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Leo-Cancer98
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posted September 16, 2019 07:31 PM
  
Necessarily mean that they're happy, or in love with the person? I've been single my whole life, so I would not know how difficult it is to breakup with somebody. I've read that it once took a guy, 2 years, to officially decide to
terminate his relationship with his girlfriend. ------------------
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Dons2angelss
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posted September 16, 2019 08:40 PM
Very true. There are relationships of convenience that lack love. Some stay for financial reasons, kids, or they think they have no other options. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted September 16, 2019 09:02 PM
Are you asking that because you're single ? Or is it because you wanna know ?IP: Logged |
DualGemV2
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posted September 16, 2019 09:17 PM
They say a relationship is a partnership because it involves two people, it takes one person to drive another person into the ground.My Cancer parents aren't capable of doing some of the most basic tasks without having the other one. I could see both of them dying within close proximity of each other. The more independent signs don't depend on people and can live successfully without needing another person. My Cancer parents want me to be that type of person thats dependent on another person, tough luck!!!. Mr. Gemini here is truly a jack of all trades and can do everything himself with youtube training and skillshare on almost everything. All Mr Gemini needs is that and his loyal brown Pisces female tabby cat that can intuitively read his mind and communicate with him telepathically. My Planets
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teasel
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posted September 16, 2019 10:10 PM
I need people, but not in a romantic relationship - although it would be nice to have one of these great romances that is also a solid relationship. I've been feeling down - had too much time having to stay still and rest, over the past week - and lonely, because I haven't seen my dad much, and couldn't leave the house. I miss my mother, my sister, and the friends I used to have in person. I'm too isolated, and do need people. There are a lot of people who stay in relationships, thinking it's better than being single. They make that relationship their everything, like my sister. IP: Logged |
TeaBags
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posted September 17, 2019 06:20 AM
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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
Very true. There are relationships of convenience that lack love. Some stay for financial reasons, kids, or they think they have no other options.
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anonymidarkness
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posted September 17, 2019 07:17 AM
^ TeaBags...Hahha... I like your name.IP: Logged |
Dee
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posted September 17, 2019 08:14 AM
Like another poster said some stay for financial reasons. I know lots of women who chose homelessness rather than stay with their husbandsIP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted September 17, 2019 11:49 AM
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Are you asking that because you're single ? Or is it because you wanna know ?
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Kannon McAfee
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posted September 17, 2019 04:03 PM
"Love" is a very gooey, sticky, stretchy, subjective term that means whatever the person can give / receive at the moment. People go into relationships wanting them to grow and hopefully fulfill both people's hopes or needs. They can rarely fulfill both people's expectations. Compromise is the art of relationship. So yes, there are many reasons people stay in relationships where the "flame" seems to have gone out. But then some people are addicted to being in fire (with passion) all the time as a way of getting their energy from others (co-dependency). What is better -- bailing when the fire seems to go out or looking for ways to start a new one with the same person? We most often put out our own fire with the fate of our own expectations. ------------------
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TeaBags
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posted September 17, 2019 05:19 PM
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^ TeaBags...Hahha... I like your name.
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teasel
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posted September 17, 2019 08:04 PM
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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
"Love" is a very gooey, sticky, stretchy, subjective term that means whatever the person can give / receive at the moment. People go into relationships wanting them to grow and hopefully fulfill both people's hopes or needs. They can rarely fulfill both people's expectations. Compromise is the art of relationship. So yes, there are many reasons people stay in relationships where the "flame" seems to have gone out. But then some people are addicted to being in fire (with passion) all the time as a way of getting their energy from others (co-dependency). What is better -- bailing when the fire seems to go out or looking for ways to start a new one with the same person? We most often put out our own fire with the fate of our own expectations.
There are more reasons than that, for people to not be happy in a relationship. I didn't even think about the flame going out. Some stay, because that flame is still there, even if they hate each other. That's not healthy either. IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted September 17, 2019 08:28 PM
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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Necessarily mean that they're happy, or in love with the person? I've been single my whole life, so I would not know how difficult it is to breakup with somebody. I've read that it once took a guy, 2 years, to officially decide to
terminate his relationship with his girlfriend.
Yes, people do it all of the time. Most people in relationships are quite miserable, but many people don't break up because they are scared of being alone. Breakups are usually pretty difficult to deal with even if you are the one who is initiating the breakup. If you are lucky, the person you are breaking up with quickly says what they want to say and leaves. If you are unlucky, then that person harasses you for several weeks. If you are incredibly unlucky, then your ex kills you. This scenario is thankfully not as common, but it does happen. I've had 5 female classmates who were murdered by their boyfriend once they broke up.
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hypatia238
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posted September 18, 2019 01:56 AM
Is it also fair to say that if you last with someone over 4 years to a lifetime that there will be periods in the relationship were you will question if you want to be with them and maybe take the relationship for granted to some extent but it doesn't mean that what you have with them is not valuable or real necessarily and can sometimes reflect that you yourself need to do some internal work or that the relationship needs to undergo some type of changes or transformation.IP: Logged |
hypatia238
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posted September 18, 2019 02:02 AM
Is true that relationships are challenging for sure but there is good reason why people get married and settle down and this is because dating is even more challenging and a bigger pain in the butt, at least with marriage there is the potential that if you stick it out through the hard times you will grow together, build a life together and maybe create a family. Dating is a bad investment and not as fun as it sounds in reality. This been said I would imagine not dating and not been married and just doing you, focusing on family, career and having a good few close friends can be peaceful and lovely too! but between dating eternally and getting married, I feel marriage is a better investment. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted September 19, 2019 12:51 PM
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Is it also fair to say that if you last with someone over 4 years to a lifetime that there will be periods in the relationship were you will question if you want to be with them and maybe take the relationship for granted to some extent but it doesn't mean that what you have with them is not valuable or real necessarily and can sometimes reflect that you yourself need to do some internal work or that the relationship needs to undergo some type of changes or transformation.
Thisssss!!! 
I think people quit **** too fast, and this is coming from someone whose average relationship lasts for like 3 months lol.
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