posted January 24, 2023 09:34 PM            

Yes, you read that correctly, 13 years.

When Pluto initially transitioned into my 11th house (January 25, 2010), I was four months away from graduating high school. I wasn’t into astrology then, I actually didn’t get into it until late 2015. However, when I discovered Pluto in my 11th house was the main cause for all the havoc wreaking that’s been happening since my last semester of high school I researched the exact date he would be leaving my 11th house. I have been patiently (sort of) waiting for almost 8 years for this day to come. In April of 2022 Pluto did leave my 11th house for 2 months before retrograding back in. I know the 12th house comes with it’s own set of issues, but I must say, those two months were honestly the happiest times I have had in a very long time.

Anyway, to move this story along, I began about three years ago looking over all the events that had happened to me since Pluto entered my 11th. I was no surprise to me that what I discovered was right in line with Pluto doing it’s job. Of course, it has taken me 13 years to realize it. I went from a happy girl with friends and family and organizations that I belonged to what seems like absolutely nothing, but absolutely everything at the same time.

If you care to read any further, I will explain what the last 13 years have been like and the lessons I learned along the way. Hopefully, it will shed light for anyone who is about to have Pluto rear it’s ugly yet beautiful head in their 11th house.

To begin, up until January of 2010, I had a large family (albeit not a close one). I had friends, I was part of several clubs and organizations (11th house) for many years and I had for the second time in my life a best friend (7 years strong at the time). In 2008, my family had all gathered to celebrate Christmas and my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary. Considering all my relatives are scattered all over the world, having everyone come home for two weeks was like the highlight of the year. Fast forward to March of 2009, one of my uncles was diagnosed with cancer. If that wasn’t bad enough, November of 2009, my grandmother was also diagnosed with cancer.

January of 2010 hits, I wasn’t able to play softball that season, which meant I wasn’t able to play with my teammates who I had been playing with since I was 8 years old. That also meant the game I had been playing since I was 5 and the organization I was with for pretty much my entire childhood I was no longer apart of. In February, my English teacher who (oddly enough) had been my teacher all four years of high school and became my mentor, left on maternity leave and never returned and I never heard from her again. In March, one of my friends who I had known since 7th grade, dropped out of school (I still have no idea why with only two months left of school) and I never heard from her again until about 3 years ago when she befriended me on Facebook. Sadly, in May, one week before I was to graduate high school, my grandfather passed away. Everyone who was going to come to my graduation, went to where my grandparents were residing to be there early for the funeral (the funeral was two days after my graduation). I canceled my graduation party that I was having the next day so I could fly out to be at the funeral. When I got back, none of my high school friends were available to do a party and sadly enough, I still to do this day have never heard from anyone I went to high school with after graduation. Just like that high school was over and all the clubs and friends that came with it were gone.

At the time I figured that was just part of life. You graduate and move on and nobody really stays friends after high school. I later realized that wasn’t necessarily the case, especially in todays world with social media. Plus, I still had my family and friends outside of school, right? Time and Pluto would soon reveal how wrong that was.

In July, my uncle unfortunately lost his battle with cancer and by August, I had found myself employed for the first time life and starting college. I was excited as I had always wanted a job. I grew up poor, so I couldn’t wait to get a job and start making my own money. I worked fast food and honestly I really enjoyed it. I got promoted quickly and gained the respect of management as well as the regular customers. I had wanted to work my way up the ranks within the organization (another organization 11th house) and eventually own a chain or work in corporate. I made friends quickly (one of them remaining my friend for the remainder of Pluto’s time in my 11th house). Long story with this one, turn over is very high in fast food so my “friends” didn’t stick around long enough nor did my romantic interest at the time. Plus, the more involved I got with the organization, the more corrupt and unethical I discovered they were. My hopes of being a permanent part of this organization and finding my “place” were quickly shattered thanks to my morals (and Pluto). I ended up only staying there for two and a half years so I could pay my way through college.

In December of 2010, my grandmother had also been taken by cancer. After that my family “attempted” to get together for the holidays but there were some that seemed annoyed that we kept trying.

