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Leo-Cancer98
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posted June 07, 2022 04:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Leo-Cancer98     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Apparently we are notorious for not letting the one we love go. It's true for me, haha. Luckily he is my boyfriend now, haha. He was my crush since 2012 first.

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2nd House Leo Sun
3rd House Leo Mercury
6th House Sagittarius Moon & Pluto
1st House Cancer Venus & Mars
10th House Pisces Jupiter conjunct MC.

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posted June 07, 2022 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i have cancer venus who is in love with me currently, has been for 2 years (i love him back he's great it's a complicated situation for the time being though) and when he told me about his childhood crush that lasted like 15 years or so

so i could definitely see how that could be the case

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posted September 17, 2022 09:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Abc333     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As a Cancer Venus I would definitely say it takes a long time to get over people/ things. Cancer placements can be very nostalgic in general.

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married11years
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posted September 17, 2022 11:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for married11years     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Abc333:
Cancer placements can be very nostalgic in general.

^^^ This. Married to a Cancer Ascendant, lol.

And any personal planet Trine "Saturn" it nostalgic too. Saturn is nostalgic and melancholy, especially if your Saturn is retrograde, that added to the nostalgic.

Sun Trine Mars, Sun Trine Saturn.
Mercury Trine Mars, Mercury Trine Saturn.
Sun Trine Ascendant, Mars Trine Ascendant, Saturn Trine Ascendant.

Guess the placement. It Cancer Ascendant, Scorpio Mars, Scorpio Saturn, Pisces Sun. Welcome to my husband, lol.

Pisces Sun Trine Scorpio Mars. Pisces Sun Trine Scorpio Saturn.
Cancer Ascendant Trine Pisces Sun, Cancer Ascendant Trine Scorpio Mars, Cancer Ascendant Trine Scorpio Saturn.

That is Water Grand Trine right there (eventhough he has ZERO planet in Cancer, but his Ascendant in Cancer).

And he hella nostalgic and melancholy. He can hold grudges for a lifetime. And he stubborn as hell too. And he just can't let go, Cancer traits they just can't let go of anything that they love or what is theirs.
Insanely obsession, and obsessive (thanks to that domicile/rulership Scorpio Mars and Scorpio Saturn, not mentioning his Scorpio Pluto since it a generational planet).

Hell, he obsess with me for 13 years (married 11 years) and he still obsess with me. He just can't let go, period. Poor guy, being a "man" and has all the water signs in him.
He is an awesome husband though.

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charlie
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posted September 18, 2022 12:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As long as I feel the person is worth fighting for, I’ll be in love, but when that’s gone, so will I be. I can’t seem to resurrect old love into new love which means I’m not capable of being with someone I’ve previously ended it with. I’ll just move on.

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Aries23Degrees
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posted September 18, 2022 04:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmmmm...likely.Cancer placements tend to hold on for a long time to things that they love or have sentimental value.

Dated a Leo with Venus in Cancer conjunct my Moon in Cancer.And when we met again two years ago, its like no time passed between us. We made love like we always had .And things just "defaulted" to how things always were with us.

He is actually married now. So I made it a point to mantain distance because our situation was impossible anyways to complete. Too much red tape to go through.

Another ex of mine has North node in Cancer . He is also someone that I have around. Its been years. And we are still in each other's lives(albeit platonically)

As a Sag Sun with a stellium in Sag, my Moon in Can is quite strong. And despite the Sag placements,I do tend to remember someone I crushed on. And when I meet Cancer placement people(not so much the Sun), the bond is quite intense and we get "glued" together.

I think Cancers seek each other out. Or there is a magnetic mystical force that pulls us together somehow.

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posted September 18, 2022 08:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I agree that Cancers seek each other out, or about the magnetic part. I have Cancer Sun, and I tend to always date other Cancers. I usually end up with Cancer Suns, and as Cancer is my 8th... it's complicated. I love it, but they need to have some 8th/Pluto/Scorpio happening or it's a lot for them.

I have never seriously dated a Cancer Venus, but often Suns. Some Moons and Mercuries.

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posted September 29, 2022 09:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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93nov
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posted September 30, 2022 10:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 93nov     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just think Cancer influenced folks have a hard time letting go in general because of the nostalgia like a few of you already mentioned..

I adore Cancers but the way the love is too painful for my Scorpio energy surprisingly lol. I'm too jealous and from the many Cancer men I've known or dated, they always stick close to home which includes all of their exes.

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posted October 01, 2022 03:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@93Nov

Yes,Scor energy is ruled by Mars/Plu. Mars/Plu govern the principle of "severance" i.e. the essentials of what has been consumed by the body have been absorbed, the rest is "waste". That's how Mars/Plu sees it and (by extension) the sign it is strongly affiliated with(Sco).

