posted August 20, 2020 02:58 PM            

I can't stand living above a dysfunctional family dynamic anymore. I have had empathy for their situation for years. But now it's time to have empathy for myself. The grand kids in these one bedroom apartment complexes are savage during quiet hours. Screaming, knocking, banging.
I work hard, I need my sleep to function well and not get run down.

How is the aftermath going to be once they receive my complaint? I never wanted to, but they should know better. I know they are aware of quiet hours.

If I have to get my act together, then so should they?

Going to talk to my fiance more today, who isn't ready to buy a house. And really evaluate if that is fair to me when I work so hard. His goal setting strategies drive me nuts. He constantly changes his mind on what to prioritize. Even if I move father away I hope I can realistically finish the year and not "abandon" my students.

posted August 28, 2020 08:09 AM            

I can see how they might quit if their patience is tested, there’s always another project that could use their dynamism

How old are you ? Maybe you’ll find that in time you will learn to hang on in there. I think the Aries energy could ultimately be translated into determination.

Adding this:
I think you are actually a victim of Office manipulation .
It’s normal to have thoughts of getting out .

However —
Try scheduling a meeting with the Manager.

(It was rude of him to breathe down your neck just like that and Openly accuse you)

I suggest a meeting — (much more professional)
during which you detail that you have certain Values (Work ethic, don’t steal or whatever it is he is accusing you of , shoot that Idea down)

It’s not ruled out that this Manager is trying
to get you fired on minimal information. Or make you leave by finding fault .

Like the one who had to come in with something BIG against you
(like stealing) knowing it would cause you discomfort.

Maybe they want to bring someone else in to replace you .. Whatever the reason it’s not real so deal with it like a bad dream (discussed, then laid to rest)

In any case, these are all Office tactics and I’ve seen them before . Don’t take it personally , once you’ve stood up for yourself - plainly, simply - not shoutily -
it will be okay .

Please don’t feel the pressure because it’s fake pressure after all .
You know who is creating this situation.

Stand up for your values and then just get on with your work like nothing ever happened

You can look around for another job any time, there is always a way out .

posted August 28, 2020 08:52 AM            

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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
With this aspect I even sometimes surprise myself!

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posted August 28, 2020 08:55 AM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:

(music) Spoon Full of Sugar!

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posted August 28, 2020 09:18 AM            

I try to figure out what her deal is with me. I haven’t done anything to deserve it. She acts hostile when I get attention. I trigger some sort of trauma with validation and jealousy.

She obviously has some sort of self esteem problem. Because even if I was “an idiot” I have not done anything to deserve hostile treatment. If someone was a harmless moron, and that was the only problem, people would at least attempt to tolerate. Especially when I am taking time out of my life to effing dog sit for her mom who acts all her kids and in law kids life revolves around hers.

I am just so done with how she talks to me, weather I end up being mature about it or not. Is everyone else in the family really that oblivious to it?

I am liking fiancés idea more and more of getting a house in the country.

After that even though the comment was so minor it’s been one effing unfriendly comment after another over time. I’m 30 now, so eff taking it, and giving a crap that she has a, not so secret problem with me.

I might just go distance my self and stop at my moms who is 10 minutes away. I’ve made enough of an effort.

posted January 22, 2021 11:56 PM            

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Originally posted by viviette:
Aries is a pioneer
So, very good at starting projects ,
maybe not as good at seeing them through.
For whatever reason .

I can see how they might quit if their patience is tested, there’s always another project that could use their dynamism

How old are you ? Maybe you’ll find that in time you will learn to hang on in there. I think the Aries energy could ultimately be translated into determination.

Adding this:
I think you are actually a victim of Office manipulation .
It’s normal to have thoughts of getting out .

However —
Try scheduling a meeting with the Manager.

(It was rude of him to breathe down your neck just like that and Openly accuse you)

I suggest a meeting — (much more professional)
during which you detail that you have certain Values (Work ethic, don’t steal or whatever it is he is accusing you of , shoot that Idea down)

It’s not ruled out that this Manager is trying
to get you fired on minimal information. Or make you leave by finding fault .