In early 2013, I had found myself connecting with an aunt on my father’s side whom I was denied a relationship with as a child. Coincidentally, December of that year was also the last time my mother’s side of the family ever got together. After 12 years of spending holidays with my mother’s side of the family, it was all over, just like that. The cousins that I used to text throughout the year lost touch, the aunts and uncles I would write letters to stop responding and I no longer had grandparents (on either side of my family). My father’s mother had also passed away in 2013, which to me felt like a burden had been lifted off me, as she was both verbally and physically abusive to me when I was a child.

In April of 2014, I had started a new job. My first big girl job in an office. I made so many new friends and once again quickly gained the admiration of leadership. I loved it there (or so I thought). I worked my ass off there and again quickly got promoted. I made even more friends (again, so I thought) as I worked my way up the ladder. I had made one friend in particular who would turn out to be my turning point in my life up to then. We became very close very fast. I actually thought I was in love with them and I was certain they were in love with me. By 2015, I thought I had had it all. I really great job at an amazing place to work. Great friends and true love. Then Pluto stepped in and said, not so fast, you have plenty more lesson to be learned. By the beginning of 2016, my “friend” and “love” turned out to be a nightmare. They didn’t love me, in fact, I discovered they had just been using me. They ended up spreading rumors about me throughout work and eventually, all the “friends” I had made stopped talking to me. My mother had also so my childhood home during this time. My mother and I went to stay with a long time family friend for a bit while we both found new places to live. Unfortunately, my mom’s family friend had a niece who was always causing trouble for as long as I can remember. We had known each other since we were 7 and she always needed to be the center of attention. When I moved in, she got even worse and stagged an event to get us kicked out of their house. I focused on my career at that point, I wanted to work even harder so I could move up the ladder and be away from the petty drama. Upper management seemed to like me, they were always having me lead projects and complementing me on a job well done. In February of 2017, I had made a new but old friend. We met when I started working there in 2014, but lost touch for a few years until he got hired into the group that I was in. Through him being my friend, I truly believe he helped me get back on the path that I was meant to be on. We ended up talking about so many things that I had lost interest in over the last 7 years due to all the loss and heartache that I had experienced.

In December of 2017, my father had passed away. This was a weird time for me as I wasn’t close with my father, but at the same time, I realized, I no longer had a father in this world. This was also around the time that my brother, who had been giving my mother trouble for the last decade finally got a break in life. A friend of the family who worked for a university offered to help get my brother into college and get him on a good path. This also meant that my nephew would be coming to live with me while my brother “figured” himself out.

By 2018, I had gotten passed up for a promotion twice that I was actually being groomed to take over. At that point, I was finding myself fed up and no longer in love with the organization I was apart of. Between the petty office drama and all the sucking up that had to be done and nobody enforcing policies, it started to become intolerable. I applied for a new position within the company after I was told they would no longer be promoting in my group. I got the job, thankfully, but found out in March of 2019, that my old group was going to start promoting people. You can imagine my annoyance, but felt I was better off in my new position and I could see myself working up the ranks here. Unfortunately, it didn’t get any better. In October of 2019, I was told that I would be laid off at the end of March of 2020. (I was happy they at least gave me notice). I was sad because while working there was going down hill, I still had some friends and I had been there almost 6 years. Pretty much my entire 20s were spent working there. I had remained great friends with the guy who helped me get back on my path. However, on the last day of March 2020, thanks to Covid, nobody was really in the office that day. I had to go in, collect my stuff and leave and I wasn’t able to say goodbye. Sadly, that was the end of my friendship with him since I haven’t heard from him since.

In October of 2019, I had also joined a new organization outside of work. I joined a co-ed softball league. At the time, it felt like I had made really great friends. I was, once again, convinced that this was my group. These were my people. We all hung out a few times outside of softball games. We knew each others families and all around just felt like family in general.

I decided to take a year off from working, mostly due to the Covid shutdowns. During this time, I became estranged from my brother and my nephew ended up living with me permanently. My brother had come home from college when the shutdowns happened and right away I noticed he was still doing his shenanigans with the drugs, alcohol and sneaking around and lying. In July of 2020, I told him he needed to get some help for his addiction. He ended up leaving and never returning. Unfortunately, for as long as I can remember, he has been nothing but drama. My entire childhood was filled with him getting into trouble or having some sort of dramatic event and one of my parents having to bail him out. It was almost like the first 28 years of my life revolved around him even though I desperately didn’t want them to. But, as crappy as it is to say, after 28 years, my brother no longer sucked the energy out of the room. He no longer was there to steal my life away. He was gone and so was his drama.

