posted August 09, 2024 09:15 PM            

He is very reserved and while I wouldn't say he's particularly emotionally detached, he's pretty hard to read. He definitely likes his space which I can respect as he's been single for 7 years and leads a relatively private life. His only relationship was for 2 years and he admitted he never even asked the woman if she'd be his girlfriend...they just started living together and when she called him her "boyfriend", he just went with it.

Sometimes he'll text me a few days in a row and other times we go a few days with no communication. Sometimes he is very affectionate, holds my hand in public, holds the door for me, compliments me and is very present. He is a great listener and we have long conversations about everything, and flirting/chemistry is there. But other times he acts like we're friends, like the other day we went an entire day out on a date with no kiss and he didn't make any intentional moves to be that close to me really at all I don't think he's testing me or trying to lead me on, but either unknowingly emotionally detached or being very careful and protective of his time/energy.

posted August 09, 2024 09:37 PM            

Um I can't read him. It might be my lack of experience in dating! Or it just might be this guy is so chill that I can't read him!

A 1st house stellium, then it might be read as 'independence,' but it could also be read as 'selfish'!

He also just might be the type of guy that needs to be lead; Just look at how he acted in his one relationship (this might be a bit shocking know that a 1st house stellium might want to lead, or take action)! If I were to ask him (LOL), I'd do it in a not so heavy-handed way the guy's chart spells 'freedom' and 'cerebral detachment'!

posted August 10, 2024 04:06 PM            

He seems pretty airy as a person, with Aqua rising and Sun and Venus and Mars ruled by Mercury. Are you airy as well? Are you more watery?? If you find him to be cold or wondering if he is shy, it is quite possible his personal planets, especially his Mars, moon, Venus and Jupiter are not favorably aspecting your personal planets.

Is Uranus or Saturn heavily involved in your interactions? Uranus in square or opposition will increase a feeling of detachment and unpredictability. And Saturn can restrict the free flow of emotions.

posted August 11, 2024 10:57 AM            

Here's what sticks out to me:

- Grand Trine between my natal conj. Venus and Mars, my ASC, and his Saturn (I have this grand trine natally as well)

- T Square between my conj. Venus and Mars, his Venus, and his Mars conj. my Moon.

- Conj. between my Uranus and his ASC + Moon

- Aspects with my Pluto and his Sun, Moon, and ASC

- His Aqua stellium fills my 7H, my Sag stellium fills his 11H

Perhaps I can just link the chart here:

posted August 13, 2024 12:48 PM            

Anyway looks like you are Leo rising and he is Aqua rising. That automatically make you two natural partners as you both rise in each other's 7th house.

His Aqua stellium makes him a desirale partner for you and you will feel a strong attraction toward him as he activates your area of partnership and marriage. This could easily make it a one sided partnership, where you are more invested in the relationship than he is.

Especially since I do not see that you have planets in his 7th house of Leo. However, you should check if you make beneficial and strong aspects to the ruler of his 7th house, which is his Sun. If you do, that can mitigate the lack of planet placements from you in his 7th house of partnership.

posted August 14, 2024 10:16 AM            

But then always ask yourself if it's the thrill of the puzzle that leads you on? Or are you truly attracted to him? And if you are, what (of substance) can he have to offer you?

He doesn't know himself. And be won't for a long time. Hence his inconsistent nature. He is in this life discovering who he is. So he will always responding to impulses and acting in "weird" ways. This will not change.

Neptune people can hold our fascination because of the enigmatic grip that they have on us that is inexplicable but enduring.

If you are obsessive (and your Moon conj Rahu suggests to me that you can be) you will get attached. And your energies will be tied into trying to solve the puzzle that is him.

He on the other hand,isn't so obsessive. He is more detached actually and can go where the wind takes him.He often does.

If you accept him (as is) and don't pressure him to be someone to you that he isn't. It will work out ok.

But if u expect him to be the steady "stability" that centres you. You will have great disappointment. Coz he won't. He will continue to shape ship right before your eyes.