posted November 11, 2020 01:03 PM            

Even scientists, at least as represented by the media (which to be fair could be misrepresenting the science to fit a social narrative that they know will be shared more as it conforms to confirmation biases) can't seem to decide if sex creates bonding chemicals of love (these studies must not include prostitutes, those who enjoy "rage sex," marriages that are filled with hate and dysfunction even when the sex is there, and never comment on the self-hate that many men AND women feel over masturbation, or even by having sex with someone they know is wrong for them, a betrayal, etc), or if it's a biological (and sometimes brutal) evolutionary response to spread the species without genuine love being involved in the process, just prostitution manifested in acceptable terms that allow for inheritance and property rights, a woman marrying up though a man in another culture might marry for the dowry, etc (and ignoring those who damage their own status with sex which goes against evolutionary psychology, pity sex, women who support a man whether or not she has sex with him and whether or not she actually wants to).

But as to your specific question, I'd say no. To use a metaphor, if all I ever had was vanilla ice cream, there's no way I'd know if chocolate was better, and curiosity would be a strong factor in me trying it. Sex is more so, even though I have a low sex drive. It's such a powerful force in society that I want to understand it.

And though not all men and women are the same, neither is it a male thing to sow their seeds while a woman waits for that one man. The women are out there cheating in hordes with the men (and men can be the aggrieved party, that is he can think the woman cheating on her husband is single, for example) as well.

Likewise, I've read and heard of too many women who thought if they married early that the "perverse thoughts" would go away and they could live the life they thought they were supposed to (a life based on lies that they mistook for truth, but typically shamed into keeping up the cycle of lies when she finds out how badly she was lied to, including through the birthing process) and it didn't work, and their marriage was doomed. If that's true of plenty of women, then why not men who are given more of a pass, sometimes even encouraged, to try another "car"?

posted November 11, 2020 01:33 PM            

So..
If sex is important, then you can do a "compromise" where you go for the "test drive" during the 'engagement period' (instead of abstaining until married).

It's amazing how having sex can unveil things about the other person that you TRULY did not know about. Maybe uncloaks some behaviors that would definitely be a 'deal breaker' for the relationship as a whole.

Love, mixed with 'lust' for the other, can seriously 'blind' you to things you NEED to have a "grounding knowledge of" BEFORE it's legal and too-late?

Amazing what you can find out about a person once you've had the sex.

posted November 11, 2020 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
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But as to your specific question, I'd say no. To use a metaphor, if all I ever had was vanilla ice cream, there's no way I'd know if chocolate was better, and curiosity would be a strong factor in me trying it. Sex is more so, even though I have a low sex drive. It's such a powerful force in society that I want to understand it.

And though not all men and women are the same, neither is it a male thing to sow their seeds while a woman waits for that one man. The women are out there cheating in hordes with the men (and men can be the aggrieved party, that is he can think the woman cheating on her husband is single, for example) as well.

Likewise, I've read and heard of too many women who thought if they married early that the "perverse thoughts" would go away and they could live the life they thought they were supposed to (a life based on lies that they mistook for truth, but typically shamed into keeping up the cycle of lies when she finds out how badly she was lied to, including through the birthing process) and it didn't work, and their marriage was doomed. If that's true of plenty of women, then why not men who are given more of a pass, sometimes even encouraged, to try another "car"?

Still, I much prefer the metaphor that portrays a woman as a car to one that portrays women as a shoe or a stick of gum.

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+1
If you never drive Ferrari, It doesn’t mean you would think your good SUV is the best car out there.

posted November 11, 2020 03:09 PM            

2. I believe this is one of the two cases in which people have the highest chance to cheat and imo this one is the worst because it will happen later rather than sooner, so you will have spent many years of your life with that partner and you won't even see it coming when he cheats. When the relationship and/or feelings become dull or when another person intrigues the man or when curiosity about other scenarios kicks in.. at first he will keep resisting these thoughts/feelings
out of guilt and/or other emotions, which only serves to make them grow inside him more and more untill he finally gives in. Not saying it will happen 100% but there is a high chance it will.

posted November 13, 2020 03:09 AM            

What do you do if something happens to your partner and they can longer perform in bed even if they have the desire to do so? Are you going to leave them? There will come a day when sex will be off the table. Are you still going to love your spouse as a person or do you only love the sexual pleasure they once gave you?

