posted November 20, 2019 03:07 AM            

My guy's Neptune is on his ASC and mine's on the DSC (it also rules his IC and my MC). And as we have ASC conjunct DSC, our Neptunes ended up on each other's angles + we have a few other Neptune DWs in Synastry.

We both enjoy music, dance and being creative and we loooooveee being romantic, cuddles & kisses. All in all, we're loving and sweet with one another and we feel that each other is ideal but having read interpretations about Neptune being deceptive and all, I worry if all these nice, fuzzy feelings are just our imagination?

I would like to know if other Neptunians have similar experience, i.e. a Neptunian in a Neptunian relationship?

posted November 20, 2019 09:49 AM            

We do have earth and Saturn in our charts. Both our Suns and Mercuries are in earth signs. He has Sun/Mercury in 10H and Venus/Saturn conjunct while I've Sun/Mercury/Mars aspect Saturn (my Mars in 10H).

We also do have Saturn/Pluto aspects in synastry, just that I find the Neptune aspects between us and in our individual natals really stand out.

posted November 20, 2019 10:02 AM            

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Originally posted by vansio:
With your Neptune-angle synastry, there is a psychic slant to the energy supporting your connection, if not just intuitive.

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I read about this and am curious as I had a dream about him before I met him. Not sure about other psychic connection but lotsa intuition, yes. Oh, but he seems to be able to read my thoughts often and will suggest things that were on my mind... things which I was longing for, but he couldn't have known.

posted November 20, 2019 10:55 AM            

I don't know if we're meant to be... can't predict the future, but we've a very magical connection and he says the sweetest things to me. I actually learned of his name in my dream but mind you, it wasn't because of this that I date him, haha. I forgot about the dream and his name and only recalled it after we starting seeing each other.

posted November 22, 2019 12:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
You have strong Neptune influence if your Neptune is aspecting the ASC, in 1st house, in a t-square, aspecting a lot of planets or not at all, is a singleton, and/or like you said, you have a stellium in 12th or Pisces.

We do have earth and Saturn in our charts. Both our Suns and Mercuries are in earth signs. He has Sun/Mercury in 10H and Venus/Saturn conjunct while I've Sun/Mercury/Mars aspect Saturn (my Mars in 10H).

We also do have Saturn/Pluto aspects in synastry, just that I find the Neptune aspects between us and in our individual natals really stand out.

I feel that a Neptunian suits another Neptunian, just like Plutonian best suits another Plutonian etc... just that all these interpretations about Neptune deception and stuff bugs me.

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Yeah I would agree. I think since you guys have aspects in your own natal chart to Saturn and in synastry, it gives some sort of stability. Im really no expert at relationships at all, I haven't even been in one, but just from my own observations and feeling I get from how relationships work, people with similarities in their charts can have a beautiful union. Like two Neptunians together, I can't think of a more romantic couple. You each have enough earth to compliment each other. Would be even better if one of you has an element the other lacks, if you have any. Some people have pretty balanced charts. I know I lack earth and I tend to be drawn to earthy type of guys.

posted November 22, 2019 12:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
You have strong Neptune influence if your Neptune is aspecting the ASC, in 1st house, in a t-square, aspecting a lot of planets or not at all, is a singleton, and/or like you said, you have a stellium in 12th or Pisces.

We do have earth and Saturn in our charts. Both our Suns and Mercuries are in earth signs. He has Sun/Mercury in 10H and Venus/Saturn conjunct while I've Sun/Mercury/Mars aspect Saturn (my Mars in 10H).

We also do have Saturn/Pluto aspects in synastry, just that I find the Neptune aspects between us and in our individual natals really stand out.

I feel that a Neptunian suits another Neptunian, just like Plutonian best suits another Plutonian etc... just that all these interpretations about Neptune deception and stuff bugs me.

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Yeah I would agree. I think since you guys have aspects in your own natal chart to Saturn and in synastry, it gives some sort of stability. Im really no expert at relationships at all, I haven't even been in one, but just from my own observations and feeling I get from how relationships work, people with similarities in their charts can have a beautiful union. Like two Neptunians together, I can't think of a more romantic couple. You each have enough earth to compliment each other. Would be even better if one of you has an element the other lacks, if you have any. Some people have pretty balanced charts. I know I lack earth and I tend to be drawn to earthy type of guys.

posted November 22, 2019 12:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
You have strong Neptune influence if your Neptune is aspecting the ASC, in 1st house, in a t-square, aspecting a lot of planets or not at all, is a singleton, and/or like you said, you have a stellium in 12th or Pisces.

We do have earth and Saturn in our charts. Both our Suns and Mercuries are in earth signs. He has Sun/Mercury in 10H and Venus/Saturn conjunct while I've Sun/Mercury/Mars aspect Saturn (my Mars in 10H).

We also do have Saturn/Pluto aspects in synastry, just that I find the Neptune aspects between us and in our individual natals really stand out.

