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Topic: Delayed marriage/ family in the natal chart
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93nov Knowflake Posts: 38 From: Registered: Oct 2019
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posted December 05, 2020 07:49 AM
Good morning you guys and Happy Holidays. I just turned 27 and I have no children and don't see any in the near future. I got out of a very intense, narcissistic/ codependent relationship a little over a year ago and I am still healing from that. People are having children and younger and younger ages and most of my peers are already on their 2nd-3rd child. There is nothing wrong with me, generally speaking, as I am very attractive and educated. I just hope this isn't how my life is going to be. I feel like I missed my chance with the last relationship. I thought he would be the one to at least give me a child. I'm so depressed. My Saturn return is coming up too and I have absolutely nothing to show for it except a Bachelor's degree that I got 3.. almost 4 years ago and still haven't used.. nevermind Covid and all the plans that got canceled because of it. 11/11/1993 New Hyde Park, NY 5:00pm (birth certificate accurate) IP: Logged |
vansio Knowflake Posts: 1711 From: the outskirts of Delphi Registered: Dec 2017
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posted December 05, 2020 12:06 PM
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astri Knowflake Posts: 311 From: Registered: Nov 2018
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posted December 06, 2020 02:22 PM
Hi, I will give it a try:I see you have Pluto conjunct your DC, which means you may attract powerful partners. Your NN is in the 7th house conjunct Mars, so you're supposed to be in and seek out a long-term relationship. I think Mars conjunct the NN means you need to follow your own instincts more. With this placement, you may have the tendency to let others decide which beliefs are “meant” to be acted upon instead of instinctively acting on your own. This fits with what you say about having been in a co-dependent relationship. The fact that your NN is in Sagitarrius, could mean you need to find a partner that is willing to grow with you, not someone that you will bend yourself for into a pretzel. You also have the asteroids tantalus and ixion on your DC. Tantalus means something you desire very much but feel like you can't have and with Ixion, I wonder if you tend to attract the bad boy type? IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa Knowflake Posts: 620 From: Romania Registered: Jun 2020
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posted December 06, 2020 11:39 PM
Also, your Jupiter is conjunct your Venus, in Scorpio - this means you are a very intense person and with Pluto conjunct the DC will lead to relationships that are intense and meaningful, but close to a kind of dangerous situations, along with the Sun/DC/Pluto. Your North Node in the 7th house will point to a need to be in a relationship, but since it is a growing part of your chart, you still have some things to learn about partnership and relationships. Along with what astri said about Ixion, yes, you kinda need to differentiate between a partner and a boyfriend. Mars in the 7 th house will also point to some pursuing in the relationships that you have. Maybe being the one that is aggressive? Also, helps you to your North Node. You just need to learn healthy ways of relating to your loved ones and maybe put some boundaries so you can find your balance.IP: Logged |
Sunnya Knowflake Posts: 666 From: Sunnyland Registered: Jun 2014
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posted December 09, 2020 04:19 AM
quote: Originally posted by 93nov: Good morning you guys and Happy Holidays. I just turned 27 and I have no children and don't see any in the near future. I got out of a very intense, narcissistic/ codependent relationship a little over a year ago and I am still healing from that. People are having children and younger and younger ages and most of my peers are already on their 2nd-3rd child. (...)
I am not giving you an astrology answer because you don't need one. I will just say this: you are not late. The part in bold is the issue. The implicit belief you have to follow what your peers experience. Not everyone has to be married at 25 and popping kids. There is nothing wrong with those who do and those who don't. Life paths are diverse and different and what society may make you pressure to believe is not healthy...as you see. There is not a one size fits all in life and its timings. There is definitely nothing wrong with you apart from the apparent belief that you are late, thinking this will hinder you. Just live authentically and heal most importantly, the rest will follow. All the best. IP: Logged |
Plut0nian2 Knowflake Posts: 1163 From: Registered: Apr 2014
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posted December 09, 2020 11:33 AM
quote: Originally posted by Sunnya: I will just say this: you are not late. The part in bold is the issue. The implicit belief you have to follow what your peers experience. Not everyone has to be married at 25 and popping kids. There is nothing wrong with those who do and those who don't. Life paths are diverse and different and what society may make you pressure to believe is not healthy...as you see.Just live authentically
This. Reading the OP I felt like the only reason you want to get married & have children is because others do it, like you feel kind of incapable/left behind, not because you really want it. The "what will I show Saturn?" made me lol. Did you think what Saturn will show you if you are married and have a child with a wrong person? There aren't any rules in astrology that you should do this or that by a specific time. You have your own unique path, let the planets guide you. IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98 Knowflake Posts: 1685 From: Toronto,Ontario,Canada Registered: Nov 2014
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posted April 20, 2021 08:37 AM
Saturn In The 10th always delays marriage & kids until at least early 30s.IP: Logged |
Eternal Energy Knowflake Posts: 478 From: Registered: May 2020
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posted April 20, 2021 02:34 PM
In my opinion, Saturn in 7th makes the person decide to get married later in life. Saturn in 7th also shows a difference in age, status or background with the partner. I highly admire this place, as the person here is commited, loyal and devoted. Still...The 7th house Saturn person questions their self worth. An undeserving feeling is always present. They believe that they can't have a great partner. And they end up getting in mediocre relationships. And then being alone.IP: Logged |