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Topic: Why am I so obsessed with him?
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Lena909
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posted August 03, 2024 12:52 PM
  
This chart below of me and a guy I had a fling with. The sexual tension was off the chart it was so so overwhelmed for me that I couldn't look into his eyes when I talked to him. I still think of him every single day, I'm soooo obsessed with him 100% but in a sexual way not for who he is because I hate his personality, he was verbally abusive me even before we met. Can someone look into this please, does he has the same level of obsession with me like I do with him?
Me in blue, him in orangehttps://files.fm/f/f3dw34yk34 https://files.fm/u/wm4ymrt23q#/view/7rejhvcdkn
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posted August 05, 2024 08:23 PM
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Aries23Degrees
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posted August 07, 2024 03:31 AM
You have Sun/Nep/Ven/Mars/Ura in a stellium. So to me that suggests that you are already a very obsessive person.Now he comes in to stimulate that with his natal Mars opp your stellium from house 5. And that is the energy which triggers your preoccupation with him. Mars/Sun synastry can(when all factors allow) create sexual attraction. Even the opposition. I don't see him as particularly obsessive per se. But I do think he enjoys pulling out that energy from others (Sun/Plu conj Asc) because it gives him some sense of hypnotic power of them?🤷🏿♂️ The point here is that you were already obsessive to start with. And he just triggered what was already there. Just like a match would trigger a gas lit room IP: Logged |
Lena909
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posted August 10, 2024 04:46 AM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
You have Sun/Nep/Ven/Mars/Ura in a stellium. So to me that suggests that you are already a very obsessive person.Now he comes in to stimulate that with his natal Mars opp your stellium from house 5. And that is the energy which triggers your preoccupation with him. Mars/Sun synastry can(when all factors allow) create sexual attraction. Even the opposition. I don't see him as particularly obsessive per se. But I do think he enjoys pulling out that energy from others (Sun/Plu conj Asc) because it gives him some sense of hypnotic power of them?🤷🏿♂️ The point here is that you were already obsessive to start with. And he just triggered what was already there. Just like a match would trigger a gas lit room
In the past, I've been obsessed with other guys, but the ones who genuinely liked me for who I am, I didn't feel the same way about. I have a tendency to completely cut them out of my life immediately, but I've learned my lesson from that.
I have a male friend (let’s call him A) whose Mars conjuncts with 10 of my planets, just like the other guy (except that his mars opposite mine) I enjoy talking to A, but there’s no attraction or spark at all. I don't have his birth time, but here is our synastry chart—he's represented in blue, and I'm in orange.
I guess only opposition works for me? https://files.fm/f/5kn34ezyzg IP: Logged |
Belage
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posted August 10, 2024 03:45 PM
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Originally posted by Lena909:
This chart below of me and a guy I had a fling with. The sexual tension was off the chart it was so so overwhelmed for me that I couldn't look into his eyes when I talked to him. I still think of him every single day, I'm soooo obsessed with him 100% but in a sexual way not for who he is because I hate his personality, he was verbally abusive me even before we met. Can someone look into this please, does he has the same level of obsession with me like I do with him?
Me in blue, him in orangehttps://files.fm/f/f3dw34yk34 https://files.fm/u/wm4ymrt23q#/view/7rejhvcdkn
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche. Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you. IP: Logged |
Lena909
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posted August 11, 2024 01:20 AM
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Originally posted by Belage:
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche.Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you.
One of my family members has the same mannerisms and choice of words as him. They both from different countries and yet so alike. When I think about it, they look very similar and that's when I realized I have unresolved trauma. I did see some therapists before but it didnt work. I will definitely see a new one. I dont want to live like this, I had been abused by my family for half my life, I'm 30 years old. My Chiron is in Virgo 6th house. Thanks so much for the advice!
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Lena909
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posted August 11, 2024 01:22 AM
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Originally posted by Belage:
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche.Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you.
QUOTE]Originally posted by Belage:
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche.Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you. [/QUOTE]
One of my family members has the same mannerisms and choice of words as him. They both from different countries and yet so alike. When I think about it, they look very similar and that's when I realized I have unresolved trauma. I did see some therapists before but it didnt work. I will definitely see a new one. I dont want to live like this, I had been abused by my family for half my life, 15 years. I dont want to live like this anymore. I will save myself. My Chiron is in Virgo 6th house. Thanks so much for the advice!
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Lena909
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posted August 11, 2024 01:24 AM
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Originally posted by Belage:
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche.Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you.
QUOTE]Originally posted by Belage:
That you are sexually obsessed with someone who has been verbally abusive to you speaks of unresolved trauma in your psyche.Your natal chart shows you have a stellium of 6 planets in Capricorn, opposed by the planet Chiron in Cancer. Chiron is the wounded healer. Chiron seems to be in your 8th house of sex, death, mystery, unles it is in your 7th house of partner. Not sure... Anyway, I strongly suggest you remove the focus from him and other people and focus on healing yourself, otherwise a life of pain, grief and abuse awaits you. Do you really want to go through life in relationships with or sexing people who are abusive to you? I know this is not what you want to hear but that's the best advice I have for you. [/QUOTE]
One of my family members has the same mannerisms and choice of words as him. They both from different countries and yet so alike. When I think about it, they look very similar and that's when I realized I have unresolved trauma. I did see some therapists before but it didnt work. I will definitely see a new one. I dont want to live like this, I had been abused by my family for half my life, 15 years, I will save myself, I dont want to live like this anymore. My Chiron is in Virgo 6th house. Thanks so much for the advice!