With Plu however, we destroy the old to build the new. The two worlds are a definite "before" and "after". And never the two shall be confused. Pluto is clear about that.

Pluto takes 240 years to revisit the same sign that it was originally in. So thats beyond 1/2 /3 or even 4 lifetimes. So when its done transiting one energy. It is DONE.

Mars however does tend to revisit the same sign on the natal chart many times during one's lifetime. And Mars(being impulsive and compulsive) can terminate things prematurely or in a heightened emotional state i.e. anger, pain, frustration etc. That they tend to regret when the intense feelings have cooled down.

During Mars retrograde, we can apologize, try to salvage damage we caused through impulsive actions or labour over the unwise decisions or actions taken etc. Its a time of much reflection and pacifying our need to always "leap in and just do" etc.

Mars is the most intense planet and thus governs Scorpio on a primal level. With Mars influencing the Scorpio sign(like Ari)there a sense of urgency that everything must happen NOW.

But Scorpio (unlike Aries)is Fixed. And being fixed requires Scor to withstand and sustain. Not move with the whims of anger and emotions. But harness those emotions to achieve sustaibable goals.

So endurance through these intense emotions to get what one sets out to have and tolerating reversals of fortunes without personalizing the struggle too much etc. Is Scorpio's most challenging lesson and point of evolution.

Scorpio is after all the alchemist. They take the pain and blood. Then transform all that into something beautiful.

Cancer is different. Ruled by the constantly fluctuating Moon, the emotional nature of Cancer is THE most dynamic of all signs. Going from the depths of forlon apathy in one instance. Then right up to the heights of ecstacy in others.

Cancer is MOODY because they are supposed to be☝🏿 They MUST fluctuate and adapt to the responses of the cyclical phases of the Moon.

But moodiness doesn't necessarily mean "instability". It just means being sensitive to energetic changes. Not being mentally unhinged. So the challenge with Cancer is to be STILL in the changing flux of energy in the external. But not BECOME it. Acknowldge it, but not become engulfed in it to a point where its internalized.

This is almost like a reporter caught in a storm and reporting live. They are reporting on the storm. They are NOT the storm.

Cancer then can have feelings that wax and wane. Sometimes a lost love may return and spark intense feelings taking them back to when they 1st met this individual.

With Cancer, its never truly over. Its just contextually suspended. This especially to those lovers that instilled visceral feelings of warm nostalgia.

The Cancer heart with airy Libra in the 4th solar house and 5th Sco, can love two or more people at a time. But will be very secretive of that i.e. a Cancer can be married for 25 years or more and love the mate very much. But still harbour feelings for their 1st girlfriend/boyfriend etc.

They will never tell their children anything of this stranger who lingers on their mind (rent free). The Cancer heart is a well of secrets. And their mind (Gem is in house 12)is duplicitous and layered.

I think of that old lady from the Titanic movie who spoke of her love for Jack. She kept her love for this man from her granddaughter. She didn't even know that "Jack" even existed. That is the Cancer heart☝🏿

I think if Sco(when in a relatonship with Can) invests a lot of time in trying to uncover and/or compete with these lovers of yesteryears. It can create jealousy and conflict. As Sco wants to be the ONLY one. Mars can make them insistent on this.

But Sco is not the ONLY one. It is THE one. That is important to know.Because the former is just memories of "what could have been" . Nothing more. They tend to stay there in the realm of possibilities indefinitely.

Cancer however is not about to risk "what is" with what is conceptual. In love, they are quite practical(Cap is on the cusp of the solar 7th). So the partner shouldn't worry about this phantom people in Cancer's head.

Is it possible that Cancer can choose to reunite with an old love? Very rare but not impossible. The thing is that Cancer doesn't like taking risks(again Cap in solar 7th). This espcially when they feel secure with the current partner.

But if it happens, Cancer may start doing prior detachment before such time. And you will see it coming. It wont be shocking.

Its nothing haphazard like Aqua marrying someone else whilst you just spent the weekend together etc.

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93nov
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posted October 01, 2022 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 93nov     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
@93Nov

Yes,Scor energy is ruled by Mars/Plu. Mars/Plu govern the principle of "severance" i.e. the essentials of what has been consumed by the body have been absorbed, the rest is "waste". That's how Mars/Plu sees it and (by extension) the sign it is strongly affiliated with(Sco).

With Plu however, we destroy the old to build the new. The two worlds are a definite "before" and "after". And never the two shall be confused. Pluto is clear about that.

Pluto takes 240 years to revisit the same sign that it was originally in. So thats beyond 1/2 /3 or even 4 lifetimes. So when its done transiting one energy. It is DONE.

Mars however does tend to revisit the same sign on the natal chart many times during one's lifetime. And Mars(being impulsive and compulsive) can terminate things prematurely or in a heightened emotional state i.e. anger, pain, frustration etc. That they tend to regret when the intense feelings have cooled down.

