posted December 09, 2019 04:18 PM            

It’s not Astrology, more the way I incorporated it into my life. I like the psychological and analytical side of it, but I hate the fact that I’m constantly looking up every new love interest’s chart and already believe to see when this theoretical relationship might end, how and why.

I hate it that I look up transits for the year ahead ..

I’m at a point right now, where I’m realizing how much pressure I’m putting on myself and onto people I meet and how much of my life quality I compromise by ‘seeing’ what might come.

Predicting the future or trying to predict the future sucks big times. It all feels so fatalistic. It takes the joy out of living.

posted December 09, 2019 06:06 PM            

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posted December 09, 2019 06:46 PM            

Underlying this, anna_bee, is the need to feel empowered from within so that your mind is not tipped over into obsession looking to be empowered by something (or someone) from outside you. Fear vs Love. Love yourself enough to take a break from it and not fret yourself over things that aren't happening and will probably never happen. Don't let astrology become a downer parent.

posted December 10, 2019 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Then, ditch it.

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posted December 11, 2019 09:13 AM            

As per relationships go, you should never plan ahead or use astrology to dictate relationships..sometimes they pan out sometimes they don't.

People are not variables and math equations, people are way more unpredictable.

I'd just use it look at them as the potential compatibility between "two set things".

Lol, now someone use astrology to show the compatibility between Coke and Pepsi, there both two set things.

You should only use it as a potential...

There was a Leo sun female that I use to bump into all the time.

I was shocked when I looked into her chart we have moon trine moon, my mars sextiles her moon and my mars conjuncts her venus.

I really felt the moon trine moon...I'm a total stranger and someone she whould feel comfortable to tell me how her mood is.

Synastry wise it should be a go, but astrology also shows we are both heading in two different directions and were both in different phases in our lives...

So nothing panned out but the potential is still there.

It still haunts you knowing the what if...but again people have freewill so as much as astrology proves the compatibility of two set things, a persons freewill might ruin it.

posted December 14, 2019 11:19 PM            

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Originally posted by ana_bee:
I came to a point right now, where I wish I wouldn’t know anything about it.
Now bear with me when I explain..

It’s not Astrology, more the way I incorporated it into my life. I like the psychological and analytical side of it, but I hate the fact that I’m constantly looking up every new love interest’s chart and already believe to see when this theoretical relationship might end, how and why.

I hate it that I look up transits for the year ahead ..

I’m at a point right now, where I’m realizing how much pressure I’m putting on myself and onto people I meet and how much of my life quality I compromise by ‘seeing’ what might come.

Predicting the future or trying to predict the future sucks big times. It all feels so fatalistic. It takes the joy out of living.

I’m sorry when I’m so negative right now.

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No need to apologize, it sounds like you are gaining valuable insight around how you want to integrate astrology in your life and how you don't want to integrate it into your life. Sounds like you are trying to figure out how to best utilize this tool in your life and you are figuring out how this tool can be a barrier at times instead of helpful when used a certain way.

posted December 14, 2019 11:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Nadja:
This is the exact reason I never really got into synastry or following my transits. And why I look mostly at the potential positives of any natal aspects. It's just not healthy for me to worry about the future, or to look to ask astrology about my relationships. And there is really no use being a negative nancy about things I can't change anyway.

Idk what advise to give you... other than just try to cultivate positivity, and live in the moment!

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I personally find transits usually very helpful bc they help me make sense of what is going on in my life currently and internal transformations I may be experiencing, it helps me gain a deeper insight into my current experience.

Now looking at transits so you can stress about the future is indeed not helpful I agree, we have to be careful not to fall into that trap. Like for example, Uranus transits have always been very positive for me but a lot of people who are scared of change get freaked out about uranus transits and think the worst will happen. In my opinion even when uranus transits present themselves in the form of a crisis they end up been a blessing in disguise.

"And there is really no use being a negative nancy about things I can't change anyway.

Idk what advise to give you... other than just try to cultivate positivity, and live in the moment!"

posted December 15, 2019 12:54 AM            

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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
Knowledge is power. So if you know what's coming you can take control of it, instead of the other way around (sometimes)

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posted December 15, 2019 01:28 PM            

Mimulus, the remedy for fear of known things: http://www.bachcentre.com/new/remedies/mimulus/

White Chestnut, for obsessions or unwanted thoughts: http://www.bachcentre.com/new/remedies/white-chestnut/

These are just two examples from the Bach remedy pages quick reference guide (linked below). Another flower essence may be more appropriate. Everything in life can be part of a balanced life, but sometimes we need help getting there. http://www.bachcentre.com/new/remedies/the-38-remedies/quick-reference-guide/

posted December 16, 2019 08:30 PM            

I know what you mean. StoneMoon and I have discussed this.

I'm starting a dating-thing with someone right now and I have not looked at his chart. I was reflecting last how nicer it is to be not analysing everything: eg, thinking ohh we get on because of *this* aspect, and I can feel the tension of *this* aspect, etc.

It makes me more present, and also, I am on the same level as my date for a change. Because generally they are not into astrology

posted December 23, 2019 03:05 PM            

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Originally posted by ana_bee:
I came to a point right now, where I wish I wouldn’t know anything about it.
Now bear with me when I explain..

It’s not Astrology, more the way I incorporated it into my life. I like the psychological and analytical side of it, but I hate the fact that I’m constantly looking up every new love interest’s chart and already believe to see when this theoretical relationship might end, how and why.

I hate it that I look up transits for the year ahead ..

I’m at a point right now, where I’m realizing how much pressure I’m putting on myself and onto people I meet and how much of my life quality I compromise by ‘seeing’ what might come.

Predicting the future or trying to predict the future sucks big times. It all feels so fatalistic. It takes the joy out of living.

I’m sorry when I’m so negative right now.

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But like they say, knowledge is power so, all this research should help gain a better footing to do the right thing and get on the right path

posted January 02, 2020 10:47 PM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I treat looking at transits as if an Earthquake is going to happen and I have a 10 minute head start to prepare.

As per relationships go, you should never plan ahead or use astrology to dictate relationships..sometimes they pan out sometimes they don't.

People are not variables and math equations, people are way more unpredictable.

I'd just use it look at them as the potential compatibility between "two set things".

Lol, now someone use astrology to show the compatibility between Coke and Pepsi, there both two set things.

You should only use it as a potential...

There was a Leo sun female that I use to bump into all the time.

I was shocked when I looked into her chart we have moon trine moon, my mars sextiles her moon and my mars conjuncts her venus.

I really felt the moon trine moon...I'm a total stranger and someone she whould feel comfortable to tell me how her mood is.

Synastry wise it should be a go, but astrology also shows we are both heading in two different directions and were both in different phases in our lives...

So nothing panned out but the potential is still there.

It still haunts you knowing the what if...but again people have freewill so as much as astrology proves the compatibility of two set things, a persons freewill might ruin it.

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I agree with you to an extent, but I am of the belief that all of the MAJOR stuff in your life is fated, like who your parents are, your career, when your children are born, and your relationships. Free will is more prevalent in the little things, such as the foods you eat, how you dress, when you go to bed, when you brush your teeth, etc. This is because stuff like your career path and who you're attracted to, you'll feel a "pull" towards (and I'm sure your spirit guides at times work with the guides of the person you're meant to be with and the guides of your boss to try and make what's supposed to happen, happen), and while you CAN try to go against that, you won't feel content or satisfied.

posted January 03, 2020 01:44 PM            

Absolutely.

Anyone who says otherwise just doesn't know how to do it.