posted October 28, 2021 08:49 PM            

Are you a Scorpio with children?

If so, how's your relationship with the father?

I'll be 28 next month and I still have no children and never been married. My last relationship was the only relationship I was actually willing to take it there with and it all fell a part. I tried everything to make it work, but it takes two to tango. Plus, I don't really think I should be with someone who doesn't really want to be with me which was the case, honestly.

My ex was an undiagnosed narcissist in which i have no doubts, even still, about is true nature. I hope this helps paint a clearer picture.

We lived together for half of our 3 year relationship. It ended VERY badly.

Now I'm back in my hometown, almost two years as of today.. and no friends, no man, not even a pet. I feel so alone lol. I have never experienced this type of pain before. It's so deep, I can't even reach for it. I'm numb. I cry randomly. It has been a rollercoaster.

My father is abusive and my mother is his brainwashed flying monkey cheerleader so I kinda got thrown to the wolves when he came home from prison. Fast-forward... here i am. I've been damn near homeless and on weed ever since. At least I managed to get my degree in the midst of it all.

Anyway, I just really want to read other experiences from people. You don't even have to be a Scorpio.. I just thought I'd start there since I have a stellium in that sign.

Any women went through trials and tribulations but still made it out okay?

I just want a baby and a semi calm existence. I will be content with life with that. My issue is, im not sure if i'll ever find someone i like enough to have a child. Times have changed and a lot of people in my age group and racial demographic either had kids when were in high school/ college and/ or are having them now. Either way, i have nothing to look forward to. It's crazy how life works.. i spent my whole life chasing a family and children only to end up with nothing.

Is there anything in someone's chart that would show the absence of children?

I was born on 11/11/1993

posted October 29, 2021 02:15 AM            

Happiness is not the absence of problems is the ability to cope with them, is not the absence of pain is the ability to heal and bounce back from the pain, happiness is the ability to keep hope/faith alive and see the bigger picture so you don't get stuck focusing on the negative and the things you cannot control, happiness is the ability to turn a crisis into an opportunity and create meaning out of the chaos around you, happiness is the wisdom of knowing when to let something go and accept it, happiness is the ability to adapt, be resourceful and forgive. Happiness is humility but is also knowing your worth and not needing the approval of others. Happiness is not a fairy tale but there are moments that will feel magical and will take your breath away, beautiful moments you will never forget and you will play an important role in helping create.

posted November 02, 2021 08:36 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
When you chase anything it means you are attached to the idea of it or a specific outcome, it means you are telling the universe I desperately need this to be happy and the universe does not like that for some reason. The irony is that if you chase and you actually get what you wanted is only bc the universe wants you to realize by getting it that its not as awesome as you made it out to be in your head and it won't fix whatever you are subconsciously trying to fix. When you pursue something its different, you are in this case actively working towards creating an experience but without feeling attached to the outcome or the process.

Happiness is not the absence of problems is the ability to cope with them, is not the absence of pain is the ability to heal and bounce back from the pain, happiness is the ability to keep hope/faith alive and see the bigger picture so you don't get stuck focusing on the negative and the things you cannot control, happiness is the ability to turn a crisis into an opportunity and create meaning out of the chaos around you, happiness is the wisdom of knowing when to let something go and accept it, happiness is the ability to adapt, be resourceful and forgive. Happiness is humility but is also knowing your worth and not needing the approval of others. Happiness is not a fairy tale but there are moments that will feel magical and will take your breath away, beautiful moments you will never forget and you will play an important role in helping create.

I feel your pain and its relatable how you are feeling. This is all part of the human experience, we feel lost, we feel vulnerable, we get hurt, we think we are dying yet we somehow rise from the ashes, we fall out of love with life and then we fall back in love with life, we find ourselves and start our own personal journey towards self mastery.

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I appreciate you taking the time to give some well thought-out advice. Thank you and I definitely needed to read those words, Astrology aside.

Everything you stated is what I struggle with almost daily. Then there are those few days where all seems right in the world and I feel like I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. This whole experience has been weird and uncomfortable, but I am learning to adjust.

posted November 02, 2021 08:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Are you experiencing a Saturn return? Is your Sat in Aqua and the current transit in Aqua is interacting with it?

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I think my Saturn return is next year, but I definitely could be wrong. I'll be 29 next year.

posted November 02, 2021 09:14 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
When you chase anything...

