posted January 11, 2022 06:36 PM            

The second reason - he said because I didn't communicate my feelings and say I was interested.

posted January 12, 2022 03:28 AM            

1) I projected my own feelings of NOT liking you but was too chicken **** to tell you

posted January 12, 2022 04:02 AM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
So....never experienced a cancer sign man until recently. I have dealt with libras a lot and scorpios but never a cancer sign. I went on a date with one; who seemed great, seemed said they were interested...I assumed there would be at least a 2nd date. He said I was hard to figure out; he couldn't tell if I was interested or not...that it seemed like I was; then seemed like I was't..he kept asking if I was interesed and if I was attracted; I don't like those questions after a 1st date I think my actions speak louder..I didn't want to answer that (I felt what if he only looking for a ego stroke wants to hear it just to hear it) He mentioned he liked when people were honest that he was very honest and frank He left, gave me a kiss on the forehead was super nice..then I was f'in ghosted!!! Finally after begging for a reason he ghosted me...
He said because I lied (never once did I lie) bar we went to 2 people said hi and knew me(I never go to this bar) I live in a small town and everyone knows everyone here regardless where I go someone going to know me. So, he assumed I am there all the time which I am not.

The second reason - he said because I didn't communicate my feelings and say I was interested.

I find these reasons completely ridiculous and a dumb reason to ghost someone not even opting to pass up someone you like; I get it after a 2nd or 3rd date but one??? Like does this sound like a reason a cancer man would do this????

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The thing is that this Can is anticipating rejection(i suspect you are dealing with a low vibration one).

The issue with him is "trust". In that even though you may have given him no reason to doubt you, it is through your "popularity" in that small town that makes him think that there are many opportunities you have of cheating or being picked up by someone else.

He is even reading body language and all sorts of perceived sublime actions because he is LOOKING for a reason to feel insecure.

Now typically speaking, a confident man wouldn't notice other suitors if his attention is on you. Infact he'll even consider those "rivals" to your heart to be downright irrelevant. And that is because he is convinced that you and he are the MOST compatible.

But this guy wanted assurance right from the get go. It wasn't so much about you but really about how comfortable he is about you. That spells insecurity in my books and perhaps you dodged a bullet by having him ghost you because he wanted you to "kow tow" to his demands.

YOU must "feel" out the environment to see if he is comfortable or not. YOU must make the relations between you two "fluffy" i.e. YOU may end up playing the role of "Mom' to him through these very obvious(in my view) manipulation tactics.

Don't do it. Don't fall for it. I have a mom who married a cancer(Dad) and he does this emotional manipulation thing a lot.

She however has learned to succumb to it and so she is most times not even aware that he is doing it. Or perhaps she enjoys it?(Mars is in Cancer)

posted January 13, 2022 03:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
Pisces 4th house sun here. Saturn in my 4th house as well.

Women love a man in touch with his feelings thing about us water men is some of us have a hard time accepting our emotional nature. But when we are more evolved we are without a doubt the most loyal, protective, loving and funny guys to be around. When we are happy, we are the **** . But it takes a lot out of us to fake it, we need to make sure the vibes are right. If we like the vibe and feel comfortable, you will experience heaven on Earth. Water sign men are the best when we aren't ******* acting nuts

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posted January 14, 2022 01:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
Pisces 4th house sun here. Saturn in my 4th house as well.

Women love a man in touch with his feelings thing about us water men is some of us have a hard time accepting our emotional nature. But when we are more evolved we are without a doubt the most loyal, protective, loving and funny guys to be around. When we are happy, we are the **** . But it takes a lot out of us to fake it, we need to make sure the vibes are right. If we like the vibe and feel comfortable, you will experience heaven on Earth. Water sign men are the best when we aren't ******* acting nuts

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posted January 14, 2022 01:34 PM            

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Originally posted by dragonflies:
Isn't it obvious that you too are not a good mix? Why are you running after a man who treats you unkindly? Miscommunication is one thing, immature and paranoid behaviour after two seconds of knowing someone quite another. Have some respect for yourself, because he clearly didn't show you any respect. Heads up, there are better men out there!!

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posted January 14, 2022 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
Pisces 4th house sun here. Saturn in my 4th house as well.

Women love a man in touch with his feelings thing about us water men is some of us have a hard time accepting our emotional nature. But when we are more evolved we are without a doubt the most loyal, protective, loving and funny guys to be around. When we are happy, we are the **** . But it takes a lot out of us to fake it, we need to make sure the vibes are right. If we like the vibe and feel comfortable, you will experience heaven on Earth. Water sign men are the best when we aren't ******* acting nuts

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posted January 14, 2022 01:57 PM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:

Didn't ask for your personal opinion...who said I am running after him?? Assumptions you asswipe is all your making. STFU get lost a*()&*)&

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posted January 16, 2022 10:22 PM            

99% of the people I date, I'm lucky to even have a fulfilling interaction with them at all.

Let alone come to a conclusion so early on.

Dating is like a game of cat and mouse.

And it's the only thing in life that doesn't always equate with hard work. What I mean is that what other area of life can you put in all sorts of hard work and not have a for sure 100% chance of improving in some manner? The answer is dating, because there is no guarantee. You could work your ass off for 6 months straight to be left completely stranded, and left out empty handed, with nothing to show for it. I can't think of any other area of life that this happens in.

It's not like you could study for 6 months straight for a homework assignment that you had to redo and not get 1% higher grade than you did last time. That just doesn't happen. With dating, you could literally get shot down after a year of preparation. Aka: you just wasted a year of your life for nothing.

I don't even understand how it's supposed to be even remotely practical in the slightest.

posted January 17, 2022 11:46 AM            

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Originally posted by henryhampton:
At least he was honest with you. lol

99% of the people I date, I'm lucky to even have a fulfilling interaction with them at all.