People seem to forget that they can pick up random people on dating websites/apps/bars and find someone who is good in bed. Sex is not rocket science (being "good" in bed is not impressive nor is it an accomplishment). The real challenge is finding someone who genuinely loves you. Very few people manage to find this genuine love. Sex can easily make you think you have found "the one" when you really have not. I've had to comfort way too many friends who stayed with men because the sex was just too good to pass up even though these men were really terrible boyfriends. Sex is wonderful, but it can easily cloud your judgment, which is why it is best to be careful who you sleep with. Your body isn't candy; don't just give it away to anyone who asks.

Many people say that you shouldn't marry without test driving. Their argument is that your likelihood of divorce is higher if you marry without having sex first because sexual compatibility is very important. If this were true, why is our divorce rate so high at least in the US (I don't know about the rate in other countries)? Very few people are virgins until marriage in the US even if they marry young by their early 20s. This means most people are having sex before marriage and yet they discover they are incompatible in so many ways (even sexually) after marriage and they divorce. Clearly sex does not prepare you at all for marriage.

If you really want to know whether a partner will most likely be satisfying in the bedroom, then look at their communication style. Are they confident enough to directly tell you what they like and don't like? Can they voice their opinions maturely even though they are aware you have a differing opinion? Do their actions match their words? Can they keep a promise? Do you like the way they deal with disagreements or confrontation? Sex is all about communication. If they can't communicate about non-sexual topics in daily life, then they are going to have a difficult time performing in the bedroom long-term. s

posted November 13, 2020 03:09 AM            

What do you do if something happens to your partner and they can longer perform in bed even if they have the desire to do so? Are you going to leave them? There will come a day when sex will be off the table. Are you still going to love your spouse as a person or do you only love the sexual pleasure they once gave you?

People seem to forget that they can pick up random people on dating websites/apps/bars and find someone who is good in bed. Sex is not rocket science (being "good" in bed is not impressive nor is it an accomplishment). The real challenge is finding someone who genuinely loves you. Very few people manage to find this genuine love. Sex can easily make you think you have found "the one" when you really have not. I've had to comfort way too many friends who stayed with men because the sex was just too good to pass up even though these men were really terrible boyfriends. Sex is wonderful, but it can easily cloud your judgment, which is why it is best to be careful who you sleep with. Your body isn't candy; don't just give it away to anyone who asks.

Many people say that you shouldn't marry without test driving. Their argument is that your likelihood of divorce is higher if you marry without having sex first because sexual compatibility is very important. If this were true, why is our divorce rate so high at least in the US (I don't know about the rate in other countries)? Very few people are virgins until marriage in the US even if they marry young by their early 20s. This means most people are having sex before marriage and yet they discover they are incompatible in so many ways (even sexually) after marriage and they divorce. Clearly sex does not prepare you at all for marriage.

If you really want to know whether a partner will most likely be satisfying in the bedroom, then look at their communication style. Are they confident enough to directly tell you what they like and don't like? Can they voice their opinions maturely even though they are aware you have a differing opinion? Do their actions match their words? Can they keep a promise? Do you like the way they deal with disagreements or confrontation? Sex is all about communication. If they can't communicate about non-sexual topics in daily life, then they are going to have a difficult time performing in the bedroom long-term. s

posted November 13, 2020 04:17 AM            

Yesh come open my tunk

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Silly jokes appart

I briefly got hear smtgh abot this latly,

Boudelaire seemed tô write about this, and ow It turned into "trade/business in society,

And I thnink the question is outros of place, too ratinal and cold for something like lovemaking

posted November 13, 2020 01:11 PM            

Did you know that there are 'astrological indicators' of our (described) approach and style to relationships?

yep. Written in the stars!! LOL

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Astra .. Interesting points.
More divorces?
There's a difference in level of commitment when approaching the marriage.

Contracts, or Covenants

With women being economically self-sufficient now, there may be less of a "need" to BE married, or to STAY in a marriage relationship.

Some regard marriage as simply a legal contract they can EASILY slip-out-of should change occur.

Less of an incentive to STAY and tackle the hard-spots.