I feel that a Neptunian suits another Neptunian, just like Plutonian best suits another Plutonian etc... just that all these interpretations about Neptune deception and stuff bugs me.

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Yeah I would agree. I think since you guys have aspects in your own natal chart to Saturn and in synastry, it gives some sort of stability. Im really no expert at relationships at all, I haven't even been in one, but just from my own observations and feeling I get from how relationships work, people with similarities in their charts can have a beautiful union. Like two Neptunians together, I can't think of a more romantic couple. You each have enough earth to compliment each other. Would be even better if one of you has an element the other lacks, if you have any. Some people have pretty balanced charts. I know I lack earth and I tend to be drawn to earthy type of guys.

posted November 22, 2019 02:55 AM            

Its true that some others are so acutely sensitive to emotional vibes around them that without learning to build a protective wall, they absorb all the chaos. And end up not knowing which feelings are theirs and which belong from outside of them etc.

But Neptune is also very spiritual. Ans I don't mean the bible thumping type of "spirituality"-that's more "parroting" really.

Neptune can tap into the universal web of the cosmos and be filled with awe to a point of loving ALL there is.

"Then sings my soul, my co-creator self to thee:How great thou is.How great thou is..."

This is a constant and "drunk" state of bliss that sees no separation from others-even as reality continues to be persistent in deceiving others.

So when two Neptunes come together(evolved ones), the continuation of what the soul already suspects i.e we are all one and we yearn to come back to that realization etc. catches on to the other's drift. And the outpouring of love becomes a natural manifestation of that.

The two can feel like they are in a cloud and the "inconvenience" of life i.eSaturn rules and regulations,having a job, having a separate identity etc. can feel so "unnecessary".

The downside could be that they forget to do the things that life requires them to do(defying rules) like eat healthy, pay the rent, go to work, pay attention to others etc.

They become locked in their own world (Oasis) and the rest of the world becomes like a desert from which they do not want to come into contact with.

Enjoy the bliss. But also note that ALL of life is necessary. There is also spirituality in honoring one's body,nourishing it and living in the PRESENT. And the separation from the beloved is only but temporary in order to make the reunion that much SWEETER.

That's why we are living on earth, to experience the physical time/space continuum(for which Saturn is the gracious host and to whom thanks must be given).For when we come home(back to Isness or "all that is") the reunion will be that much more profound.

posted November 22, 2019 05:36 AM            

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Originally posted by SoulOfABird:
Like two Neptunians together, I can't think of a more romantic couple. You each have enough earth to compliment each other. Would be even better if one of you has an element the other lacks, if you have any. Some people have pretty balanced charts. I know I lack earth and I tend to be drawn to earthy type of guys.

I don't think it's a deal breaker at all. I think you guys will be okay. Enjoy the lovely Neptunian romance (:

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Thanks, SoulOfABird.

We both have pretty balanced charts. He has Sun/Mercury in earth, Moon in air, Venus/ASC in fire and Mars in water. I have Sun/Mercury in earth, Moon in fire, Venus/ASC in air and Mars in water.

Me too don't get the association between Neptune and addiction. Perhaps if a Neptunian were to go through a traumatic experience or grow up in a dysfunctional family, they might become an unhealthy Neptunian? Not sure. But generally the ones I know are living relatively healthy and normal lives.

posted November 23, 2019 07:46 AM            

You're right that the feeling of being in a relationship with a fellow Neptunian is like "coming home" and I'm not referring to the dreamy dreamy bits. A great affinity dawned on me shortly after we met and I thought: "This person is the male version of me!". I became addicted to communicating with him, almost like a drug. FF 1.5yrs, we've become addicted to each other's company and touch. He says he misses me all the time and vice versa. Then again, we also have angles conjunct so I'm not sure whether it is Neptune or our angles contact giving us this "sticky" feeling.

It's interesting you mentioned spirituality as that's what we talked about on our first date (haha)... about the universe, God, the purpose of life, death, whether we really have souls etc. Heavy topic for a first date but we're both pretty mystified by this. I agree with the bit about Neptunians absorbing surrounding energies... we can process so many different emotions within us like they came from our personal experiences but some were actually emotions we absorbed from others and they became a part of us.

We've some earth and Saturn influence in both our natals so no big issue with being practical and realistic. Bills always paid on time, for sure (haha). He in particular is very health conscious (typical Virgo) while I'm money conscious (typical Taurus). I'm a saver as much as a spender.

posted November 23, 2019 08:42 AM            

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Originally posted by TrueScorpio:
I love the psychic spiritual connection this can have but let's not forget the (potential) down side of feeling let down or deceived. My Neptune is conjunct my sun and conjuncts and conjuncts most everyone around my age. This routinely plays out in my relationships mostly with men.

