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posted October 07, 2022 05:01 AM            

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Hey all,
I've always been baffled by people who find many people attractive. That never happens to me. It's so rare that I find a man sexually attractive even, let alone choosing someone as my partner.
I don't get casual dating either.
What aspect/sign etc. would indicate someone very picky when it comes to finding people attractive?

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posted October 07, 2022 05:28 AM            

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I’m really picky. I’m too tired to post my chart, though.

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posted October 07, 2022 06:11 AM            

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Vir, Lib and Cap imo are the pickiest when it comes to partners. So (by extension) aspects to Sat(ruler of Cap) could also make a person difficult to impress.

5th house/7th house in these signs
Ven/Mars in these signs
Ven/Mars/Sun/Moon in aspect to Sat
Ruler of 5th/7th in aspect to Sat

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posted October 07, 2022 06:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Vir, Lib and Cap imo are the pickiest when it comes to partners. So (by extension) aspects to Sat(ruler of Cap) could also make a person difficult to impress.

5th house/7th house in these signs
Ven/Mars in these signs
Ven/Mars/Sun/Moon in aspect to Sat
Ruler of 5th/7th in aspect to Sat

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So me having descendant in Capricorn would explain this?

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posted October 07, 2022 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
So me having descendant in Capricorn would explain this?

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Lol. Yes. One contributor. That's maybe why it takes Cancer Asc so long to settle down? They feel like there aren't enough options? Its slim pickings for them? This because Sat ruled Dsc condenses things for them when it comes to relatonships?

What aspects are formed by Sat to Ven/Mars/Sun or Moon?

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posted October 07, 2022 08:43 AM            

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I’m extremely (!) picky! Not because I need someone with blond hair or brown eyes but because I know when I know and no one will ever “grow on me”. If someone is friend zoned it will never move forward from that.

5H Cap Moon op Saturn
Virgo Mars conjunct Leo Asc

Progressed Sun, Moon, Venus in Virgo

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posted October 07, 2022 09:22 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Lol. Yes. One contributor. That's maybe why it takes Cancer Asc so long to settle down? They feel like there aren't enough options? Its slim pickings for them? This because Sat ruled Dsc condenses things for them when it comes to relatonships?

What aspects are formed by Sat to Ven/Mars/Sun or Moon?

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I have no Saturn aspects with my personal planets. I only have Saturn conjunct Jupiter.

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posted October 07, 2022 10:04 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
I have no Saturn aspects with my personal planets. I only have Saturn conjunct Jupiter.

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What about declinations?

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posted October 07, 2022 10:43 AM            

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I have Saturn square Mercury, which rules my moon and Venus. I think I also have a minor aspect between Venus and Saturn. But childhood stuff also plays into it.

I’m also like Charlie, and I know when I feel it, and when I don’t. That’s not to say that attraction has always happened with the type of guy I actually like, so I would stop something in progress, if I had a bad feeling. If they weren’t being honest. I do not like bad boys.

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posted October 07, 2022 11:04 AM            

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I remember Selena Gomez’s interview where people commented how nobody’s good enough for her. I thought about Saturn immediately. She has hard Venus Saturn. (Saturn in 7th)
A story with Bieber probably deeply traumatized her. I feel how hard to start and trust again after what he had been taken her through and see his new public happy family life constantly. Though Aniston and other public people were able to recover.
Also, Bieber is somebody who could satisfy high- standards (appearance, not moral, of course) as he always looks good without trying and well-doing.

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posted October 07, 2022 02:00 PM            

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I can find people physically attractive but that doesn’t mean I want to be into a relationship with them. There’s more involved. I need an emotional and intellectual connection but I don’t feel that makes me picky. It’s good to know what you need and want in a relationship. Stay true to yourself, you don’t need to be a good match for everybody.

I have an 8th house Taurus stellium including Venus and relationships are a big investment for me. I don’t let my guard down easily and when I do, I’m in it for the long term and not something casual. People that have fixed energy in their chart might be reluctant to enter a relationship because they’re not very fond of change. Taurus is most notorious but Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius also won’t change their mind easily. I have Saturn conjunct my 7th house ruler Mars and a Virgo Moon (the ruler of my Mars), that probably doesn’t help either. But I feel that it’s more about what I need in a partner to feel safe and nurtured. I have my Venus opposite Uranus and I actually feel I’m very open minded when it comes to looks, nationality, education, religion etc… Maybe a Moon with challenging aspects could also make it more difficult to feel comfortable and safe in a relationship and make someone “picky”.

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posted October 07, 2022 07:52 PM            

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Neptune 7th House - more spiritually-inclined than romantic

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posted October 07, 2022 08:03 PM            

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This is me. I'm picky to the point of thinking I'm just asexual.
Virgo on 5th house cusp
Cap on 8th house cusp
Venus (12th house) opposite Saturn
Ruler of 7th in Cap 8th house
Ruler of 5th in 12th opposite moon

So basically, please stay away from me 😂
All jokes aside, I don't find almost anything necessarily attractive in a person. Especially where sex is concerned. For me it has to be a soul's pull toward someone. If that isn't there I don't pay any attention to any romantic aspect of a relationship.

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posted October 07, 2022 08:05 PM            

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And, just to add, Neptune is in my 8th house as well so I have to have a soul level connection. It's a must.

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posted October 09, 2022 01:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
What about declinations?

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Just checked and Saturn is parallel Mars (Mars is at 1°14'16" S and Saturn is at 0°29'12" S)
Interestingly Jupiter is almost exactly parallel Mars at 1°16' 4" S). The sun is at 2° 3'46" S. Would you count that parallel saturn, too or is that too much apart?

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posted October 09, 2022 01:58 AM            

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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
Maybe a Moon with challenging aspects could also make it more difficult to feel comfortable and safe in a relationship and make someone “picky”.

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I have moon square Pluto so emotional closeness is a tricky subject with me as it is. The word "picky" here is meant in a neutral way. Like in "choosy".

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posted October 09, 2022 01:24 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Just checked and Saturn is parallel Mars (Mars is at 1°14'16" S and Saturn is at 0°29'12" S)
Interestingly Jupiter is almost exactly parallel Mars at 1°16' 4" S). The sun is at 2° 3'46" S. Would you count that parallel saturn, too or is that too much apart?

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Sun is parallel Mars and Jupiter. Yes.
But Saturn is parallel Mars and Jupiter.
Mars co-rules your 5th house of romance and is parallel careful Saturn.

But far and above that, Saturn-Mars aspects would make one careful (Sat) of their actions (Mars) generally. One tends to control (Sat) their impulses (Mars) a lot or seem to others restrictive.

So even when you get advances made tp you, the potential does get the sense that you have your brick walls up or are the type to be a "No. Not a chance" respondent to their pursuits.

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posted October 10, 2022 04:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Sun is parallel Mars and Jupiter. Yes.
But Saturn is parallel Mars and Jupiter.
Mars co-rules your 5th house of romance and is parallel careful Saturn.

But far and above that, Saturn-Mars aspects would make one careful (Sat) of their actions (Mars) generally. One tends to control (Sat) their impulses (Mars) a lot or seem to others restrictive.

So even when you get advances made tp you, the potential does get the sense that you have your brick walls up or are the type to be a "No. Not a chance" respondent to their pursuits.

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Very well said. I can definitely tell that I have that effect on men who want to come closer.

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