posted June 03, 2022 11:39 AM            

- I've been single for 15 years now. Like my natal Saturn and Jupiter in 7th (both Rx) I married young, but divorced young. In my 30's, I dated, dated, and dated..Practically ANYONE. I guess you could say I was a serial dater in every sense of the word. And in retrospect, it really wasn't that bad. At that point, I was content with testing the waters and not exactly being tied down to anyone at that particular moment/time. When I turned about 37, I started to feel the burn of dating and grew tired of wasting my time and money going on mindless dates with men who only wanted to hookup or rant about an ex for a few hours. Dating was no longer fun, it became a chore and a game I began to lose quite often.

Now, I feel used up from the system we all know as dating. I've been on very single dating site you can possibly imagine. I think the only one I never have been on is Raya, which is for celebs, influencers, and young IG models with botoxed lips. I've read the books, did the affirmations, and even wore gemstones to attract love. I've opened up to meeting someone in person, at the grocery store, the salon, even work...you name it. I've even opened up to the idea of dating someone younger than me. I get approached every now and then, only to have them either never call, or flake on me after date #1 or #2 because I am not willing to jump in the sack with someone right away.

I try to be easy on myself and think maybe I just have not met the right one...yet, or maybe I am truly meant to be alone. I have a 7th house Stellium in which does not help my case at ALL...AND...my lovely North Node is in the 7th house as well. So yeah, I am the poster child of singledom or the woman who is in and out of wedding chapels...and marriages.

So...here I am...ranting on LL because I am frustrated today. Trying to find a solution to a long problem.

Here's my birth info if anyone is curious...

4/21/1980
Minneapolis, Mn
2:26am

Thanks for reading my rant, guys. Happy Friday..

posted June 03, 2022 12:11 PM            

It's to feed a hunger, to scratch an itch in the same way someone craves a cheeseburger. Just find someone to scratch that itch and then move on to the next craving, and the next, and the next.

The predator's mind roams free to prey on, and become the prey of others, while the true heart and soul are stuffed so far down that people don't even know who or what they are anymore or what love is.

It's a trap, it's a trick, and sooner or later, it takes its toll on everyone.

With that said, the reason you've been single so long is because you've been undergoing a metamorphosis, and your whole chart, and transits over the years reflect all of this. Part of you knew that it would be better if you go through this transformation without interference from others. It's not so much that you're unlucky, it's just that you were, and still are, trying to figure things out and learn more about the nature of the universe and your own core self. You went through all these epiphanies as you said, and you broke free from them, and are breaking free from all kinds of lies and cords that no longer serve you.

When we're breaking free from lies and old patterns, doing it alone is sometimes needed on our path. So what you're life is telling you is that working on your spirituality and growth is what is going to lead you to whoever, or whatever it is that you're seeking. More often than not, what we are seeking, is our own soul - and once we find that, once we find the missing piece in us and integrate it, then everything else falls into place, and you get what you want.

Focus on the inner world and the outer will make sense.

Good luck!

posted June 03, 2022 01:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Amoranthaniela:
Dating, at least the way people do it now, especially serial dating, is basicically a devolved form of bonding which has been tailored for a consumeristic and materialistic society, which is essentially devoid of any lasting meaning.

It's to feed a hunger, to scratch an itch in the same way someone craves a cheeseburger. Just find someone to scratch that itch and then move on to the next craving, and the next, and the next.

The predator's mind roams free to prey on, and become the prey of others, while the true heart and soul are stuffed so far down that people don't even know who or what they are anymore or what love is.

It's a trap, it's a trick, and sooner or later, it takes its toll on everyone.

With that said, the reason you've been single so long is because you've been undergoing a metamorphosis, and your whole chart, and transits over the years reflect all of this. Part of you knew that it would be better if you go through this transformation without interference from others. It's not so much that you're unlucky, it's just that you were, and still are, trying to figure things out and learn more about the nature of the universe and your own core self. You went through all these epiphanies as you said, and you broke free from them, and are breaking free from all kinds of lies and cords that no longer serve you.

When we're breaking free from lies and old patterns, doing it alone is sometimes needed on our path. So what you're life is telling you is that working on your spirituality and growth is what is going to lead you to whoever, or whatever it is that you're seeking. More often than not, what we are seeking, is our own soul - and once we find that, once we find the missing piece in us and integrate it, then everything else falls into place, and you get what you want.

Focus on the inner world and the outer will make sense.

Good luck!

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Thanks for your reply! I love your user name by the way. Yes, I agree with everything you stated. But because I've been on my own for so long (some of it by my own doing), my inner world has been lonely and a bit complacent. I don't want it to be that way anymore, but it's how I've been able to cope with it all. I miss companionship so much. It's like when I have the opportunity, it slips through my fingers like sand. It's so trivial at times. I truly don't know what's wrong with me or what I am doing wrong.

posted June 03, 2022 01:23 PM            

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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
Hi bella_taurus, when I look at your chart there’s one thing that immediately stands out for me. It’s the mutable t-square with apex Virgo Saturn square your Gemini Venus opposite Sagittarius Neptune. Your Saturn is key here, it’s your chart ruler, retrograde and falls in an intercepted sign in your 7th house. Retrograde planets carry a lot of karmic energy and intercepted signs are like an added layer to your personality. I would advice you to search the internet for more information on this. Also, Venus square Saturn is a difficult aspect. Maybe you could also read some of the interpretations available on the web and see what resonates with you.