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Much wisdom and truth to the above reply. (Deeply bows).

posted November 03, 2021 08:08 AM            

What's the difference between chase and pursue?

Seriously.

posted November 03, 2021 08:58 AM            

Out of curiosity, how is your approach towards health, fitness, nutrition, work, and daily routine?

posted November 03, 2021 01:55 PM            

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Originally posted by 93nov:
Hypatia's reply brings another question to mind:

What's the difference between chase and pursue?

Seriously.

Once I focus on something or someone, I can't imagine focusing on anything else. Why would I? Why should I? My Libra moon snaps into formation and yells "Because.. BALANCE!"

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Can I ask how you find balance only focusing on one thing?

posted November 03, 2021 03:40 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
When you chase anything it means you are attached to the idea of it or a specific outcome, it means you are telling the universe I desperately need this to be happy and the universe does not like that for some reason. The irony is that if you chase and you actually get what you wanted is only bc the universe wants you to realize by getting it that its not as awesome as you made it out to be in your head and it won't fix whatever you are subconsciously trying to fix. When you pursue something its different, you are in this case actively working towards creating an experience but without feeling attached to the outcome or the process.

Happiness is not the absence of problems is the ability to cope with them, is not the absence of pain is the ability to heal and bounce back from the pain, happiness is the ability to keep hope/faith alive and see the bigger picture so you don't get stuck focusing on the negative and the things you cannot control, happiness is the ability to turn a crisis into an opportunity and create meaning out of the chaos around you, happiness is the wisdom of knowing when to let something go and accept it, happiness is the ability to adapt, be resourceful and forgive. Happiness is humility but is also knowing your worth and not needing the approval of others. Happiness is not a fairy tale but there are moments that will feel magical and will take your breath away, beautiful moments you will never forget and you will play an important role in helping create.

I feel your pain and its relatable how you are feeling. This is all part of the human experience, we feel lost, we feel vulnerable, we get hurt, we think we are dying yet we somehow rise from the ashes, we fall out of love with life and then we fall back in love with life, we find ourselves and start our own personal journey towards self mastery.

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Do you have a well aspected Pallas and maybe asteroid 12472 Samadhi, Hypathia ? Well written.

When I was 28, I wasn't yet able to really live those insights though.
I guess you have to chase, struggle and be unhappy sometimes when you're young.
Otherwise, how can you develop ?
Even the occacional unhappiness should be accepted...
But now and then it helps ofcourse to be reminded about how to escape it and find back to your peaceful, inner core. 🧘

I do understand the wish to have a child, it's a natural and strong instinct.
Maybe it could help to analyse, what the different, deeper reasons behind that wish are in your unconcious.
What would a baby give to you or you to the baby ?
What would feel different in your life than before ?
Can you fullfill the 'needing' part of this wish independently from anything outside yourself ?

Possibly when you see and feel this more clearly, a soul/souls would feel drawn to you as their mother, maybe they're already waiting...they love you and then they would feel that you are ready now and that they wouldn't just make your life even more difficult, they would feel invited.
And they can arrange - if it is God's will -
that you will meet their father somehow...

posted November 04, 2021 07:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
Hi!

Out of curiosity, how is your approach towards health, fitness, nutrition, work, and daily routine?

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Average at best, but I am low key obsessed with all subjects aforementioned haha (: Let me put it this way: if I wasn't suffering from long-term depression and did not grow up in a toxic environment, i would be 10x more disciplined and motivated.

I have always took pride in my nice figure and people always ask me if I a cheerleader or athlete although i only played sports briefly in school and it was almost never "organized".

My father is a big health nut but he still drinks, smokes, and eats a ton of junk food.

It's hard to explain lol.

On one hand, I was taught and raised to be health conscious so I'm moderately selective about what food i eat.

For example: I'll go to Plublix and buy some fruits, organic popcorn, and veggies.. but then I'll also buy some Neese's sausage and bacon.

I think I'm half/ half with a slight advantage compared to a lot of people in my demographic. I hope this makes sense lol.

But as I am typing this... are you saying this could be a major focus for me... in terms of transits? I never thought if that. Ha. And it makes sense considering this is the area I've been struggling with and feeling guilty about since graduating college.

posted November 04, 2021 07:55 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Can I ask how you find balance only focusing on one thing?