During my year off of work, I evaluated my life and thought of the path that my friend had unknowingly set me back on. I had always loved finance it was a childhood dream of mine to be in finance as an adult. So in August on 2021, I had got an amazing job at a financial company. Subsequently, I was also going through a point of trying to adopt my nephew who was no permanently under my care. This moment brought back some people in my life who I didn’t want there but only for a short period.

This new company wasn’t exactly my dream company, but I figured I would get experience there and then work my way up to bigger things. I once again, began making new “friends”, some who I actually thought could become long term friends. As time went on, the company slowly began growing on me and I found myself looking to move up the ladder again. I had met another person at this place who quickly took a romantic interest in. Thankfully by this time, I was well into astrology and well into my knowledge of Pluto in the houses (the 11th in particular). I was hesitant to get involved with people at work though. Although, I felt like these people were my friends, I made every effort to take it slow and just see where things went. As for my romantic interest, well, it seemed like it was fate from the universe. It seemed like perhaps I had finally found the one. I was though not going to push it or get my hopes up as I had learned my lesson the last two times. In April of 2022 through May of 2022, Pluto had moved in my 12th house briefly. My romantic interest and I had connected finally and friends that I hadn’t heard from in a bit started calling me. I was getting invites to places left and right whereas before I was never invited to anything. It was blissful. Sadly, in August of 2022, I was laid of AGAIN and all the people that I had made friends with and my romantic interest I haven’t heard from since. At the same time, the softball group that I had been apart of since 2019 imploded. Leaving the entire team no longer speaking to each other with the exception of two people whom, surprisingly I am still in touch with a lot.

To recap so far. It’s August of 2022 and the only people still standing in my life are my mom, my nephew, my formerly estranged aunt from my fathers side and only one relative from my mom’s side (her twin sister). The family friend of over 20 years who let us live with them but later kicked us out was hanging by a thread at this point along with my mom’s twin.

By September of 2022, I had found a temporary job in finance to tide me over until I found something I truly wanted. Plus, I was well aware that January 25, 2023, was right around the corner an at this point, my lessons had been for the most part learned so I really wanted to wait until after Pluto left my 11th house to find a (hopefully) permanent employer. My mom’s older sister had contacted my mom during this time angry about a letter I had sent asking her for help (mind you I hadn’t spoke to her since 2013). My mom and I both discovered at this point that I had been the topic of negative gossip amongst her sisters for several years. My mom and her twin had a huge blow up because of it which caused them to stop speaking and allowed me to cut her out of my life. Sadly, she made it clear early on in my childhood that she didn’t like me or my mother or anyone really for that matter. She was a constant toxic, negative energy in my life but I always tried to make it work with her because I thought perhaps she might be one of the few that would remain in my life. But alas, it was like a breath of fresh air knowing I didn’t have to entertain her and her toxic presence. In October of 2022, my long time friend who I met at my first job had got married and moved to another state with his wife. I was happy for him but sad too as he was my longest standing friend. I am grateful though that unlike all the other relationships over the last 13 years, this one didn’t end on bad terms. By November of 2022, my formerly estranged aunt and I had become estranged again. We went from talking on a regular basis to only talking one day a month to not talking at all. The more I started taking myself out of the equation with her, the more narcistic she appeared to me. I don’t have bad feelings toward her, but I was exhausting always being there for her but never having it returned. Or always having to deal with her drama or issues. Anytime we spoke, the conversation quickly turned to be about her. Sad to lose this relationship but always have a sense of relief too.

On January 23, 2023, I quit that temporary job to pursue something I have been wanting to for the last 3 years. Plus, I never felt any sort of connection with the folks I worked with for the last 5 months. So I knew it was the right move for me. However, at this point, all I have left standing are my mom, my nephew, my two softball friends and oddly enough my personal trainer who I actually have a lot in common with. As for the family friend of 20 years, we haven’t heard from them since Thanksgiving.