Let alone come to a conclusion so early on.

Dating is like a game of cat and mouse.

And it's the only thing in life that doesn't always equate with hard work. What I mean is that what other area of life can you put in all sorts of hard work and not have a for sure 100% chance of improving in some manner? The answer is dating, because there is no guarantee. You could work your ass off for 6 months straight to be left completely stranded, and left out empty handed, with nothing to show for it. I can't think of any other area of life that this happens in.

It's not like you could study for 6 months straight for a homework assignment that you had to redo and not get 1% higher grade than you did last time. That just doesn't happen. With dating, you could literally get shot down after a year of preparation. Aka: you just wasted a year of your life for nothing.

I don't even understand how it's supposed to be even remotely practical in the slightest.

It's one of the worst "investments" I've ever heard of in my life. If not the worst.

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posted January 17, 2022 12:36 PM            

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Originally posted by dragonflies:
Isn't it obvious that you too are not a good mix? Why are you running after a man who treats you unkindly? Miscommunication is one thing, immature and paranoid behaviour after two seconds of knowing someone quite another. Have some respect for yourself, because he clearly didn't show you any respect. Heads up, there are better men out there!!

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posted January 17, 2022 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
Then he must not be as evolved as he says if he let one little thing be such a issue; where he went off licked his wounds instead of communicating like a mature adult when I respectfully asked the issue. He claimed he only liked open, direct communication and didn't give it openly when I wanted to know the issue. I never dealt with a cancer sign never been tossed aside over something so frivolous as I didn't say I was interested; I thought it was obvious nothing I needed to answer verbally when he asked..it was 1 date we could of saved those discussons for a 2nd date

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You analysed the situation exactly right, as it seems.
In that case he would repeat his immature behaviour in a potential relationship...

Just to be very shure, that there is not a simple misunderstanding causing this situation, I would maybe write to him and explain your view in details, if I were you.

posted January 17, 2022 04:45 PM            

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Originally posted by harmonicvibes:
Hhahaa...you are absolutely right Hampton; its so wild to me how hard dating is..definitely exhausting. I can exert myself in other area of my life and attain what I want; dating forget about it! I don't recall a time I ever even had opportunity to date see how things will develop with someone I am interested in...always a huge disappointment and ones who are interested in attempting further the connection; NO THANKS...

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Yeah, I think women and men just come to the playing field with a certain "box" of theirs and it's not exactly what either of them had in mind.

Women and men love similarly yet differently at the same time.

You also run the risk of coming across so many different variables, like maturity for one.

It also doesn't help that our society is fueled by the media, hedonism, etc... that can often even stifle true love. True love in and of itself has its own "Alice in Wonderland."

There are so many things at play that even Thomas Edison wouldn't be able to make a "break through."

He'd just be like, well,.... "I guess this world's not going to be able to see anything in the future. I'm done with this nonsense."

posted January 17, 2022 05:17 PM            

Not saying you are insecure but as a heavy water guy it really hurts that we have all this love and compassion and the world treats that like a negative thing. Which is why we are mostly introverted. Aspects aside we don't just let anybody in our life. Trust and connection is big. We are not that complicated. Just tell us what the hell you want. We love to please our partner. I'm not a Cancer but I have a 4th house sun and I'm a Pisces, so I get defensive for my brothers. We relate to women well I am assume being a water sign. Which may turn off and confuse women more straight forward. In all honesty, we are sh1t testing you to see if your not fake human being. We don't tolerate superficial ties.

This generation sucks anyways relationships aren't respected and everyone is in it for their own gain. If you come off as a insincere person we will make sure you never experience our gifts. I'm tired of all this gender hate. Women do need to try to be more direct and not always depend on body language as a form of communication. And guys need to start fighting for our beliefs again to ensure the system doesn't get power hungry. Men are lazy as hell now with no unifying, positive world changing goals, and women are being pushed into roles they don't feel comfortable with but have to commit to. This generation is garbage with a complete disregard for spirituality. I feel for women because it must be really tough at times dealing with new world. The world is out of balance. Nobody will care until it's too late though. That's why some men don't even participate. Society is ****** .

posted January 17, 2022 06:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Radium:
Classic. Hate on us water men for being in tune with our spirituality. I swear water sign males get hated on for reasons that don't make sense. It's like we have access to the spiritual realm and emotional core and get labeled "weak" for simply being who we are. The most hated and loved element by far. We get sacrificed so much for other people's insecurities.

Not saying you are insecure but as a heavy water guy it really hurts that we have all this love and compassion and the world treats that like a negative thing. Which is why we are mostly introverted. Aspects aside we don't just let anybody in our life. Trust and connection is big. We are not that complicated. Just tell us what the hell you want. We love to please our partner. I'm not a Cancer but I have a 4th house sun and I'm a Pisces, so I get defensive for my brothers. We relate to women well I am assume being a water sign. Which may turn off and confuse women more straight forward. In all honesty, we are sh1t testing you to see if your not fake human being. We don't tolerate superficial ties.

This generation sucks anyways relationships aren't respected and everyone is in it for their own gain. If you come off as a insincere person we will make sure you never experience our gifts. I'm tired of all this gender hate. Women do need to try to be more direct and not always depend on body language as a form of communication. And guys need to start fighting for our beliefs again to ensure the system doesn't get power hungry. Men are lazy as hell now with no unifying, positive world changing goals, and women are being pushed into roles they don't feel comfortable with but have to commit to. This generation is garbage with a complete disregard for spirituality. I feel for women because it must be really tough at times dealing with new world. The world is out of balance. Nobody will care until it's too late though. That's why some men don't even participate. Society is ****** .

Love ya and good luck

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