posted May 03, 2021 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by dragonflies:
What would you say is a good match for a Sagittarius? I've had all my important relationships with water suns and Aquarius moons. A Sagittarius friend of mine has been in a 10+ years relationship with a Libra, and from the outside they are perfect, a real team, best friends, have a lot of fun, same wavelength. Libra falls into my 8th house, how does a Libra like that? Probably not that much, right?

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I think that depends on what other placements you have and what sort of aspects those planets could form to a Libra. As well as their aspects to your placements. A Libra with Moon and Mars in Scorpio could like 8th house and relate better to it.

posted May 03, 2021 03:18 PM            

I don't think Sag Sun is a particularly passionate sign i.e they tend to not want to be the center of the S.O'S world. Not like Aries and Leo often do.

So they are okay if the relationship flirts between "chummy chumminess" and occasional fiery displays of love. But the latter should be kept to a minimum.

Sagittarius wants to laugh and have a good time in relationships 1st.Love for them is not an epic, soul-changing experience (this even with Scorpio planets present in the Sag's chart). Sagittarius just wants to laugh and play.Love is a friendly dog that wants to play with a Frisbee on the beach.

When love gets too dramatic and intense. They can get intimidated. If too formal and rigid. They can feel stifled. If too casual and detached. They can feel ignored.

They like Gemini. But Gemini can be too frivolous for their fire.
They like Aquarius. But Aqua cab be too cool for their sometimes passionate nature.
They Like Aries. But Aries can be too forceful and temperamental for their more light-hearted approach.
They like Leo. But Leo can feel too "heavy" and forbidding for their freedom-loving selves.

Libra and Taurus are the right mix for me. I like Libra for its even temperament. And Taurus for its sensuous nature.

Above all , it is important to give Sag the "illusion" of freedom. Keep the door open, options open. And then watch them "choose" to stay each and every time.Irony!!

posted May 05, 2021 02:47 AM            

And as a Taurus Sun/Mercury/Juno I also appreciate some earthiness in them - stable, consistent etc.

posted May 05, 2021 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Sagittarius wants to laugh and have a good time in relationships 1st.Love for them is not an epic, soul-changing experience (this even with Scorpio planets present in the Sag's chart). Sagittarius just wants to laugh and play.Love is a friendly dog that wants to play with a Frisbee on the beach.

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Hmm I agree with most of what you said regarding Sagittarius & relationships. I am a Sagittarius sun & sag stellium with mercury, saturn, & uranus. Yes my freedom is everything to me. That and truth. I got all the lovely Sagittarius traits, and the not so lovely. Born with my foot in my mouth. My blunt speech isn't always taken how it is supposed to be. Planning anything more than 3 minutes in advance is a alien concept to me.

But I am also a strong Scorpio. I have Venus, Pluto & Pallas conjunct 5th house. Ceres is in Scorpio too but no conjunctions. I don't fall for people often. 3 in total. (Crushes mild interests don't count) love is very much a transformative, life changing experience for me. When I love I love with everything. The intensity of this conjunction does contridict my Sagittarius identity. Not to mention my Gemini moon. The least emotional moon. I can never express my Scorpio to its highest expression.

I keep it in check. Emotions can be overwhelming but my Gemini moon is usually able to difuse the intensity when it gets too much with logic. Sagittarius knows to play it cool. But when my Venus sets its sight on a victi- love interest I mean, she's committed.

posted May 11, 2021 11:50 AM            

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I don’t like people who are too boring, serious or intense. [/B]

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I call BS. Who doesn't like kickin it with an uncomfortably intense bore who can't take a joke?

I had a boss like that. Sometimes you'd just have to stop for a moment because some of her reactions were just so inappropriate for the situation that you think this must be a joke. That is really the only logical explanation within most people's grasp because no one acts like that.

One time a friend of one of the owners of the company came by for w/e reason & was chatting it up with myself and a few other employees including this crazy lady. We started talking about smoking (cigarettes) everyone else there besides myself and the guy were smokers. At Some point he kind of comments/jokes about the old wives tail about it stunting growth. I thought nothing of it, but the guy I guess noticed the crazy broad likely displaying facial & body cues that seemed unexpected & out of place. So he goes something like "I didn't mean that to sound offensive" which I thought was an odd thing to say because who is honestly going to be offended by that? This crazy chain smoking broad says with all seriousness "that actually is very offensive." Then all condescending like tells the guy that wasn't a joke & he needed to watch what he said like she was scolding a child. He obviously didn't quite know how to react to that other than saying sorry with a kind of "wtf?" Look on his face. She goes back to her office & I look at the guy & kind of shake my head with a look oh my face like "yeah ik, don't even pay her anymore, she's crazy" waving/flipping hand in her direction. Just a crazy broad.

Like @$$!% smoking is a choice. Addicted or not you chose to inhale that garbage. IMO we have every right to make w/e comment we please in this regard. If this was aimed at people of a certain race,sexuality,religion/gender/mental illneas..etc offense is understood & validated. It is just common knowledge, some lines we know not to cross, joking or not.

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posted May 12, 2021 11:57 AM            

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Originally posted by dragonflies:
How was it? I hear of Virgo-Sagittarius relationships and I wonder...I guess it helps that both signs are mutable and even though it can be a square I like to talk to Virgos because they have a clear mind and a get-to-it attitude that I can appreciate since I am like that also. Other than that...I don't see it, even though I have Virgo on my 7th house.

