a best friend who is my lover but is a long term arrangement and we hang out weekly and we don't live together but we travel and go on road trips and are basically boyfriend and girlfriend without the label. I think that is probably the ideal arrangement for me.

I wasn't born to be a wife, I am suppose to be free.

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posted August 04, 2019 08:51 AM            

Yeah, sure, I need my space... I wanna still be able to hang out with friends or do my own stuff but mostly I wanna be with him and doing things with him.

posted August 04, 2019 03:16 PM            

The day we got Married:

Tr Juno conjuncted his Jupiter exact
Tr Jupiter conjuncted my Juno exact

Tr Isis was conjunct Tr Osiris on his Northnode and my Valentine.

Tr Northnode was on my AC exact, Tr Southnode on my DC exact.
Tr Northnode was conjunct exact our composite chart Ruler.

posted August 10, 2019 07:48 AM            

If you find someone who respects you, who you admire, who brings the best out of you, who you can talk to for hours, and who you can always depend on.. why not?

Now, I do have to still have Independence and my own life in a relationship. I can not be with someone who needs to be around me 24/7. My ideal partner respects this and is the same way.

posted August 10, 2019 12:08 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
TBF I don't regret getting married, its complicated and I am complicated (wish I wans't) and if I end up getting a divorce I will not see my marriage as a failure, I will walk away not regretting my marriage. He is a part of me and has been a big part of my journey and we were meant to get married.

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Wish that ppl could consider marriage in this manner. Like your attitude.

I am Canc sun 7th, also DC gem, but my sun is intercepted.

I would like to have a stable partnership, but truth is that I subconsciously from anything serous. I know myself how subordinate I am and so many times I've lost my integrity. Still didn't learn.... or came across partner with whom I will grow.