posted May 05, 2022 04:36 AM            

I have Moon in Can/Merc IN Cap opp which I think has me rewind and replay what was. What I "should" have said.And then cringe over what actually transpired because of failure to do so.

posted May 05, 2022 04:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I think Cancer energy may reflect a lot.

I have Moon in Can/Merc IN Cap opp which I think has me rewind and replay what was. What I "should" have said.And then cringe over what actually transpired because of failure to do so.

Maybe planets in retrograde would do that too?More especially Mercury?

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Hey Aries,
I'd say that is more the mercury opp moon energy than the Cancer energy.
I have moon and ascendant in Cancer and regret is something I never have, although the cringey moments you like to think about is nothing I'd subsume under regret.
Regret is something much more profound in my opinion. For example a friend of mine regrets being in a relationship with a guy who cheated on her from the beginning and she feels she wasted her best years with him because she wants children and he messed that up with his behaviour. I explained to her that she couldn't have known that the rl will run this exact course and to be glad she didn't find out about the cheating years into their hypothetical marriage and with several kids. It would have been much harder.

EDIT: also, there is a growing group of people who talk about regretting their own children. That is real hard regret

posted May 05, 2022 11:40 AM            

@teasel

i've made plenty of stupid decisions, but i don't typically think about them or feel a lot of regret over it because it's too late now and doesn't make a difference

i'm not one for looking back in that way

posted May 05, 2022 01:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
my ex was obsessive about replaying everything and hyperfocusing on the past, had a scorpio mercury and saturn on sun

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My sister does the same! She has saturn and pluto in the 1st house

posted May 05, 2022 01:46 PM            

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posted May 05, 2022 10:22 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
My sister does the same! She has saturn and pluto in the 1st house

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i have a first house pluto in placidus and my sun is square saturn, sextile pluto, trine neptune (pluto and neptune are also sextile)

but like... i'm a big fan of thinking as little as possible lol because i just don't want to tbh

i've been through a lot of **** , and of course there's things that i feel remorse over but the most i can do is try to learn from it and grow and carry on

thinking about **** like that just ******* sucks you know? and i only do it i have to otherwise why? it doesn't do anything good

i have stress dreams often, panic attacks sometimes, and use plentty of drugs but i avoid thinking as much as possible

however when i do think i dig as deeply as ******* possible so that i don't have to for a while and i set aside times to think and dig and so on because it has to be done

it's good to some of the time

but not so much in the spirit of regret or remorse just what can i learn what can i do where i do go now etc

i like getting lost in the moment because it's what we have more than anything else

posted May 05, 2022 10:24 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I have no regrets and feel absolutely no shame in voicing my opinion. There are things I SHOULD be regretting and there are things I have said that I SHOULD regret, but I don't. I just want to move forward with my life, without anxiety about what will happen and what's been done. I can control neither. I even feel restricted if things from the past were to be brought up by someone else. Like, if they want re-hash everything. This would make me feel "caged"!

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i'm good with rehashing **** if it needs to be rehashed, for me or the other person if they need closure or whatever

it's not my favorite activity, but if it has to be done it's gotta be done

posted May 05, 2022 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Maybe planets in retrograde would do that too?More especially Mercury?

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posted May 05, 2022 11:56 PM            

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Originally posted by saronna:
Moon in Capricorn may have some regret.

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posted May 05, 2022 11:57 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:

Regret is something much more profound in my opinion. For example a friend of mine regrets being in a relationship with a guy who cheated on her from the beginning and she feels she wasted her best years with him because she wants children and he messed that up with his behaviour.