With pre-nuptials, that's entering a relationship with a PLAN in place "to" Divorce the partner. They enter into the contract without FULL "energetic/vibrational" commitment.

There's a difference between making a legal pledge, and taking a solemn OATH.

IF ABUSE is going on--- THIS is dangerous, and SHOULD end, in order to protect the one being victimized.

posted November 16, 2020 10:47 AM            

So you can say he would be in the position to compared, and sometimes for me that's frustrating though he never says anything about his past and the other day got me thinking if I should experience more in the sex department. I am 33 and he is 35.

I never felt like I needed it to be honest, this past 3 years with him have been amazing in the sex department though we are at that phase (because I'm pregnant) in which we have less than usual but still.

posted November 16, 2020 10:59 AM            

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Originally posted by areesquivel:
Interesting, I was thinking about that a few days ago, my partner he's been in committed relationships before so he's been with multiple sexual partners, on the other hand me, I was 30 when I met him and until I was 28 I was a virgin, I've been with only 3 man including him, and my current partner is the only one I have sex regularly cause the other 2 man I dated briefly.

So you can say he would be in the position to compared, and sometimes for me that's frustrating though he never says anything about his past and the other day got me thinking if I should experience more in the sex department. I am 33 and he is 35.

I never felt like I needed it to be honest, this past 3 years with him have been amazing in the sex department though we are at that phase (because I'm pregnant) in which we have less than usual but still.

Sex compatibility is important to me, I'm Scorpio ASC, so even if I haven't slept around with guys, I know I want to stay with him and I'm content.

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posted November 22, 2020 05:30 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
Which astrological signs are, Mirage?
I think mines are the Moon and Venus in Taurus.

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Hi Mee_chryssa

I don't know which 'house' your Moon and Venus Taurus in in?
(I don't have a copy of your chart.)

Read this article--
then see if this website helps pin down some of the meanings of your placements.
- http://i.thehoroscope.co/venus-in-5th-house-key-facts-about-its-influence-on-personal ity/

There's another aspect I've read that applies (because I have this)--
my Gemini Sun is just-below the horizon {Desc},
and in opposition to the Ascendant.

Sun opp Ascendant
Venus Taurus H5

posted January 17, 2021 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Astra:
People are so naive. Your sex life with your partner before marriage does not necessarily resemble your sex life after marriage. How many men do you know that initially brag that their girlfriend is amazing in bed, marries her and then complains that she is no longer interested in sex (even if they don't have kids)? This happens very frequently.

What do you do if something happens to your partner and they can longer perform in bed even if they have the desire to do so? Are you going to leave them? There will come a day when sex will be off the table. Are you still going to love your spouse as a person or do you only love the sexual pleasure they once gave you?

People seem to forget that they can pick up random people on dating websites/apps/bars and find someone who is good in bed. Sex is not rocket science (being "good" in bed is not impressive nor is it an accomplishment). The real challenge is finding someone who genuinely loves you. Very few people manage to find this genuine love. Sex can easily make you think you have found "the one" when you really have not. I've had to comfort way too many friends who stayed with men because the sex was just too good to pass up even though these men were really terrible boyfriends. Sex is wonderful, but it can easily cloud your judgment, which is why it is best to be careful who you sleep with. Your body isn't candy; don't just give it away to anyone who asks.

Many people say that you shouldn't marry without test driving. Their argument is that your likelihood of divorce is higher if you marry without having sex first because sexual compatibility is very important. If this were true, why is our divorce rate so high at least in the US (I don't know about the rate in other countries)? Very few people are virgins until marriage in the US even if they marry young by their early 20s. This means most people are having sex before marriage and yet they discover they are incompatible in so many ways (even sexually) after marriage and they divorce. Clearly sex does not prepare you at all for marriage.

If you really want to know whether a partner will most likely be satisfying in the bedroom, then look at their communication style. Are they confident enough to directly tell you what they like and don't like? Can they voice their opinions maturely even though they are aware you have a differing opinion? Do their actions match their words? Can they keep a promise? Do you like the way they deal with disagreements or confrontation? Sex is all about communication. If they can't communicate about non-sexual topics in daily life, then they are going to have a difficult time performing in the bedroom long-term.

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