Like the one who had to come in with something BIG against you
(like stealing) knowing it would cause you discomfort.

Maybe they want to bring someone else in to replace you .. Whatever the reason it’s not real so deal with it like a bad dream (discussed, then laid to rest)

In any case, these are all Office tactics and I’ve seen them before . Don’t take it personally , once you’ve stood up for yourself - plainly, simply - not shoutily -
it will be okay .

Please don’t feel the pressure because it’s fake pressure after all .
You know who is creating this situation.

Stand up for your values and then just get on with your work like nothing ever happened

You can look around for another job any time, there is always a way out .

Try not to react so strongly to something that isn’t real to you . Just state the facts about your values and maybe suggest vidéosurveillance if they should have an ongoing problem . I don’t know what he’s saying to you so I can’t formulate the sentence to say to him . Please share that if you like here.
But I think you should arrange a meeting with him to deal with the issue once and for all . But simply and not in an emotional display .

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I am late at replying this. Thank you for the kind words viviette.

I finally took the courage to quit when I first wrote this post. Was catching up on the amount of stress and burnout i harbored over the years working there.

posted January 22, 2021 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
There was a part of me that wanted to rage quit dog sitting yesterday.
It’s dumb that the family wants me to do it in the first place.
Future sister in law comes over with her dogs to play with future mother in law’s dog.
I was PMSing yesterday, but I’ve about had it fiancés sister’s unfriendly attitude. Like if I attempt to make conversation. She talks to me like a moron. Wow.

I try to figure out what her deal is with me. I haven’t done anything to deserve it. She acts hostile when I get attention. I trigger some sort of trauma with validation and jealousy.

She obviously has some sort of self esteem problem. Because even if I was “an idiot” I have not done anything to deserve hostile treatment. If someone was a harmless moron, and that was the only problem, people would at least attempt to tolerate. Especially when I am taking time out of my life to effing dog sit for her mom who acts all her kids and in law kids life revolves around hers.

I am just so done with how she talks to me, weather I end up being mature about it or not. Is everyone else in the family really that oblivious to it?

I am liking fiancés idea more and more of getting a house in the country.

After that even though the comment was so minor it’s been one effing unfriendly comment after another over time. I’m 30 now, so eff taking it, and giving a crap that she has a, not so secret problem with me.

I might just go distance my self and stop at my moms who is 10 minutes away. I’ve made enough of an effort.

After this: why would I ever say yes to dog sitting for them again? It’s already inconvenient enough as it is.

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oh wow and this is your sis in law? I kind of know someone like this. Do you have any Mars harsh aspects?

posted January 23, 2021 12:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Mars is currently going through the sign of Aries and it will be there for many months, , going direct, then retrograding and then going direct. That is a lot of fiery red energy on Aries folks, and they will be ready to fight!

Mars in Aries is an impulsive energy. Strong, but not necessarily smart. Can quit a job in a rage, then regret it later.

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posted January 23, 2021 12:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Hemilla:
I am that person lol whenever a boss says to me something i dont like i am literaly minutes away from quiting - and i lf i could find a job after i quit i soooo would. I stayed for so long because of money, i need money.

I think i have thoss crisis thinking every single month, i am so unhappy at the current job - i wish i could be my own boss, i think i hate working for others more than anything, i want to have my own time, i want to be responsible for my own wealth not someone elses.

My mars is in virgo in 2nd, rules 10th, squares moon, venus, mercury etc. But yeah that need to earn money by my career and not earn it for others rages in me. I am actualy having a day job and am doing some freelance copywriting - if i would be assured i get atleat minimal amount of money every month by freelancing id onky do that, my day job is monotone, isolated, not fulfilling

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Hemilia I hope this all goes well for you. It sounds like you know what makes you happy.

posted January 23, 2021 01:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i don't rage quit anything, i can feel like it but i won't

i prefer to keep things on peaceful terms, life's easier that way

aries moon virgo sun

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