posted March 28, 2022 09:41 PM            

For one, they will hit you a lot once they get comfortable with you. One Aries woman I used to regularly sleep with would always resort to punching me in the mouth or slapping me but then almost laughing about it right afterwards, like it was a language I was supposed to understand.

I won't get much vulgar here but it has been common for me to "wrestle" a lot at nights with the Aries women I have been with.

Now at the same time, the violence is not coming from a sinister place but instead more of an innocent place. Like there is this prankster demeanor and physical violence with all of the Aries women I have been with but its almost like a "dude I am just messing with you" type. When we do get to it, yeah it gets really rough but I wonder if its due to the straightforward martian nature of the sign.

posted March 29, 2022 12:31 AM            

At least you dont take offense to it and play along🤷🏿‍♂️. I find I do this too and its often unconscious. And there is no malice behind it at all. But I have learned that some people respond negatively to it. So I try to knock it off .

When I was grpwing ip, my brother and I used to punch and kick each other a lot. Wrestle each other to the ground or do other very "rough" things by calling each other obscene names or playing pranks etc.

The actions were twofold. First to establish dominance. Andthen the other was mostly to show affection.

Mars (imo) is rough and tumble. Both men and women can express affection through rough ways i.e they punch you in the stomach, smack you on the shoulders etc.

I had a cousin who had Moon in Aries (female) and I used to take offense and even get angry when she did those thimgs to me.It annoyed me plenty.

But now when older, I realize that that was her way of showing affection. And perhaps the way I was seeong her was limited and I expected her to act in a "female" way. So my anger often stemmed from not knowing how to respond.🤷🏿‍♂️

posted March 29, 2022 05:15 AM            

I know I'm not for people who can't take it a little bit rough at times. Being it verbally, but also phisically. When passion takes over me I can bite or pull hair or enjoy my hair being pulled or wrestle... Haha but it's all an expression of my affection and firey feelings once I get really comfortable with a partner.

posted March 30, 2022 11:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I often think of fire sign energy as the "pull your hair"or "punch your shoulder" coz they really like you, type of showing feelings (this esp Aries). No matter the gender involved.

At least you dont take offense to it and play along🤷🏿‍♂️. I find I do this too and its often unconscious. And there is no malice behind it at all. But I have learned that some people respond negatively to it. So I try to knock it off .

When I was grpwing ip, my brother and I used to punch and kick each other a lot. Wrestle each other to the ground or do other very "rough" things by calling each other obscene names or playing pranks etc.

The actions were twofold. First to establish dominance. Andthen the other was mostly to show affection.

Mars (imo) is rough and tumble. Both men and women can express affection through rough ways i.e they punch you in the stomach, smack you on the shoulders etc.

I had a cousin who had Moon in Aries (female) and I used to take offense and even get angry when she did those thimgs to me.It annoyed me plenty.

But now when older, I realize that that was her way of showing affection. And perhaps the way I was seeong her was limited and I expected her to act in a "female" way. So my anger often stemmed from not knowing how to respond.🤷🏿‍♂️

If she was male, it would have been sa wrestle on the floor for sure🤣🤣

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So, you get what I was saying in another thread. Sort of.

I find myself getting defensive, because things are just put out there as being fact, when my cappy sister was always more physical, and she was surprised when I did the smallest thing to defend myself (physically - I do have a mouth, when I've had enough).

posted March 31, 2022 12:13 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
So, you get what I was saying in another thread. Sort of.

I find myself getting defensive, because things are just put out there as being fact, when my cappy sister was always more physical, and she was surprised when I did the smallest thing to defend myself (physically - I do have a mouth, when I've had enough).

I used to occasionally tap/slap someone's arm lightly, when everyone was doing it, to get your attention, or when you're laughing or something. But punching someone in the mouth is another thing entirely. Whenever I watch TV shows where it's fake, I think about the dental work that might be involved, when someone is on the receiving end - and since I've dealt with violence, I'm not keen on dishing it out. I've only done it rarely, in self-defense, and I'm a biter and a kicker, if I have to do anything. Violence isn't love.

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Just to be clear, what thread was this?🙈 Coz I tend to comment in so many.

I absolutely agree that violence isn't love. Coz I this that violence has the undertones of intent underneath i.e to hurt both physically (and most importantly psychologically).

This however (imo) is different. In that therr is affection in the teasing or the punch on the shoulder etc.

But when it gets too far i.e. somenody feeling hurt and crting as a result of the action. Then that is something else altogether.

When i am inlove with someone, I tease them a lot. Its not meant to wound them at all, but to express affection.

But i dont go below the belt or take ot towards demoralizing the person through my antics. That is something far more si sinister(I think).

I want them to know thati like them. Maybe i am too shy to tell them " hey,I like you." And so i get their attention in this way.