posted February 21, 2020 10:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
There’re some 11th house placements which would prefer to keep friends circle small (Virgo, Capricorn), the quality over quantity. Also, Scorpio placements could bring trust and betrayal issues. So the combination would cut the small circle of friends more and more.

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I agree.

Uranus in 11th or Aqua 11th.The transit of Uranus to my 11th had me suddenly lose friends because of a residential move.

Scorpio or Pluto in 11th is more a permanent severing of ties because of a possible fallout. Usually there is a buildup of anger(past unresolved anger) that results in this.

posted March 12, 2020 10:31 AM            

Focus on what you do have, and upon gratitude for that. All will be just as it should, no matter how painful the interim is. ¢¾

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posted March 12, 2020 09:29 PM            

I keep seeing her in my dreams but like a few times in a month or so and it still affects me the same way even though I'm not thinking of her as often anymore.

•T.Chiron (Rx) conjunct natal Moon (exact).

•T.Saturn on my 5th H cusp (exact)
•T.Saturn square N.Saturn

•P.Mars opposite Moon (exact)
•P.Mars on my natal 3rd H cusp

When my best male friend died I had a lot of transits going on (and a lot of other things going on in my life too), so I'm not sure which one is to blame. The transits the day this friend died were very similar to the transits when my dad died. It's kind of funny because I'd told my best friend that I had a soft spot for him, I adored him and he was the second most important man in my life with my dad being the first.

•T.Pluto conjunct N.Uranus (<1 orb)
•T.Pluto opposite N.Sun (1 orb)

•T.Saturn in 5th H
•T.Saturn conjunct Pluto (3 orbs)
•T.Saturn square N.Venus (<1 orb)
•T.Saturn square N.Mars (<1 orb)

•T.Neptune conjunct N.Moon (exact)

When I "lost" my friend of 11 years, I had no major transits and to be honest I didn't care much, it didn't affect me which was a shock to the ones who knew me because I loved her a lot and they knew it. She changed very suddenly, it felt like I was talking to a completely different person.
I kind of lost respect for her but I thought that I could maybe help her even though I had it way worse myself at that point.
We arranged to see each other twice and she didn't show up, she told me she had lots of work and I told her to send me whenever she would have free time. She never did. A few years later she tried to get closer to me again through common friends which I didn't appreciate at all.

No major transits/progressions other than

•T.Saturn conjunct N.Pluto in 5th H.
•P.Moon conjunct Uranus (2 orbs)
•P.Moon conjuct Neptune (2 orbs)

I was in love with these friends (not in a sexual/romantic way obviously) platonic love.
So maybe the 5th H isn't a coincidence and it's also the opposite of the 11th H of friendships. Let alone that all of them had their personal planets in my 5th H or aspecting the ruler of my 5th H which is Pluto in my 5th H.
So it probably depends on what kind of friendship it is for you, I had other friends that I trusted and/or cared for but didn't love half as much. And coincidentally they didn't have planets any planets occupying my 5th H in any way.

My dad's death and the loss of that first friend are still haunting me. I find it normal for my dad since I adored him, my love for him was extreme. I also expected to be heartbroken with that friend of mind but not to the point of seeing these horrible dreams every night for so many years. I also expected I would stop missing her after a couple of years. That T.Chiron on my N.Moon was too traumatic and I didn't see it coming. I underestimated Chiron too much mainly because I couldn't find much info on it.

Generally in my life I lose most important people (friends/relatives/men I've fallen for) suddenly and out of nowhere.
The sudden part is definately Uranus conjuncting DSC and the out of nowhere part must be Neptune right on my DSC.

Some passed away, others went abroad, others disappeared for reasons that aren't really related to my behavior/personality. The circumstances are always out of my control. Pretty sure this chaos is due to Uranus on DSC. People I know with Uranus/Sun, Uranus/Moon and Uranus/Venus hard aspects do not seem to have that kind of problem at least it's not a rule in their life like it's in my case.

•Pluto in hard aspects to Venus
•Saturn in 8th H

have to do with painful losses in general

• Sun in 12th H or a heavy 12th H
• Saturn in 8th H
• Plutonian/Saturnian energy in a chart
• Pluto/Saturn in 11th H

indicate people who choose to have a few but good and reliable friends usually needing lots of alone time too.