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Hello Pluto,

Well...would'nt ya know...I found this on Venus Square Saturn:

"Hard Venus-Saturn aspects imply that all things linked with Venus cause you frustration. However, there is no need to lose hope: in astrology, Saturn delays but never denies. That is, if you make an effort to grow. Saturn is all about the life lessons your soul wants to master in this lifetime. Perhaps the journey takes longer for you than for most people, but you can get there too if you keep working for it.

I have it on the 5th orb. Not SO bad, but bad enough. I read it can also indicate love at an older age. Ugh...!

Thank you for your reply! I will definitely do more research on this...

posted June 04, 2022 02:34 AM            

Your Gemini Venus Conjuncts my Sun and my Tarrus Venus Conjunct your sun...you want to be friends??...I'm just joking!!

I'm wondering if your feeling burnt after trying too hard to get a relationship going with all the wrong people...your Cancer moon made me wonder this.

posted June 04, 2022 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
…I'm wondering if your feeling burnt after trying too hard to get a relationship going with all the wrong people...your Cancer moon made me wonder this….

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posted June 22, 2022 08:08 PM            

And also you have Jupiter in Virgo (afflicted).

You have Chiron in Taurus too ! Which is not good for love life but it depends on people I guess.

And Moon aspecting Saturn, sextile. I have a trine (same degree, different signs) with both of these planets too. maybe difficult aspect too.

posted June 22, 2022 11:37 PM            

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Originally posted by arcturus90:
I rarely hear about the influence of the degrees. Yet it counts a lot. If the degrees exist, they inevitably have an influence.
You have Jupiter at 0 degree Virgo.
The 0 degree can show something that misses, but that can still be on sometimes (I think). We still can success with this particular degree. My sister has Sun 0°Libra in 6th house and she's very good in art and succeeded her career life.
0°degree can make one feel empty (maybe not the whole time).
I have Jupiter 0° too (Cancer) and I can confess that I don't really have luck either ! But I don't particularly have bad luck.

And also you have Jupiter in Virgo (afflicted).

You have Chiron in Taurus too ! Which is not good for love life but it depends on people I guess.

And Moon aspecting Saturn, sextile. I have a trine (same degree, different signs) with both of these planets too. maybe difficult aspect too.

I wrote some mistakes before, so I deleted them, because I mistaked with your date of birth, I did a chart with a wrong date of birth (a few days before your real date of birth)

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Can you tell me more about Chiron in Taurus can be bad for love? It’s in my 3rd house.

posted June 25, 2022 12:54 PM            

I few remarks.

1. The North Node is wrongly given too much credit in traditional astrology. Our starting point is always the South Node. It shows our roots, the life areas that we have mastered and and skills we are good at! South Node in Aqarius could point to a good business man or woman, a good psychologist/psychiatrist or just someone who shines when being rebellious or good at emphasizing their uniqueness.

2. Chiron in Taurus could be an indication that you don't feel comfortable in your body or feels not attractive enough. It can also be an indication that you seek security in material things because you grew up with a lack at an early age. The third house could indicate that your wound deals with communication, language and intelligence. Since Chiron is 11 degrees away from your sun, I wonder whether your ego got wounded.
Chiron in Taurus is not per se bad or unlucky in love! Please, don't go there.

3. Gemini (your 4th house) or Cancer (Juno and moon sign) people could be good for you.

4.I would attribute the fact that you haven't been able to find a suitable partner yet to Saturn. Saturn often brings late luck but it brings luck I have a Saturn Darakaraka and know what I'm talking about here. 32 - and no suitable partner in sight Lilith, Mars and Jupiter are also in your 7th house. Mars could point to a) a partner with mayor Aries placements or b) a competitive partnership or to someone who isn't afraid to challenge you. With Jupiter in your 7th house I wonder whether you are attracted to foreigners.

posted June 25, 2022 12:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Cancermoon83:
I agree that it's the Venus-Saturn square that makes you feel this way. But looking at your progressions,your progressed Sun will be conjunct Venus in exactly 4 years. This is a once in a lifetime progression and it's supposed to be a highly social period and could even bring you the love of your life.So hang in there!
I notice we have our moons conjunct(mine is in the 23rd degree). Pluto was really hard on us for the last years,and it tested my sanity a lot.I can't wait for him to leave!

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Saturn-Venus square... I think you are spot on.

posted June 26, 2022 02:07 AM            

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Originally posted by rockwell:
Its not all doom and gloom!!

I few remarks.

1. The North Node is wrongly given too much credit in traditional astrology. Our starting point is always the South Node. It shows our roots, the life areas that we have mastered and and skills we are good at! South Node in Aqarius could point to a good business man or woman, a good psychologist/psychiatrist or just someone who shines when being rebellious or good at emphasizing their uniqueness.

2. Chiron in Taurus could be an indication that you don't feel comfortable in your body or feels not attractive enough. It can also be an indication that you seek security in material things because you grew up with a lack at an early age. The third house could indicate that your wound deals with communication, language and intelligence. Since Chiron is 11 degrees away from your sun, I wonder whether your ego got wounded.
Chiron in Taurus is not per se bad or unlucky in love! Please, don't go there.

3. Gemini (your 4th house) or Cancer (Juno and moon sign) people could be good for you.

4.I would attribute the fact that you haven't been able to find a suitable partner yet to Saturn. Saturn often brings late luck but it brings luck I have a Saturn Darakaraka and know what I'm talking about here. 32 - and no suitable partner in sight Lilith, Mars and Jupiter are also in your 7th house. Mars could point to a) a partner with mayor Aries placements or b) a competitive partnership or to someone who isn't afraid to challenge you. With Jupiter in your 7th house I wonder whether you are attracted to foreigners.

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THANK YOU for taking the time to explain this to me! I appreciate it! And yes, I agree with them all! Especially having Chiron in Taurus.