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posted May 05, 2022 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

i've made plenty of stupid decisions, but i don't typically think about them or feel a lot of regret over it because it's too late now and doesn't make a difference

i'm not one for looking back in that way

the past affects me and has shaped me sure, but i only have the present and the future ultimately

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posted May 06, 2022 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

but like... i'm a big fan of thinking as little as possible lol because i just don't want to tbh

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posted May 06, 2022 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Cancer Moon-- me

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posted May 06, 2022 12:03 AM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
I don't really have any regrets. Even the events which fcked up my life, they made me who I am today. If something happened, it happened. I do revisit everything though, feel emotions which I didn't feel properly at the time, there can be guilt, there can be regrets too, but once I revisit them completely I find myself free of them. All I can do is try not to commit same mistakes again, and if I do, well I can try again

I have mercury retrogade in pisces in 4th, saturn conjunct mercury conjunct venus conjunct sun in pisces in 4th, mercury/pluto for the obsession with revisiting stuffs, uranus and neptune conjunct in capricorn in third house, and jupiter in scorpio to explore the dark side. Moon trines Saturn too.

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Your approach sounds balanced. I would like to achieve that.

posted May 06, 2022 01:48 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Hey Aries,
I'd say that is more the mercury opp moon energy than the Cancer energy.
I have moon and ascendant in Cancer and regret is something I never have, although the cringey moments you like to think about is nothing I'd subsume under regret.
Regret is something much more profound in my opinion. For example a friend of mine regrets being in a relationship with a guy who cheated on her from the beginning and she feels she wasted her best years with him because she wants children and he messed that up with his behaviour. I explained to her that she couldn't have known that the rl will run this exact course and to be glad she didn't find out about the cheating years into their hypothetical marriage and with several kids. It would have been much harder.

EDIT: also, there is a growing group of people who talk about regretting their own children. That is real hard regret

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Oh ok. That's deep.

Even with the regrets I have, they are not the type of regrets that keep me awake at night at all. I tend to forget about them.

posted May 06, 2022 03:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Oh ok. That's deep.

Even with the regrets I have, they are not the type of regrets that keep me awake at night at all. I tend to forget about them.

In as far as parents regretting having kids.Is this because of how the kids turned out? Maybe they had kids too early? Or is it the decision to have kids altogether that one regrets?

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posted May 06, 2022 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
I agree, having children is extremely romanticized. They are individuals with their own needs and desires that don’t necessarily match yours. It really annoys me that some people treat their kids as accessories or push their own agenda on their kids because they have their own childhood frustrations. In combination with the idealization of self sacrificing motherhood it tends to be very difficult to have it all live up to your expectations. It can all get very ugly very quickly. Already starting at pregnancy, when you’re expected to magically glow as a woman and be all fuzzy and nurturing feelings preparing for the arrival your little prince or princess. 😆

I’m lucky enough to have two healthy children and relatively easy pregnancies and deliveries, but I’ve heard some terrible stories. Luckily, I also do not regret having my children but I had to adjust my expectations in a very big way. I’ve learned a lot as well, children are excellent mirrors of your own less evolved personality traits. Letting go of perfectionism and the desire to control everything has been key for me, and that’s not easy when you’re a Virgo Moon. But it’s still a mutable sign, so it’s adaptable. Maybe lack in mutable signs will make you hang on to the way things were?

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posted May 06, 2022 01:25 PM            

I was thinking Saturn aspects as Saturn is conj my Sun - Saturn makes you look back in preparation for looking forward. Did you build the foundation for future goals/success? Are you really as prepared as you think? Did you use your time wisely? Can you even move forward, given the past?

posted May 07, 2022 01:23 AM            

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Originally posted by HomesickJourneyWoman:
I've got many regrets - usually over misunderstandings as I don't think people see me clearly (Nep in H1); people project onto me and then they act on the projection while I get confused. Then when I try to correct the misconception they just refuse to see past their projection.

For me, though, it's a lot of guilt over past mistakes - Taurus Moon in mutual reception with Cancer Venus. In my weakest moments, it's the guilt that gets me.

I was thinking Saturn aspects as Saturn is conj my Sun - Saturn makes you look back in preparation for looking forward. Did you build the foundation for future goals/success? Are you really as prepared as you think? Did you use your time wisely? Can you even move forward, given the past?

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