I learned so much over the last 13 years, like how to deal with loss. I experienced countless loss of the years, including the small losses of getting back in touch with estranged cousins from my father’s side only to become estranged again a year or two later. I experienced three major heartbreaks and thankfully have learned how to deal with that. One of the most important things I have learned over this transit is who I am and the type of people I want to be around. I didn’t realize that I was constantly surrounded by the same type of people. The type of use and abuse and have no ambition or goals in life. I was a lost soul searching for my group, my organization, my people and because I was so lost, I fell for anything and anyone. By the end of this transit, I realize, I am no longer lost. I know exactly who I am and what I want. The more I move toward what I want, who I want, etc. the easier life seems to flow. I went through a hefty depression during this period, only to come out of it realizing who I was. I discovered that I was worthy and a good person. Discovering this allowed me to end relationships that were never good for me but I otherwise wouldn’t have ended out of fear of loss. I learned to except loss and I learned to be alone to be okay with it. I also learned that family is not always blood and just because they are your blood relatives, doesn’t mean you have to suffer with them or give your life up for them. Loyalty goes both ways and loyalty and earned respect are earned and should never be assumed. I also learned what true love is and what it looks like. I learned what to accept and what not to accept in relationships.

I don’t have all the answers and explanation of lessons that Pluto was trying to teach me. I know they will come to me over time. But for now, I know I am a much stronger person because of it. I also feel like for the first time in my life I can breathe now that all these people have been removed from my life.

What I will say, if you are going through or are about to go through Pluto in your 11th house. Prepare yourself for loss and a lot of it. Don’t fight Pluto. Once I stopped fighting Pluto, things stopped being so difficult. Last, if a person or organization is not part of your life path, Pluto will remove it or them one way or another. The harder you fight it; the uglier Pluto will be in removing it.

As Pluto enters my 12th house, I feel so much hope and relief. Don’t get me wrong, it sucked during the process and yes, there are a few people that I lost that I wish I didn’t. But in the end, I know it was all for my greater good. But most importantly, I can’t wait to find my true people!

posted January 25, 2023 08:06 AM            

Pluto will be entering my 11th house in April this year.
I will assume the brace position lol

posted January 25, 2023 01:51 PM            

Sounds like you went through a lot🙏🏿.

I expect losses when Pluto goes into Aqua and in my whole sign 11th house.

I think Pluto brings clarification in the house that its in.

If that area of life isn't certain or hazy. Pluto transits can bring a certain kind of "death" (if it wasn't working out) and closing off of those themes.

So maybe you think you have "friends" before this transit? Then when this transit hits, you discover that you were the only one who was loyal to the bond.

Maybe you were part of a group or clique that had values you shared? But then the transit hits, and the group does not adhere to these values anymore.

I don't have friends. That's not been an issue for me. I have been a loner for all my life. But the one thing that has been up/down for me is "liquid gains"(also 11th house affiliation).

So i expect the effect of the transit of Pluto in the 11th to impact my income. Or the ability i have to self-sustain.

I have Ven-Sat conjunct. Ven rules 2nd house & Sat rules 11th house. No transit thus far has had sustainably positive impact to my income(2nd). It's been a tough number of years. Just awful.

And the current wipe-out of the Neptune to my Jupiter is exasperating . So many thoughts of forlorness and just giving up. Never have i empathized and understood suicide as i do now.

posted January 25, 2023 05:11 PM            

Sounds about right. Before this transit, I always had "friends" but subconsciously I knew I didn't really fit in with people. People always liked being around me because I was fun, but when they discovered I was different than the norm (I don't drink or smoke or anything like that), they would slowly dismiss themselves from my life. So during this Pluto in the 11th house transit, that was a very big theme for me. I would meet people who pretended to be like me and then come to find out they weren't and were only pretending for whatever reason.

Now that it is over, I am left with 5 people total in my life and I have discovered that these people are actually like me.

Also, in regards to finances, since my moon is in my 2nd house as well as my mars, I have always been drawn to anything finance related. That was another major theme for me. Growing up, I was always the saver of my family. Never spent a dime I accumulated from birthdays, holidays, etc. Then when this transit hit and I got my first job, I was still very frugal, but found myself spending more. I went through periods were I would save then spend, save then spend. Basically it's been a roller coaster for me financially.