posted October 20, 2019 09:58 AM            

Oh boy. This is my mom. And she has mars opposite Pluto and both square mercury. 😬 yikes.

She has always been this way. But my dad passed away two months ago from cancer. And I completely understand that it is going to make her overly susceptible to negative emotions right now. Stress and grieving of course makes our negative qualities come out more. However everything that comes up it is the worst thing ever.

The gas had to be turned off last night because of a leak. Not a big deal because they’ll fix it in a few days and it’s in the 60s on most days. It’s better that it happened now than in dead of winter.

She poured too much Splenda in her tea this morning and spilled it. So she was upset about that. So just lots of things like that.

I know that she is going through a lot but I wish I could spread some of my Leo ascendant optimism on her and show her not to sweat the small stuff.

posted October 20, 2019 11:21 AM            

From what I have read, Virgo energy typically has unpredictable Aqua on the solar 6th house of health.

Uranus rules Aqua i.e accidents, sudden reversals, sudden misfortune,the unexpected(good or bad) and upheavals etc.

Virgo likes to be prepared as there is an innate belief that something may go wrong(Uranus in 6th house unpredictability).And this constant state of hyper alertness to the details is what causes the nervous conditions.

Someone with Mars/Pluto/Uranus/Mercury or Moon in 6th may experience the same thing i.e there is increased anxiety and fear over something going "wrong" i.e a "what if?" constant state of flux.

There is a lot energy spent on ensuring that that is minimised or atleast prevented etc..Pluto/Scorpio or Mars/Aries there especially may respond with criticism thag borders on pure rage (either on others or on the self) for shortfalls.

And I see Virgo as the type to always feel more comfortable when they have a strategy in place for the worst possible outcome.As they hate being caught offguard and being unprepared for what's coming.

So to them the enjoyment of life is through the smooth running of the details i.e if you want to go hiking with a Virgo, ensure that you pack a comfortable pair of shoes for them to partake in that walk comfortably.

For them, the pleasure will not be that you "suprised" them with a 3 mile hike.It'll be that you had the presence of mind to be thoughtful enough to pack the relevant gear for that hike(the devil is in the details)

It is typically the Virgo energy blessed friend who thinks to bring a 1st Aid kit to a camping trip or a cheap fully charged phone when sleeping out. They never want to be caught "unprepared".

I think for your Mom however, it could be part of the grieving process no?Coz when we lose someone, we tend to cling ever so tightly to things that we believe are under our control(because death is not).

Long walks in nature and talking i.e walk and talk do help to alleviate the stress of focused attention on all the things that are "wrong". It may altogether distract the mind.

Sometimes it's not that there are many ways in which things can go wrong.In that there are.But rather the limited avenues we allow ourselves to be happy-even if they do go wrong. Therein is the rub.

posted October 20, 2019 02:10 PM            

Joking. :P

It seems that your mom is in a grieving process rather than being negative as her default state. Losing a life partner must be very hard. It impacts people in many ways. Maybe give her some slack and support.

posted October 20, 2019 02:31 PM            

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Originally posted by AriesLilith:
I wouldn't say they tend to focus on the negative things per se.But its more like...

Joking. :P

It seems that your mom is in a grieving process rather than being negative as her default state. Losing a life partner must be very hard. It impacts people in many ways. Maybe give her some slack and support.

Sometimes fire signs may lack enough empathy to understand why other signs feels how they feel for the intensity they feel, but sometimes we have to acknowledge we have different ways to process things and a bit of slack and understanding goes a long way.

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