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absolutely terrible lol for the most part but sometimes we had a lot of fun together, i wouldn't blame the sag sun for the issues though

just like her whole chart combined and our synastry lol and life/fate etc

some **** just isn't meant to work out or last forever 🤷‍♀️ towards the end of it i felt like this song though lol:

verygoodvibes

posted May 12, 2021 04:44 PM            

In my past successful RS's I can say Water (all 3 signs) was most reliable as a coupling. The inner awareness or speechless communication (inner nuances) came much more into effect. Plus water can
be a good element to weaken a fully fueled fire. Too much fire, if like me the Sag in question has a lot, needs to cool down some of that blaze - water is good at that.
His Jupiter > my 5th and my Jupiter to his 12th and these are Water&Fire houses.

I'd say as well look at another person's Jupiter. As it rules Sagittarius.

Then you might look to Mercury (Gem ruler) and the Sun Rulers placement connection too. Everything has a potential in working but sealing the connection is what matters most. If you wish for long term. Fire signs do have trouble sometimes in that area. Jmo

posted May 19, 2021 11:24 PM            

They don't want to be told "stay". They'll leave. But when you say "You are welcome to leave". Watch them stay. [/B][/QUOTE]

posted May 20, 2021 04:42 AM            

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They don't want to be told "stay". They'll leave. But when you say "You are welcome to leave". Watch them stay.

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---As a Sagittarius, I can confirm this to be true [/B][/QUOTE]

posted June 01, 2021 11:16 AM            

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Originally posted by plutonianmenace:
Aquarius for sure. I feel like Aquarius men are the best match for a Sagittarius women for the very reason Leo men are the worst match. Aquas know how to play it cool and not get controlling.

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I ran into my Aqua crush from HS a couple weeks back. I wrote him a loooong love letter back in the day . Still, they're not a good match, and that's coming from an Aquarius Rising. Aquarius men usually end up with Virgo women or even Scorpio women. Strange match, but they don't like to be challenged intellectually or surpassed so I guess it makes sense.

posted June 09, 2021 07:57 AM            

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Originally posted by dragonflies:
Oh, just her whole chart combined? LOL
At least you put in the synastry part as well. 😉

I'm generally curious: what do Virgos like about Sagittarius and what don't they like? Did you hang onto her and made things happen? What was her role in the relationship? Sorry, nosy 😇

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sorry didn't see this, honestly it was her scorpio placements that i think were negative for me ultimately, i find scorpio placements in women in particular very stifling and i can't deal with the manipulative ********

us both having aries moons helped and hurt because i get over things quick and my libra **** tends towards compromise cap mars i think is why i kept steady in spite of things being pretty terrible

if by me hanging onto her you mean **** like me trying to break up and her saying "no" or her being pushy about dating me in the first place or her continuing to tell me that she loves and misses me when i tell her to leave me alone well after the break up then sure 🤷‍♀️

the reality is i'm not a clingy person, i entered that relationship on the condition that it was open (i would never be monogamous with a woman) my chart has heavy easy uranus aspects (to my libra ascendant/venus/south node, leo mercury, aries moon/descendant/north node which all form a kite)

i can be steady and loyal but i have no desire to own or be owned

i can have fun with sags they're good to drink/get high with and considering much of our relationship revolved around drugs that was a big part of why things went on so long

she pursued me, i turned her down at first then later felt bad because she turned it into a huge thing and agreed then got trapped in it and did what i could to make it work due to loyalty and promises made

if i make someone a promise i will try like hell to keep it simply put

i'm by no means perfect she found me frustrating and emotionally distant often would complain that i didn't pay enough attention to her etc (though to be fair if she was around she wanted constant attention and even something like me reading but being present wasn't good enough) i found her too needy and she was incapable of being content without constantly doing something

i don't need constant attention and i don't want to give constant attention to another human on their terms meanwhile the reverse was never true if she wanted to do something she felt free to do it regardless of any prior plans and would throw a fit like i was being controlling if i said as much (nevermind that i'd actively encourage her going out with people so i could be left the **** alone sometimes)

her moon-neptune square was ******* annoying, her scorpio venus conjunct pluto was **** so was her scorpio mercury (my mars falling into her 12th house was bad too because it made her ******* suspicious of me beyond reason she never understood my actions or motivations)

her sag sun though, that was conjunct my uranus trine my moon trine my mercury sextile my venus/ascendant and positively aspected my nodes as a result

posted June 09, 2021 08:26 AM            

literally had points where it was like "well you did this 15 years ago" nevermind whether or not i did it since

post break up she was still mad at me for getting with someone else years before while we were together nevermind that she encouraged the situation and i asked a million times over was transparent etc

she swore it led to her developing all kinds of issues she already had prior to that (i know because we lived together) and was constantly testing me

she did **** like get mad at me for not noticing her taking too many pills and trying to kill herself while i was asleep for example

she was very self centered and only concerned with her own feelings and actively would push and encourage "emotional affairs" then get mad at me for having those too (granted the thing she harped on was not just an emotional affair but an entire other relationship that was physical as well but again only with her consent and pushing) because she felt like i wasn't emotionally available enough for her never grasping that if it's not mutual someone can't fully be

i did emotionally check out, very much so, i did seek out in others what i didn't get with her (but that was something i pre-established and she would actively say "find someone else for that" then get mad when i did) and so on

she didn't like that me being angry is often a cold thing (i've been told i get very business like when i'm upset and generally this is true though i can lose my temper), she'd poke in too many ways to get emotional reactions out of me etc and so on because my normal level of emotions often wasn't good enough for her

ironically i can be rather sensitive and sentimental so i found it unfair but 🤷‍♀️ is what it is

our last interaction was her being angry that i don't miss her or care anymore as if us spending almost 15 years together and being friends for years before that should somehow matter now

when i'm done that's it i'm done, there's just nothing left