posted October 21, 2022 03:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Just need to ask this because I have a dear friend who is a Libra sun and has Scorpio moon. I feel for him a lot. I know he has problems in life, but it seems that whenever we talk about personal things, he tends to make it all about me. He's a very good listener and he lets me rant about things without trying to fix the problem for me or trying to cheer me up or offer advice. I'm glad he is my friend and I can tell he cares about me and he does the same with other friends. But sometimes I feel like the friendship is one-sided because he never opens up to me. I've tried in the past to ask him how he is and let him know I'd be there for him just like he did for me. But he deflects the whole thing and then turns to ask me about how I am instead. I feel like I'm not doing enough to give back as a friend because of this.

It's not just him I've noticed this with. My brother is the same way and a lot of the Scorpio moons I've encountered don't like to talk about their problems with others, but they are very open to listening to other people's problems. They make good friends that way, but I also feel it is not fair to them. It's not about trying to pry or getting information out of someone, but it's about just connecting to your friend or someone close to you. I have no idea how to return the favour when a Scorpio moon shows kindness.

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You can reciprocate his emotional needs without him opening up or purging his emotions to you.

I’d possibly observe what he is communicating with you non verbally.

Then as a friend I would respect his need for anonymity and instead of talking just keep it mind and put it into action.

I’d make sure to not violate his need for privacy as this would violate his trust and be counterproductive to what you are aiming at.

It makes me think of how Scorpio appreciates Virgo energy.

They are practical observers and put their observations into action in practical ways.

Perhaps he would appreciate support in this way.

And maybe that would open a door to his emotional side.

posted October 22, 2022 04:01 AM            

Don't waste your time trying to get into Sco's head.That goes for Cap too. Its like trying to solve an ambiguous maths equation.

posted October 22, 2022 06:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Don't waste your time trying to get into Sco's head.That goes for Cap too. Its like trying to solve an ambiguous maths equation.

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That made my day!!

posted October 23, 2022 02:48 PM            

Scorpio Moons have very intense emotions and feelings, and if they feel in any way that you are going to make them feel judged or slighted for expressing their feelings then they won't do it at all. It's easy for people to take it personally when they are going through the motions or having an emotional breakdown because their feelings are so intense; they're afraid of being told that they're too much of this or that, and that makes them feel like they can't express how they feel because someone is going to take it the wrong way.

Plus, in a relationship they want things to be reciprocal. If they try talking to you about your feelings and you shut them out, don't expect them to open up about how they feel. They want you to be there and listen to them when they are going through the motions and they want to do the same thing for you. That also means just letting them get their feelings off their chest without constantly trying to tell them how to fix the situation. A lot of times they don't want to hear your solutions (even if they agree with the solution), they want someone to listen to them and be there for them.

If you're the type of person that flees the scene when things get emotionally charged then they will take that as flakiness and that will keep them closed off to opening up to you. This is just from my own observation. They are also very private people and if they feel like you are going to run around blabbing to people about the things they tell you then they definitely will not tell you anything period.

posted October 24, 2022 05:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
That made my day!!

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posted October 24, 2022 08:07 PM            

Though I will say, it sounds like you both have been friends for a while. So that is kind of weird that he is uncomfortable answering questions that seem pretty non invasive to me.

I’m not close with any Scorpio male moons. I don’t need a boy version of my moon sign apparently. Lol

But I will say, sometimes the most non invasive questions can feel invasive if you are really going through something. I sometimes think culturally and heridtarily(sp?lol) that some people have an easier time acting like everything is fine, when it isn’t.

posted October 24, 2022 08:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
I would just be patient and let him open up on his own time. Scorpio Moons tend to open up about their feelings if they don't feel threatened in doing so; they will open up to you when they're ready and need to do it on their own time.

Scorpio Moons have very intense emotions and feelings, and if they feel in any way that you are going to make them feel judged or slighted for expressing their feelings then they won't do it at all. It's easy for people to take it personally when they are going through the motions or having an emotional breakdown because their feelings are so intense; they're afraid of being told that they're too much of this or that, and that makes them feel like they can't express how they feel because someone is going to take it the wrong way.

Plus, in a relationship they want things to be reciprocal. If they try talking to you about your feelings and you shut them out, don't expect them to open up about how they feel. They want you to be there and listen to them when they are going through the motions and they want to do the same thing for you. That also means just letting them get their feelings off their chest without constantly trying to tell them how to fix the situation. A lot of times they don't want to hear your solutions (even if they agree with the solution), they want someone to listen to them and be there for them.

If you're the type of person that flees the scene when things get emotionally charged then they will take that as flakiness and that will keep them closed off to opening up to you. This is just from my own observation. They are also very private people and if they feel like you are going to run around blabbing to people about the things they tell you then they definitely will not tell you anything period.

Overall, just give them time and let them slowly open up to you. Scorpio Moon is a water sign so they will tend to mirror your emotional behavior and react to situations based on the input they are getting.

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posted October 25, 2022 09:24 PM            

Also constantly checking in with me will also make me feel crazy.

One day a co-worker kept asking me if I was okay. I was just super focused that day. Wanted to get work done and not shoot the shi+.
If someone keeps asking me if I'm okay. That to me is like someone constantly saying. "you don't seem okay, you don't seem okay, you don't seem okay" "you're right! I'm not okay because you keep asking me if I'm okay!"

