posted September 07, 2019 01:47 PM            

I am a very sensitive and very affectionate person (Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Venus).

I was adopted with 7 years by a Pisces woman and an Aquarius man.
Neither of them was affectionate, and they both have a lot of Virgo influence (my adoptive mother is Pisces with Virgo ascendant, and my adoptive father is Aquarius with Luna Virgo), so I've also had a life where I've been extremely criticized.
All that has been killing my soul.

In my home country I had a brother (Capricorn Sun, Leo Luna), but when I was adopted I never heard from him again.

So I have grown totally alone, without a single hug, with nothing ...

I have felt on a glacier since I was adopted.

It has been a horrible existence. The problem is that all this has been engraved on my skin.

posted September 07, 2019 02:20 PM            

what other people failed to do for you has nothing to do with your future or connections you'll make in the future if you allow other people in (unless you let it)

i get the trauma leaves its scars, know that well, but at the end of the day it's all on you to dwell or move forward (however hard moving forward is)

posted September 07, 2019 02:41 PM            

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Originally posted by WhiteBirds:

Hello everyone. I've been thinking about opening this thread, and here I go.

I am a very sensitive and very affectionate person (Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Venus).

I was adopted with 7 years by a Pisces woman and an Aquarius man.
Neither of them was affectionate, and they both have a lot of Virgo influence (my adoptive mother is Pisces with Virgo ascendant, and my adoptive father is Aquarius with Luna Virgo), so I've also had a life where I've been extremely criticized.
All that has been killing my soul.

In my home country I had a brother (Capricorn Sun, Leo Luna), but when I was adopted I never heard from him again.

So I have grown totally alone, without a single hug, with nothing ...

I have felt on a glacier since I was adopted.

It has been a horrible existence. The problem is that all this has been engraved on my skin.

I do not know what to do. I feel my soul died. Nothing is the same after experiencing the coldness of Aquarius, while I grew up in my most vulnerable years.

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I mentioned in another thread how the Moon conditions itself to the early environment. This whether the environment is "good" or "bad".

The interesting thing is that the chart will show it. And I have always wondered how adoption plays out? As if our destiny is "pre-paved"?

posted September 14, 2019 05:07 PM            

My only advice is to determine that you will be with someone who loves and appreciates you as you are and shows it with daily affection. You can communicate this to the universe in moments of calm, meditative peaceful focus. This is something anyone can do, but for you I think it is especially important and empowering as a way to put the past fully behind you.

In the meantime you don't have to wait passively for what you will get for yourself. You can give love and affection to others as a way of expressing that this is who you are and you recognize it is part of being human and happy. Maybe you like working with children and can give this to them?

You might even benefit from some type of hypnosis (even a self-guiding audio) to heal from this. I also recommend the stone Larimar (Dolphin Stone) as the best, most healing gem/crystal for anyone who did not get enough mother love. Lie down with a 1-2" piece of it on your chest and relax into deep breathing for 10-15 minutes. I am confident you'll start to feel its healing, deeply meditative effects. You can even use such a session to co-create with the universe a mate like I mentioned.

You can make your life and relationships the way you want them to be. Step outside the neglect and pain and back into who you really are inside.

posted September 15, 2019 04:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
I'm sorry to hear that is what your home life was like growing up.

My only advice is to determine that you will be with someone who loves and appreciates you as you are and shows it with daily affection. You can communicate this to the universe in moments of calm, meditative peaceful focus. This is something anyone can do, but for you I think it is especially important and empowering as a way to put the past fully behind you.

In the meantime you don't have to wait passively for what you will get for yourself. You can give love and affection to others as a way of expressing that this is who you are and you recognize it is part of being human and happy. Maybe you like working with children and can give this to them?

You might even benefit from some type of hypnosis (even a self-guiding audio) to heal from this. I also recommend the stone Larimar (Dolphin Stone) as the best, most healing gem/crystal for anyone who did not get enough mother love. Lie down with a 1-2" piece of it on your chest and relax into deep breathing for 10-15 minutes. I am confident you'll start to feel its healing, deeply meditative effects. You can even use such a session to co-create with the universe a mate like I mentioned.

You can make your life and relationships the way you want them to be. Step outside the neglect and pain and back into who you really are inside.

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posted September 15, 2019 04:34 AM            

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Originally posted by WhiteBirds:

Hello everyone. I've been thinking about opening this thread, and here I go.

I am a very sensitive and very affectionate person (Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Taurus Venus).

I was adopted with 7 years by a Pisces woman and an Aquarius man.
Neither of them was affectionate, and they both have a lot of Virgo influence (my adoptive mother is Pisces with Virgo ascendant, and my adoptive father is Aquarius with Luna Virgo), so I've also had a life where I've been extremely criticized.
All that has been killing my soul.

In my home country I had a brother (Capricorn Sun, Leo Luna), but when I was adopted I never heard from him again.

So I have grown totally alone, without a single hug, with nothing ...

I have felt on a glacier since I was adopted.

It has been a horrible existence. The problem is that all this has been engraved on my skin.

I do not know what to do. I feel my soul died. Nothing is the same after experiencing the coldness of Aquarius, while I grew up in my most vulnerable years.

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I'm so sorry about your painful childhood! People, especially children, need a lot of physical affection and you didn't receive any.

One thing to keep in mind is that virgo-influenced people often show affection through criticism. It's their attempt to show you that they care; they want to be of service to others. The more evolved ones learn to balance the criticism with praise and at least occasional physical affection. Unfortunately, your adoptive parents were far too critical of you and didn't balance their harshness with displays of physical affection.

I don't know your adoptive parents, but for the sake of helping you move past this rough childhood, try to think of their criticism as a misguided attempt at showing you how much they cared.

You cannot change what has already happened, but you do have control over your present and future. Please know that you ARE enough. You deserve to be loved and cherished. You are worthy of being treated with kindness and respect. Even though you say your soul is dead, I can tell you that your soul is still there and you are a very gentle person. Don't let the tragedy of your childhood rob you of your humanity. It's not worth it.

You can still find physical affection though friends and a supportive significant other. My father abandoned me as a child and said he didn't love me. This hurt immensely, but I was blessed with teachers, friends, and neighbors who treated me far better than my father ever did. This helped significantly with my childhood pain. I think this would also work for you. Surround yourself with people who love you and adore you. Stay away from the negative people.

posted September 15, 2019 05:37 AM            

I'm sorry to hear you've have not been nurtured or loved as you needed for so long.

To add to Kannon's excellent suggestions I would suggest you do your reiki 1 also. Firstly, one the beautiful things about reiki is it is "hands on" healing, hence those who need to feel love through touch, will benefit simply from the warmth and kindness of another's hands upon them.

It will also release some of your trauma and give you self-healing tools. Most likely you will also make some great friends, as people open up when experiencing this kind of healing in a group.

I believe we choose our lessons prior to incarnation (and believe me I've found this hard to believe lately myself!) and so looking at your experience objectively and in terms of what you want to offer the world, on the basis of this, may help bring you some clarity and faith. ♥

Finally, please do not associate this behaviour with Aquarius. I am Aquarius and incredibly huggy (though not so much with strangers and I grew up with little affection and reassurance too). Most Aquarians I know are very demonstrative and huggy too. This isn't an Aquarius trait, this is somebody not learning from their own pain and repeating it. You can break the cycle, and perhaps help him to one day also. ♥

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