posted December 05, 2020 07:49 AM            

I just turned 27 and I have no children and don't see any in the near future. I got out of a very intense, narcissistic/ codependent relationship a little over a year ago and I am still healing from that. People are having children and younger and younger ages and most of my peers are already on their 2nd-3rd child. There is nothing wrong with me, generally speaking, as I am very attractive and educated. I just hope this isn't how my life is going to be. I feel like I missed my chance with the last relationship. I thought he would be the one to at least give me a child. I'm so depressed. My Saturn return is coming up too and I have absolutely nothing to show for it except a Bachelor's degree that I got 3.. almost 4 years ago and still haven't used.. nevermind Covid and all the plans that got canceled because of it.

posted December 06, 2020 02:22 PM            

I see you have Pluto conjunct your DC, which means you may attract powerful partners. Your NN is in the 7th house conjunct Mars, so you're supposed to be in and seek out a long-term relationship. I think Mars conjunct the NN means you need to follow your own instincts more.
With this placement, you may have the tendency to let others decide which beliefs are “meant” to be acted upon instead of instinctively acting on your own. This fits with what you say about having been in a co-dependent relationship. The fact that your NN is in Sagitarrius, could mean you need to find a partner that is willing to grow with you, not someone that you will bend yourself for into a pretzel.

You also have the asteroids tantalus and ixion on your DC. Tantalus means something you desire very much but feel like you can't have and with Ixion, I wonder if you tend to attract the bad boy type?

posted December 09, 2020 04:19 AM            

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Originally posted by 93nov:
Good morning you guys and Happy Holidays.
I just turned 27 and I have no children and don't see any in the near future. I got out of a very intense, narcissistic/ codependent relationship a little over a year ago and I am still healing from that. People are having children and younger and younger ages and most of my peers are already on their 2nd-3rd child. (...)

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I am not giving you an astrology answer because you don't need one.

I will just say this: you are not late. The part in bold is the issue. The implicit belief you have to follow what your peers experience. Not everyone has to be married at 25 and popping kids. There is nothing wrong with those who do and those who don't.
Life paths are diverse and different and what society may make you pressure to believe is not healthy...as you see.

There is not a one size fits all in life and its timings.
There is definitely nothing wrong with you apart from the apparent belief that you are late, thinking this will hinder you.

Just live authentically and heal most importantly, the rest will follow.

posted December 09, 2020 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Sunnya:
I will just say this: you are not late. The part in bold is the issue. The implicit belief you have to follow what your peers experience. Not everyone has to be married at 25 and popping kids. There is nothing wrong with those who do and those who don't.
Life paths are diverse and different and what society may make you pressure to believe is not healthy...as you see.

Just live authentically

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This.

Reading the OP I felt like the only reason you want to get married & have children is because others do it, like you feel kind of incapable/left behind, not because you really want it.

The "what will I show Saturn?" made me lol.
Did you think what Saturn will show you if you are married and have a child with a wrong person?