posted March 18, 2023 02:10 PM            

I’m in a new relationship that is challenging me and pushing me to grow like no other relationship I’ve experienced before. In a year from now, he will start a Pluto square Venus transit that will go for a couple years. I’ve heard so many negative things about Pluto Sq Venus … I’ve worked through so much with him that I want to remain hopeful for that time! Does anyone have any stories about how this transit transformed your relationship for the best and you came out stronger ??
My progressed Venus will also be squaring his progressed Pluto at that time too, ha!

posted March 22, 2023 03:35 AM            

Besides, Pluto transits like this don't last just a couple years. They last 4-6 years as they are subject to a 5.5° orb (at least on the applying side).

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posted March 22, 2023 02:42 PM            

And you’re right about the amount of time of the transit’s influence. Could be why we are already facing such depths together.

Still generally curious about the challenging Pluto and Venus transits tho and how they’ve affected peoples lives in positive ways !! I haven’t seen much of that on here.

posted March 24, 2023 02:51 PM            

I can only think of one person I know who had this transit... and it was not fun. Not what you want to hear. She met a soulmate who eventually left and she was heartbroken. She ended up reacting in ways to prevent him from leaving, turned very manipulative and controlling to guilt him from leaving. And he did anyways. She fell into a depression, lost an unhealthy amount of weight. However, this person natally has Sun + Moon + Mars opposite Pluto, so Pluto was always there...

Like Kannon, I'd advise to focus on the present moment. Transits are different for everyone. While the person I know had a rough time, that isn't necessarily universal.

Athough Pluto squares are pretty rough. When it squared my Sun, I hit total rock bottom.

My advice is to ROLL WITH IT. Pluto transits are ALWAYS hard when you resist it. If you embrace what it is happening, you will get the most out of this transit.

And Pluto transits are no accident. Nothing you can do can prevent Pluto from doing his thing. Go into this knowing this was meant to be, for your best interest. Pluto can be hard, but it isn't for nothing. It it ALWAYS to push you into becoming the Highest, Evolved version of you. If Pluto is taking something out of your life, rest assured in that it is FOR THE BEST.

From our tiny perspective, we can't see The Bigger Picture. We may think something is for us when it isn't. Pluto has the vantage point to know what is really in our best interest.

That being said, again, who knows how it will play out. If you go into it with no resistance, chances are it will work out alright.

posted March 25, 2023 01:39 PM            

Thankfully this relationship so far has pushed me a lot in terms of owning my own stuff and addressing it from an empowered place, and it has transformed things each step of the way. I have a mentor who has been helping / challenging me along the way. There have been a few times when I’ve slipped and I’ve taken things personally and have gotten petty with my partner, but even those times have supported our growth, and my partner has gone through a similar process as well, so at this time we feel we are supporting each other to grow and open to love more and more. Thankfully that’s how it’s gone so far.

But even with this depth of love, I do acknowledge that we never know what can happen, and it is beyond our control / there is a greater plan at work. I know what you mean about that. It’s amazing how the forces guide us in the ways that are needed.

So, who knows. It does seem best to take care of myself and go one step at a time.

Thanks again for your input

I had Pluto opposite Venus when I was in high school btw, ha! My dad left my fam, I lost a handful of friends, and I started dating a new kid who had a dark childhood and wasn’t good for me. Clearly I didn’t know what was going on back then, but I can say that those experiences made me stronger and helped me learn how to depend on and love myself more.

posted April 24, 2023 12:31 PM            

Perhaps they have been too attached to something/someone because of their external "value" and not looking deeper? There is always something about Pluto that compels us to look harder and beyond the surface.

It reminds me of the story of "The Lion King". This when Simba looks into the pond and thinks that he is seeing his own reflection. Then Rafiki tells him, "No. Look harder". To which he then sees the reflection of his own father (Mufasa).

After this, Rafiki says to him "U see? He (Mufasa) lives IN you. " And that moment prompts an irreversible change in Simba. He (Simba) becomes RESOLUTE and bold- knowing truly who he is. He is unafraid and ready to confront his uncle (Scar).

Pluto works in much the same way. It has to destroy one's own perceptions of "what is" and break one off to discovering something deeper. Always (with Pluto), there is something deeper that needs to surface.

Simba only looked at himself superficially- denying and separating himself from his lineage and hoping to forget about his past. He lived an unconventional life (for a Lion) with Puma and Timone.

His "devil may care" life- although part of the process of healing from the wounds of guilt for his Father's death- was superficial and meant to be temporary. He couldn't stay there forever and deny who he truly is.

So, Pluto transit on Venus says: "You can love or be loved deeper" OR "You can give more of yourself/ demand more respect from others" etc. It is a transit that often says: "You have been living under the false understanding that this is how far you can love/be loved by others (Venus). That this is where your beauty and self-worth ends. But it is deeper. Much deeper and broader still"

Prior to this transit, one may have been skating on the surface area of Venus related issues; working at a job that doesn't pay them their worth (Ven)? Having a questionable self-esteem (Venus)that has one stick around a relationship that doesn't serve them? Hoarding (Venus)things in ones life that are of little use beyond holding one down? Abstaining from any forms of attachment (Ven) from others- fearing that if they get too close, one may get too used to them and start to depend on them?

Whatever it is, Pluto will come along to change it. First, it will do this in a very painful way i.e., Maybe a most prized lover cheats on them in a wildly despicable way? A loving friend that they were very attached to dies or has a fallout with them that is irreparable?

As these separations/destructions and lesions to one's heart happen, one can find oneself fighting desperately to maintain "what is"(and losing). Maybe one crawls on one's hands and knees to a lover to keep them in their life because one just can't bear life without them? Maybe one gets physically tossed out of a job that one invested so much in? Or one finds oneself always pleading with people to love them and not leave them?

After all this drama(the length of which is entirely dependent on how long one wants to keep on hanging on to "what is") has died down. And the pain of loss/depression slowly dissipates. Something else is born on the other side. Something unexpected and far sturdier than was before. TRUE(Pluto) LOVE(Ven). Whether for the self or for others. Wiser and more layered.

If you are holding on to a lover who is going through this and hoping that they will stay with you. Making this transit about you and not them, this Pluto transit will hit you like a ton of bricks.

It will say "f** your dependency issues". And so, I wouldn't advise praying for the preservation of an existing relationship to stay 'as is'. Or trying to control or predict the outcome by going far ahead of it.

But rather get real about where your relationship is and whether or not you (as an individual) have the rejuvenation and strength to endure and build yourself anew- with or without the other person.

This transit has nothing to do with other people (even though it may initially feel that way). It has everything to do with the person going through it. Something in their life MUST die in order for them to be better.