During Mars retrograde, we can apologize, try to salvage damage we caused through impulsive actions or labour over the unwise decisions or actions taken etc. Its a time of much reflection and pacifying our need to always "leap in and just do" etc.

Mars is the most intense planet and thus governs Scorpio on a primal level. With Mars influencing the Scorpio sign(like Ari)there a sense of urgency that everything must happen NOW.

But Scorpio (unlike Aries)is Fixed. And being fixed requires Scor to withstand and sustain. Not move with the whims of anger and emotions. But harness those emotions to achieve sustaibable goals.

So endurance through these intense emotions to get what one sets out to have and tolerating reversals of fortunes without personalizing the struggle too much etc. Is Scorpio's most challenging lesson and point of evolution.

Scorpio is after all the alchemist. They take the pain and blood. Then transform all that into something beautiful.

Cancer is different. Ruled by the constantly fluctuating Moon, the emotional nature of Cancer is THE most dynamic of all signs. Going from the depths of forlon apathy in one instance. Then right up to the heights of ecstacy in others.

Cancer is MOODY because they are supposed to be☝🏿 They MUST fluctuate and adapt to the responses of the cyclical phases of the Moon.

But moodiness doesn't necessarily mean "instability". It just means being sensitive to energetic changes. Not being mentally unhinged. So the challenge with Cancer is to be STILL in the changing flux of energy in the external. But not BECOME it. Acknowldge it, but not become engulfed in it to a point where its internalized.

This is almost like a reporter caught in a storm and reporting live. They are reporting on the storm. They are NOT the storm.

Cancer then can have feelings that wax and wane. Sometimes a lost love may return and spark intense feelings taking them back to when they 1st met this individual.

With Cancer, its never truly over. Its just contextually suspended. This especially to those lovers that instilled visceral feelings of warm nostalgia.

The Cancer heart with airy Libra in the 4th solar house and 5th Sco, can love two or more people at a time. But will be very secretive of that i.e. a Cancer can be married for 25 years or more and love the mate very much. But still harbour feelings for their 1st girlfriend/boyfriend etc.

They will never tell their children anything of this stranger who lingers on their mind (rent free). The Cancer heart is a well of secrets. And their mind (Gem is in house 12)is duplicitous and layered.

I think of that old lady from the Titanic movie who spoke of her love for Jack. She kept her love for this man from her granddaughter. She didn't even know that "Jack" even existed. That is the Cancer heart☝🏿

I think if Sco(when in a relatonship with Can) invests a lot of time in trying to uncover and/or compete with these lovers of yesteryears. It can create jealousy and conflict. As Sco wants to be the ONLY one. Mars can make them insistent on this.

But Sco is not the ONLY one. It is THE one. That is important to know.Because the former is just memories of "what could have been" . Nothing more. They tend to stay there in the realm of possibilities indefinitely.

Cancer however is not about to risk "what is" with what is conceptual. In love, they are quite practical(Cap is on the cusp of the solar 7th). So the partner shouldn't worry about this phantom people in Cancer's head.

Is it possible that Cancer can choose to reunite with an old love? Very rare but not impossible. The thing is that Cancer doesn't like taking risks(again Cap in solar 7th). This espcially when they feel secure with the current partner.

But if it happens, Cancer may start doing prior detachment before such time. And you will see it coming. It wont be shocking.

Its nothing haphazard like Aqua marrying someone else whilst you just spent the weekend together etc.


I need to blow this up and put it on my wall lol seriously.

I still yearn for my recent Cancer ex, but I know it's over. He was deceitful and very selfish all while handing me the world on a silver platter. The best/ weirdest relationship I ever had.

It's funny what you said about mars/ Pluto energy.. hilarious. You described my thought process perfectly. & although his undiagnosed (but i still have no doubts) NPD reared its ugly head, I definitely helped sabotage the relationship with my constant interrogation tactics and suspicious nature. I felt like Crocker from the Fairly Odd Parents lol. I couldn't figure out WHAT exactly was off about this guy until after the relationship ended but there was always clues. It's like I kept finding the answers I was looking (NPD signs) but I still didn't see it...... very traumatic experience. Almost 3 years later and I am still not over it.

The Cancer I recently dated had a Mars-pluto square opposite Saturn under 2 degrees. Plus Moon conjunct mars in Virgo. I never found exact proof that he cheated on me, but there were clues that probably could've easily linked him to the crime if I kept at it. Fast-forward, he cheated on his new current girlfriend with me right before Thanksgiving last year. I found out about her a few months later when his mom posted a happy birthday post on Facebook. Gag. So I'm sure I was no exception... especially when he had me locked up in our apt in HIS home state like Fiona was locked away in that tower lol voluntarily of course. We were house hunting 3 weeks before we broke up and I moved back home...

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