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Belage
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posted August 13, 2024 12:18 PM
Your Chiron is in Virgo you say! Okay I went back and looked at the images again. I realized I was looking at the wrong chart and I apologize. You are Pisces rising at 9 degree, with Chiron in Virgo at 8 degrees. That means Chiron is on the cusp of your 7th house,and yes it can function as being in the 6th house, but it also strongly affects the 7th house. So google up the meaning of Chiron in 7th house... Chiron in Virgo is actually a natural trine (though the orb is wide) to your Capricorn stellium, so Chiron wants you to heal. And your ruling planet Jupiter makes a sextile to Chiron. Dear, healing is your path and as long as you are willing, you will be supported in your healing process. Pisces rising can sometimes confer history of abuse, where the native find him/herself in situations as a sacrificial lamb, and also sometimes indulges in the sadomachistic feeling of victimhood and persecution, and SACRIFICE. Not saying that is what you do, just beware that this can be the way the Piscean ascendant energy sometimes manifests.
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Belage
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posted August 13, 2024 12:32 PM
I do concur with Aries23Degrees who stated you have obsessive tendencies due to your stellium. This stellium is in the impersonal 11th house so you might not easily recognize it as something personal. with Uranus and Neptune conjunct your Venus, Mars, Sun stellium,, with Pluto sextiling the stellium, you might be obsessed with societal issues, your social outlook is unusual, unpredictable and sometimes utopian. You might find yourself dating people who are in the public eye or famous or infamous. A good partner for you could be someone in the medical profession, due to your descendant and Chiron in Virgo. THat person may even have some kind of disaiblity... Jupiter makes a trine to your ascendant, confering you natural protection, and maybe also a tendency to gain weight or to even look good with weight on. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted August 14, 2024 10:56 AM
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Originally posted by Lena909:
In the past, I've been obsessed with other guys, but the ones who genuinely liked me for who I am, I didn't feel the same way about. I have a tendency to completely cut them out of my life immediately, but I've learned my lesson from that.
I have a male friend (let’s call him A) whose Mars conjuncts with 10 of my planets, just like the other guy (except that his mars opposite mine) I enjoy talking to A, but there’s no attraction or spark at all. I don't have his birth time, but here is our synastry chart—he's represented in blue, and I'm in orange.
I guess only opposition works for me?https://files.fm/f/5kn34ezyzg
The guy you talk to that you have no intense attraction for has Mercury(a cerebral planet) conjunct your stellium. So the convos may be great. But it's not a connection like Mars (who brings heat and tension to the mix).And not to mention drama. Add to that, the 2nd guy has Asc in Sag with Sun/Ura in house 1.Not the "intense" personality that the first one is. I don't see this Mars conjunction with 10 of your planets. I just see Mercury (his) conjunct your stellium.
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Lena909
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posted August 15, 2024 02:56 AM
Thank you all so much, I appreciate it!!!It's very easy for me to gain weight, and I definitely don't look as good when I'm heavier. All of the fat goes to my belly first, then my thighs. Even when I was at my heaviest weight I have no ass with boobs..
@Belage: Yes, I have this pisces rising tendency.
You're right the 2nd guy his mercury conjunct my stellium. I actually hooked up with the 1st guy once after how badly he verbally abused me. I know... never happen again.
I've got many issues in my life, I need to do it one by one - first - I got laid off earlier this year that led to many bad decisions... Please see my chart, I lost direction in my career... https://files.fm/u/3ymb4whukf With all of the above, I'm working hard on myself to change for the better!!! IP: Logged |
Belage
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posted August 15, 2024 01:15 PM
You lost your job early this year.It makes sense that your Capricorn stellium was heavily affected with the New moon eclipse in Aries, which squared your capp stellium. Eclipses usually signal a change of direction or a new direction, and when it is in square to important planets, the change is always jolting. IP: Logged |
Lena909
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posted August 15, 2024 11:45 PM
The second guy, I typed wrong his year of birth should be 1979 not 1976
Here is new chart, please see below, apparently the 2nd guy mars CONJUNCTS/sextiles/trines/square my whole stellium and some outer planets
While the 1st guy his mars OPPOSITES/sextiles/trines/square my whole stellium and some outer planets
I'm just curious and trying to solve this mystery to identify the patterns I've been falling into, so I can avoid them..so only opposition works for me?
Chart with 1st guy
https://files.fm/u/wm4ymrt23q#/view/7rejhvcdknChart with 2nd guy
https://files.fm/u/apw2q38p3e
https://files.fm/u/ue8rbmssp5 IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted September 07, 2024 10:44 AM
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