posted July 26, 2022 01:49 PM            

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posted July 26, 2022 02:28 PM            

Generally speaking, I think of this Venus as the type to ascribe to the "acts of service" love language . Because I do this to people I am involved with.

Either they give me these "acts of service" as a token of their affection for me. Or I do this to them.

At worst, VIV as a lover is critical, faultfinding and hard to please. But at best,they can be very considerate, diligently attend to the minute clogs and crannies of the relationship and be quietly supportive of you by attending to your needs even before you even ask.

If you are loved by the latter Virgo.You will feel spoiled rotten. They will read you and understand how you are and what you like.Then serve that on a continuous basis.

Whereas if its the former, you will just feel rotten. Their criticism will plummet your self esteem and you won't feel good enough for anything. Avoid that one

I also had an experiene with one who had Vir Ven conj Mars. And perhaps the Mars may have coloured the Venus? But he was shy and retiring.

I think he wanted someone to bring him out of his shell? Or perhaps that was just me thinking I could "fix" him?

Either way however,the relationship didn't last. I was bored.

posted July 27, 2022 10:27 AM            

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posted July 27, 2022 11:52 AM            

Aries described it well, and I have probably been both sides of the VIV coin. Mars is also Virgo, 11 degrees away. When I am in a good relationship, I am very attentive. I will go out of my way to find the things that are meaningful to you. This is both platonic and romantic relationships. If things go south, I nitpick and nitpick until I can't stand myself anymore.

When I was younger I thought I could change and fix everything. After being in a marriage to someone who didn't value change and growth, I understand differently. I have very high expectations for myself, and I look for partners that have a similar drive in life.

I don't want to nag and make someone feel less than, and honestly when I start fault finding I recognize now that it's time to leave. I don't try to fix people like I used to. I do love to "help" others though.

posted July 27, 2022 12:06 PM            

What matters is what aspects do YOU make with anyone's Venus that you are interested in dating.

My SO has his Mars exactly trine my supposedly bad Virgo Venus, and it's all good.

posted July 27, 2022 09:24 PM            

As a Virgo, I don’t nitpick unless somebody give me a big reason. I generally not that attentive to details if I’m in a more relax and friendly state. But if you trigger something or get me out of that state, you’re asked for troubles…
Virgo needs security and reassurance. I’m always supporting when people are good to me or when I don’t know yet what is actually going on. Or if I’m just in charitable mood, I still could be supportive to undeserving people.

posted July 28, 2022 12:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
Nothing wrong with Virgo Venus. Nothing wrong with any Venus for that matter.

What matters is what aspects do YOU make with anyone's Venus that you are interested in dating.

My SO has his Mars exactly trine my supposedly bad Virgo Venus, and it's all good.

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I actually respond more to Mars being activated than Venus. And in my long term relationships, it's usually a square to my Venus from theirs or a square from their Mercury... always Gemini instead of Sag.

posted July 29, 2022 12:38 PM            

I think Fire and Air dominant placements might find Virgo Venus weird but other earth signs and water signs probably get along well with them

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posted July 30, 2022 01:27 PM            

The therapist is helping him with his word choices.

I shared an example with her. He just straight up tells me that I should get a different job, because of money. I of course flipped out.

The therapist told him "if you think Stawr should change her job, why don't you ask her if she likes her job first."

I don't want to stop couples therapy anytime soon!

posted July 30, 2022 02:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:

I shared an example with her. He just straight up tells me that I should get a different job, because of money. I of course flipped out.

The therapist told him "if you think Stawr should change her job, why don't you ask her if she likes her job first."

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Since I have water and air, I could play a therapist.
But sometimes I prefer to be straight forward. And I would imagine for majority of traditional guys it’s not easy to go that far as care first about your feelings toward a problem. Especially, if it’s fire and earth - mostly practical advises.

I just accepted that I’m the one who are the therapist and understand emotions (not always) , all others are mostly practical advises.

posted August 05, 2022 01:41 AM            

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Stawr:
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I shared an example with her. He just straight up tells me that I should get a different job, because of money. I of course flipped out.

The therapist told him "if you think Stawr should change her job, why don't you ask her if she likes her job first."

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Since I have water and air, I could play a therapist.
But sometimes I prefer to be straight forward. And I would imagine for majority of traditional guys it’s not easy to go that far as care first about your feelings toward a problem. Especially, if it’s fire and earth - mostly practical advises.

I just accepted that I’m the one who are the therapist and understand emotions (not always) , all others are mostly practical advises.

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Yeah when I told him I wanted to quit one of my jobs, he was supportive. He responded with something like "yeah, you seem pretty miserable" but of course I also got "you can't quit your job until you get a new job" It took me 10 months to find a new job.

But what gets me is the other times he was saying its because "I don't make enough money" He knew I was going to school in this field when he started dating. I have never treated him like an ATM. And I have zero debt. When I first started dating him he was making 11 an hour. I did not care. I just cared that he was self sufficient. Anytime he made comments about it, I asked if it was an issue for him that I don't make a lot of money. He said no.
So the last time he did this, I was like "you lied to me, I've asked you so many times if he had an issue, and you told me no"
then he said "because I knew you wouldn't be with me if I said yes."
W
T
F!!!
With all the other tests I've had in my first year of marriage...It has put my mind in a dark place. I can be upfront and confrontational and be lied to like that to someone I married.

I will say though. He took accountability. And really seems to get that what he did was wrong. And I don't THINK he'll do it again.

He has Virgo and Capricorn stellilum. Only water in his chart is Pluto Scorpio.

With me...I have no Virgo in my chart. If he says something to hurt my feelings, even if he is sorry. I have that quip of "you still said it/did it, and I can't forget it." I was originally going to go every other week to his sessions but I realize I need to go every week just like him.

Yeah that peeves me, if with anyone I complain. They just say why don't you do something else? I spend most of my life here, I am not going to be happy every second. I am not complaining about what I have to do as my job. I am complaining about the inconsistent hours here lately, or if I have a co-worker who is a beeoch, and/or annoying. I guess not being fully heard about what I am complaining about can peeve me. I don't want a new job, I want a better life balance, or I want to work in a different room or age group.

posted August 05, 2022 02:44 PM            

He is the best gift giver, date, and travel companion. He bought me jewelry before we were even FB official.
First guy to take me on a steakhouse date, concerts, music festival.

Our Venus signs are exact polar opposites. I've read that in general Virgo and Pisces like to dote on each other.