posted May 25, 2020 08:43 AM              

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Ok, I'm hearing that you just wanna know why your Cancer Venus gf refused to meet you or marry you... but you do know that you're not gonna understand this simply by studying her Venus and Moon? If we look at it purely from an astrological point of view, I can't understand why Cancers won't be into marriage as they're traditionally known as the "family type". So what seems to be causing a block? She doesn't even wanna meet you, why? The answers are not in her Cancer Venus / Aries Moon. I've not seen any conclusive evidence that people with these signs cannot commit.

Since you cannot share more, I do not know better. I believe you can find the answers within yourself.

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posted May 25, 2020 02:35 PM              

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Originally posted by charlie:
I honestly don't understand the hang up with the whole "Cancer is family oriented" thing?! Perhaps "family" is not family in the traditional sense?? Perhaps some Cancers find security, with their "family", at very odd places?? Perhaps "family" can be a bunch of ONLINE friends? Perhaps "family" is a bunch of old people playing chess in a park, on Thursdays??
Cancers like to feel SECURE. When they don't they (we) will start the side-step-dance. And being vague. And postponing things, until we FEEL a sense of secureness and sense of "family" again. I *think*, pressuring a Cardinal sign will just activate what's comforting to a Cardinal sign. There will be forward action but not necessarily what might have been expected..

Also, anything Taurus can't, and will not, be pressured! They will do what they want when they are bloody ready.

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posted May 25, 2020 11:52 PM            

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Originally posted by ParallelToucan:
I don't have time for feelings or insecurities. We either take action now, or we'll be day dreaming about it forever. Simple as that. I've already proven my security given Cancers wonderful ability to be able to "feel" people out as you put it. She should know by now. I have no patience for a waiting game, especially when she can't even give me the respect to reply back to me. That's something Cancers need to learn. They can dish it out but then they can't take it when it comes back around to them. and y'all are not the only ones with feelings either. So, if you want to get down to the knitty gritty then please help me, someone, by looking at her chart and helping me formulate a plan to get her back. I count like 3-5 Venus in Cancers in this thread? Am I correct?... Yeah....I'm not looking for humor in this since there are some people that are serious. Especially when someone claims to love me. I feel like she has abandoned me for me being real with her which is absolutely 100% unacceptable in my eyes. You either tell me to screw off or don't play the victim when I still think there's a fighting chance when you "feel" like sticking around. Or whatever the "Hell" it is that these types of people do. There's literally nothing that I can do I feel. It's a lose/lose situation. I speak, nothing. I do nothing, nothing. We live 5,000 miles away, nothing. What the Hell am I supposed to do? Send her an ice cream sundae with full toppings via an e-mail? Seriously... I feel like I'm stuck in a maze and no matter which route I take it always leads back to the same position, except the "route" "back" doesn't exist hypothetically if that makes sense. I can go left, right, up, down, diagonal, doesn't matter. I can also stay in the same spot forever and hope that a helicopter comes and saves my a$$. What the Hell is a person supposed to do in that circumstance? Start wishing upon a star???!!?? It doesn't matter how much I humble myself.

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posted May 26, 2020 05:07 PM            

The constant idea of being victimized or the fact they were once victimized always reminiscences with Cancers.

If you have a go-getter get things done kind of attitude avoid them.

I was once interested in a Leo sun, Venus in Cancer girl and had enough waiting for her to feel secure.

She tried to get me reinterested once I moved on but by then I moved back home and was now in a different city.

I think you should just move on and if she is truly interested in you she'll make an attempt to get you back.

There's plenty of fish in the sea don't frown if this one isn't the right right one wait for the next catch.

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posted May 27, 2020 09:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Travelman:
I don't get this guy. He asks for advice and basically shoots it all down because it is not exactly what he wants to hear, or something. I think people have, and continue to be fantastic in their responses and he does not sound very thankful for their time, effort, and energy used to respond. IMO, I would move on, not very gracious.

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posted May 27, 2020 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Travelman:
I don't get this guy. He asks for advice and basically shoots it all down because it is not exactly what he wants to hear, or something. I think people have, and continue to be fantastic in their responses and he does not sound very thankful for their time, effort, and energy used to respond. IMO, I would move on, not very gracious.

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I agree to. I think the questions has less to do with astrology and more of the OP learning the harsh reality that the first person you'll encounter will not become your partner for life.

posted May 27, 2020 09:08 PM              

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
@ParallelToucan
I still feel strange why she refused to meet you. I'm gonna be bold to say either you've been deceiving yourself or she's hiding something, else there's no reason why she refuses to meet. I do not wish that she has been playing with your feelings. I do wish that she has other unspeakable reasons... but what? I feel your frustration and understand your need to have answers. I've a Taurus Sun so I know how Taurus works. We just want a simple yes or no... cut the BS, but there's no pushing anyone into this and you know it.

Maybe your Synastry/Composite may provide more answers. You've to post them in the Interpersonal Astrology forum.

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posted May 28, 2020 02:09 AM            

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Originally posted by ParallelToucan:
I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Now go drown in your tears. This thread isn't about you. This is my thread. I guess you're not intelligent enough to understand that though since you want to bring a bunch of drama into this thread for no reason. I'm trying to stay on topic here. Go hijack someone else's thread.

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posted May 28, 2020 11:50 AM            

I have Venus in Cancer, and a Taurus stellium so you'd think getting married, buying a house and starting a family would be something Cancers/Tauruses would instinctively do...

Nope. My Gemini moon freaks out at the very thought of settling down. I also have a heavy 5th-House in Sag (with Uranus there) so every time an ex talks about settling down, I panic and take off (literally, go live abroad somewhere for 3-6months).

So you really need to take her entire chart into consideration.