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I don't believe in generational aspects being played out this way. My Neptune conjunct my DSC which means almost everyone in my generation puts their Neptune on my DSC, so all my relationships/friendships are deceptive? No way. I admit I camouflaged myself very well when I was much much younger (I'm talking about teenage years) and often yielded to what others want instead of what I want, but that's because my ego & self-confidence were not well-developed yet. This issue gradually faded away from about mid-20s onwards as I mature with time and experience.

posted November 23, 2019 03:20 PM            

For instance, I have a Venus-Neptune square natally, its quite wide (to a degree that may not even be considered necessary). A partner of mine has the same wide aspect. However, together, our Neptune's and Venus's (their degrees established of the exact moment we've both incarnate), this becomes a double whammy, and to a degree that is exact only WITH one another, hardly on our own. The odds of this "double whammy" (contract) being repeated in another relationship would mean that another woman must have her Venus at a similar cardinal (or earth sign) degree and born the particular year aspect by the outer planet to initially seek it natally, and then to simultaneously consummate it with THIS particular person (sparse, if not fated). ***

THEN, this is where it gets VERY particular, albeit traditional. A SUN-NEPTUNE double whammy is NOT going to have the same romantic (devoted) inclination as a VENUS-NEPTUNE. It just doesn't work that way no matter how stripped cookbook astrology portends to an individual planets behavior in synastry. Not to mention... which houses does this natal aspect rule, and then overlay between the two - do these two individuals promote this aspect within their romantic lives or perhaps only professionally? I could go on and on.

This is what primes my outlook on outer planet in synastry, sometimes people don’t have the aspects natally but find themselves sharing certain modalities with other souls because they’re called to, and it’s reciprocated.

So yes, Neptunians are meant for one another but imo only in accordance to whichever domain the focal planet that's shared between the two rules - otherwise thats where the deception lies. Neptunians need one another to a fault.

For an additional example, considering Neptune's quest for redemption and the divine... my partner fell for another woman whose Sun is a few degrees later than I. They share the same SUN-NEPTUNE DW as he and I do, no Venus however. As it turns out, she didn't actually wanted to be with him in the way he impulsively assumed (Neptune rules his fifth so he wasn't all wrong for trying) having shared the semblance romantically before. it was eventually only professional (a creative pursuit of ego) in nature, as in she dropped him shortly after (no Venus contacts for that matter). Poor fool - the tall tales of Neptune configurations.

posted November 24, 2019 12:22 AM            

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Originally posted by mourningfire:
My first thought when I read the title was "Yikes. What a disaster" LOL
As someone with strong Neptune (neptune in the first conjunct ASC, neptune aspecting moon and mars, pisces venus), I think neptune is a malefic, and an incredibly potent one at that. The fog, the endless questions, the illusions, they get out of hand sooo quickly. Things go wrong when Neptune is involved and bc of its nature, bc of it's haziness and confusion, when you're awoken from its trance, it's like nothing has happened at all. It's the boiling water that quickly evaporates from a pot. Lessons can be learned from the likes of sautrn and pluto, but with neptune, it's all a daze. You know it went wrong but it doesn't give you the tools to avoid it the next time around. At least in my experience. The highs are extremely high bc Neptune can convince you of anything, ANYTHING, but where is this unbridled trust coming from??? It is so baffling.

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posted November 24, 2019 01:26 AM            

My guy and I have Neptune DWs all over in Synastry (Neptune conj/sextile Moon, Neptune trine/opp Venus, Neptune square/quincunx Mars, Neptune conj ASC/DSC). We also have lotsa Neptune mirroring in natal - he has Neptune conj ASC square Sun/Mercury sextile Moon trine Venus. I have Neptune conj DSC/Moon opposite Venus square Mars. Our individual Neptunes/Moons/Venuses also formed a Cradle pattern in Synastry which feels very very romantic and loving.

It just so happens that I've Neptune conj DSC and he has it on his ASC, and so happens that his ASC conjunct my DSC which puts two potent aspects DW in action - ASC conjunct each other's DSC and Neptune conjunct each other's ASC/DSC, AND Neptune happens to rule my MC and his IC.

What are the odds?

I believe Neptune-Sun can be deceptive. My first boyfriend has natal Neptune conj Sun/Mercury and in Synastry my Neptune conjunct his conjunction and oppose his Moon; his Neptune oppose my Mercury. Funny being Neptune, I find him to be the deceptive one. He was a very different person before & after we got together, so much so that I felt I was tricked into a nice dream only to realise it was Chucky's lair. Needless to say, the relationship did not even survive the 3-month probation period.

I'm so thankful I don't have Sun-Neptune with my guy, especially since he has the square in Natal.

I'm not saying Neptune-Sun makes one a liar but their personas can be shrouded in mystery and others find it hard to know what they're truly like until they get into a close relationship with them. I too realised that my guy with Neptune square Sun/Mercury was very different after I know him better, but in his case, not in a bad way.