I also do not like "are you having fun?" asked at me more than once because it's like constantly being told "you don't look like you're having fun, act more crazy."

posted October 26, 2022 06:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
…Also constantly checking in with me will also make me feel crazy.

One day a co-worker kept asking me if I was okay. I was just super focused that day. Wanted to get work done and not shoot the shi+. …

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This! This right here absolutely drives me crazy too. Stop consuming my energy when I’m trying my best to keep my f*cking sanity! And often it really isn’t about them being compassionate and wanting to support you but it comes from their own need for drama/excitement. They don’t care about you, they just get a kick out of it.

posted October 26, 2022 09:33 PM            

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Originally posted by PlutoWasHere:
This! This right here absolutely drives me crazy too. Stop consuming my energy when I’m trying my best to keep my f*cking sanity! And often it really isn’t about them being compassionate and wanting to support you but it comes from their own need for drama/excitement. They don’t care about you, they just get a kick out of it.

I’m not a Scorpio Moon but a Virgo Moon, but @Stawr your Moon is in H6, right? Also my Mercury is in H8 and trine my Pluto. So maybe that’s why there might be some similarities.

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Ugh that seriously makes a lot of sense. I'm surprised I've never seen it that way before.

If I don't want to dance to a live band singing a sh!tty black eyed peas song. Just because I'm not flappin and pretending to like a song, do I need to be asked if I am having a good time. I joke with my sister like what if I said "No, I'm having a horrible time." What is he going to do!?

Maybe I should start quote Allen Edgar Poe literature when people ask me if I am having a good time.

I wont deny that people love getting a reaction out of me. Sick fuxs. lol

posted October 26, 2022 09:45 PM            

She will know someone is going through a divorce and ask them where there husband is.

When the guy before my husband bailed on the family trip at the last minute my mom would constantly try to sit by me and ask "don't you wish he was here?"

When I had to briefly live there on and off a few months. Talks while I am watching a show knowing damn well I am waiting for her to stop talking because I don't want to be rude. But after like the 8th time she needs to share a pointless thought in her head.
I just started going right up to my room eventually, and she would follow me up stairs. Sort of awkward closing the door. Like okay, stop talking to me now. And then she would talk behind the door.

posted November 18, 2022 05:18 AM            

When my social battery runs out, Leo's feel like the most annoying people on the planet.

I feel like with Leos I can be state my boundaries clear as day, and they wont cut it out.

For example my stomach was acting up, I told my mom to stop talking because my stomach was acting up. I was able to sit up and watch some funny videos. My mom goes look what I found and puts her phone in my face. This is a few minutes after I tell her, I can't handle any extra stimuli or noise right now. I also had a migraine. Nobody tests my patience like a Leo.
I said I am watching a video and you are putting your phone in my face. LEOS GASHLIGHT. "Ohhh your show is sooo important" I say "can you at least give me a second to pause what I am watching?! There I paused it. Now what do you want to say so bad!?" "Stomach issues can be related to anxiety" "yeah I know that, now do you have anything to say that's actually helpful?" "Nnno" I just kind of had to state to her that I'm not feeling good, and she's being kind of annoying.

posted November 18, 2022 06:29 AM            

It took time but I realize what a strong person he is. I realize he is keeping it together more than I realize.

posted November 27, 2022 07:35 PM            

I think they are usually open with people they trust. I have a friend who has Cap sun, Sco moon, and Cancer rising, and he has been very open with me about his issues in dealing with his mother, difficulty with finding the perfect woman, and his political views.

posted December 05, 2022 08:06 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
OP:

I think they are usually open with people they trust. I have a friend who has Cap sun, Sco moon, and Cancer rising, and he has been very open with me about his issues in dealing with his mother, difficulty with finding the perfect woman, and his political views.

@Stawr,
Great observation about Leo+Cancer combo. One boyfriend with Leo moon and Cancer sun, rising, venus and mercury once or twice brought up the idea of menage a troi, in the first year that we were dating. He dropped it eventually after he saw how offended I was. He also put me through a lot which I endured because I loved him. When I ended things after 3.5 years, he was tearful and would not let me go. I brought up the hurtful things he did, and even spiced things up to make the breakup easier for him, but he saw right through me. Eventually he demanded that we be constantly in touch despite no longer dating. I said to him that I can send a text message or two each week and no more than that. He was hurt but stayed in touch anyways.

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Yikes!

I've reached out to a guy who is going through a lot. Some of the things he posts I have so much empathy for...but at the same time I'm going through a lot right now, and basically let him know I'm here but not to get too needy or I'll run.

I can't help anyone until I help myself right now. I am proud of what I was starting to do to help people before leaving my husband.

posted December 05, 2022 10:32 PM            

My family gaslit me so bad, that I talked to a psychiatrist at the hospital. I am not really a big pharma person...but I was seriously willing to sedate myself to be around my mom as my health recovers.

As intimidating as the physiatrists was, she concluded that I don't need to be put on physch meds, and that I have a pretty valid reason to be sad. I'm motivated but I'm in the hospital going though health problems and a divorce. She told me to try to keep my cool with my parents since I'm pretty co dependent on them right now.