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You misunderstood my response and clearly looking for a petty argument.

There is a constant internal struggle here.

posted November 04, 2021 09:57 AM            

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Originally posted by 93nov:
You misunderstood my response and clearly looking for a petty argument.

There is a constant internal struggle here.

My Libra moon eventually steps in and offers another perspective. Always. My Scorpio stellium is the one out of balance. Of course this all theoretical. My Libra moon isn't an actual person... ya know?

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I wasn’t looking for an argument but since you bring up the subject, I think you should try and tone down your biting sarcasm which is typical of Scorpios. Trust me, I’ve dealt with my mother for 45 years so I know the drill. So instead of assuming I’m up to no good, you could have chosen to POLITELY explain to me why my question was out of bounds. I actually took interest in your post since I have experience of Scorpios and Pluto, but now I’m out.

posted November 04, 2021 10:05 AM            

I think Charlie didn't mean it with the tone you assumed...
I guess it was just a friendly question, I also understood that post of yours about the Libra/balance wrong first, like Charlie probably - just a little verbal misunderstanding.

In case you might have misunderstood the tone of my post as well : I had a warm, friendly feeling towards you the whole time. 🌺

posted November 04, 2021 10:35 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I wasn’t looking for an argument but since you bring up the subject, I think you should try and tone down your biting sarcasm which is typical of Scorpios. Trust me, I’ve dealt with my mother for 45 years so I know the drill. So instead of assuming I’m up to no good, you could have chosen to POLITELY explain to me why my question was out of bounds. I actually took interest in your post since I have experience of Scorpios and Pluto, but now I’m out.

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I have some experience with Scorpio as well, and I agree in general, but every astrological placement has a reason in past lives, and everything can be developt/evolved.
To evolve Scorpio-energy might be the hardest of all, but once this is mastered, it is just wonderful ...

posted November 04, 2021 11:02 AM            

Still healing.

I'm not opposed to looking at things from a different point of view and I actually get challenged quite often lol.

I don't think Pluto is the culprit here though.. at least in my case.. not completely.

posted November 06, 2021 02:12 AM            

I ran your chart (neat bday btw) I found it interesting that you have asteroids "destin" & "child" conjunct within a degree of one another as well as your Sun.

Your Sun & child asteroid are both at 19° Scorpio & asteroid destin is at 20° (first asteroids I selected too)

Please don't worry yourself. Seriously, you are only 28. That is young AF. You still have yet to go through your saturn return. In all honesty I would recommend anyone to wait until they have put that return behind them. But that is just me. Return saturn is a somewhat difficult time & you have your saturn exact your asteroid Pallas in the 10th which makes me feel like this transit is being emphasized making it that much more significant.

Hypatia's post is one of the wisest things I have heard in awhile. & I will tell you she is absolutely correct. You will never find what your are looking for if you are looking for it. If you are actively looking for a man then please stop. Focus on the things that make us better, like health & career & spirituality. But seriously take her advice because it is lifesaving.

If it makes you feel any better, I am 34yo, almost 35 single with no kids & no career to explain the absence of the former. I can totally relate to the discomfort that comes with being one of the few people in my peer group without kids. However I do not want children & I didn't even really want them when I was your age either. These days I am very comfortable in my skin though and do not envy my child rearing friends the slightest. Not my cup of tea at all. Some people are just born to be parents. I am not one of those people & I know it & I love it.

But from what you said, it is apparent motherhood is very important and your chart confirms that. From what I have seen it seems like you will make a wonderful mother and your future children will be very fortunate. But you are not at your best right now & it is essential that you are that first.

posted November 06, 2021 03:07 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:

Happiness is not the absence of problems is the ability to cope with them, is not the absence of pain is the ability to heal and bounce back from the pain, happiness is the ability to keep hope/faith alive and see the bigger picture so you don't get stuck focusing on the negative and the things you cannot control, happiness is the ability to turn a crisis into an opportunity and create meaning out of the chaos around you, happiness is the wisdom of knowing when to let something go and accept it, happiness is the ability to adapt, be resourceful and forgive. Happiness is humility but is also knowing your worth and not needing the approval of others. Happiness is not a fairy tale but there are moments that will feel magical and will take your breath away, beautiful moments you will never forget and you will play an important role in helping create.

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