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posted June 23, 2025 11:32 AM            

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Virgo rising having a really hard time after her 7th house Saturn return. I got married and had a baby all within a year.
I have No friends after my baby. Even my best friend bailed. They’re all single with no kids. Jupiter is entering my 11th in July I hope that I make more friends or find connections meant for me.

I am the most uncentered I have ever been. I don’t know why I’m feeling like this. I’m scared for this Saturn 8th house transit. Idk what it will affect. I’m emotionally not well and I don’t want it screwing up the little finances I have lol

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posted June 23, 2025 11:55 AM            

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It might be just different rules comparing to your 20s.
I got to the conclusion adults just don’t care about friendship and connections if it doesn’t go with their personal agenda or you don’t much their life situation.

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posted June 23, 2025 12:14 PM            

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This might reflect Saturn moving through your 7th house. Marriage, a baby, friends not acting like your friend.

Maybe they will come around. You would think they would understand that having a baby changes your life in a big way, but there will still be room for friends. Maybe they don't want to be a bother, since a baby can need so much of your time and energy.

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posted June 23, 2025 12:15 PM            

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Also, welcome!

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posted June 23, 2025 12:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
It might be just different rules comparing to your 20s.
I got to the conclusion adults just don’t care about friendship and connections if it doesn’t go with their personal agenda or you don’t much their life situation.

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So, the shallower group of girls I understand, but my best friend since I was a teenager stings a bit lol. I think that's really why I'm upset. She recently went through a divorce, and she's always wanted a "traditional" life. I've always been wilder and learned to commit during my Saturn return. I hope she's just busy and not in a place of resentment. I don't want to lose her. I really hope Jupiter transiting the 11th house will bring things to light or help my connections.

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posted June 23, 2025 12:52 PM            

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Also, welcome!

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Thank you!!! I’ve been lurking in these threads since I was a teenager lol

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posted June 23, 2025 06:21 PM            

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It is actually quite common that as you embark on this journey called parenting, that many of your childless friends fall away.

Your priorities and interests have changed. You are no longer ready at the drop of a hat to party or hang out. Your conversation is usually centered around baby stuff. Your phone convos are interrupted by crying baby. You take a long time to return texts.

From a single childless person's point of view, you're no fun anymore, lol. Don't take it personally. You will make more friends that have shared interests and priorities. It's part of growing up and maturing.

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posted June 23, 2025 09:01 PM            

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nickname means?

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posted June 24, 2025 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Belage2:
It is actually quite common that as you embark on this journey called parenting, that many of your childless friends fall away.

Your priorities and interests have changed. You are no longer ready at the drop of a hat to party or hang out. Your conversation is usually centered around baby stuff. Your phone convos are interrupted by crying baby. You take a long time to return texts.

From a single childless person's point of view, you're no fun anymore, lol. Don't take it personally. You will make more friends that have shared interests and priorities. It's part of growing up and maturing.

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Yeah you’re right. Priorities have shifted. Back in the day I would’ve had a lot of people around me I could relate to. Now most women my age don’t have kids yet or are childfree. I need more mom friends!!

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posted June 24, 2025 02:50 PM            

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Honestly, cynnybunn,

it's not really your fault. Society has grown selfish. Sorry to be so blunt, it's one of the rare times, on here I will show my Sagittarian bluntness.

Pluto is in Aquarius, and people sure as hell don't know how to care about each other, and make friends (Aquarius), or stay friends (Aquarius), with someone anymore.

Also, Belage2, has a point. It's very common for this to happen. But it's also not ideal, but that's just my opinion. It sounds like it's also the transit of Pluto in Aquarius too.

But, it could also be my Venus in Scorpio talking! I don't do 'lighthearted' and 'detached.'

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posted June 24, 2025 06:09 PM            

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Hey, sorry you are having a rough time. What you have mentioned sounds like Saturn transiting my 7th house. My childhood friend stopped talking to me out of the blue during this transit. Transit Saturn in my 7th house felt like drama involving the men I had been involved with.

Saturn is now in my 8th house I think about how I need to make more money. I also feel like it's doing something to me mentally. I am always thinking about the future worried about losing my mother. Because I checked my future astrology. I have been thinking a lot about having kids. Wondering if my fertility will still be good when I'm ready. The guy I am seeing seems to have some sexual issues like ED maybe? But I can say that I am learning what I truly like sexually. He is gentle (Mars in Cancer) and I am realizing that men with this Mars sign when it aspects my Venus. This is what I need regarding sex. Sorry if that is too much detail. I am just describing what I've experienced with transit Saturn in my 8th house so far. It just entered my 8th house in February of this year. It might currently be aspecting my natal Venus in my 8th house.

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posted June 24, 2025 07:29 PM            

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Try to focus in the positive things.
When women get pregnant and have Babys they may get emotional ups and Downs. But a Baby ist a Blessing so try to focus on that. If the father can Provider finacial stability and the Basic foundations for a Family. Thats already geat for todays Standards in my opinion.
Try to reflect about whats Just Lust in your thoughts that do Not contribute for your Family. Or that maybe a Feeling about the unknown Future and trying to hold to that memories from the past where u where Sure u would feel good.
If U Just Had your Baby thats pretty common i guess.
But having a Baby and caring also demands a lot of time so, you shouldnd me worrying much about anything Else, Just focus on your Baby thats ist already enough. Family is very Important abd the father ist part of that remember that.
You will have plenty of time to think about other things in the Future. But If ure with a Baby thats the priority now.
I think Family is actually one of the Most Important things in Life. So If your having the oportunity, focus on the positive Side.
Time Passes fast, as Said in No Time u will be having oportunities to think about other things.
Believe me i have a little daugther too and despites the dificult Relation with the mother I Wish i did things different in the past. Prioritizing beeing Close to my daugther and trying to leave the past behind.
I may be judging wrong but it Dose Not seeme as so of a dificult Situation of yours. So try to focus on the positive and on the Baby! And If u Thing he deserves it Respekt the father too! Thats Important.
And If No, If its Not degrading yourself, you can sort it out later with him. As Said focus is the Baby now. But dont mix energys Up!

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posted June 28, 2025 05:50 PM            

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Hey! I’m also a Virgo rising and I had a baby in 2024.
My experience was super isolating and it was very hard for me. I work in holistic healing and part of the work I’m starting to do now is helping new mamas process their births and postpartum journeys. I’m slowly getting back into my work and am doing donation sessions, in case you might want to try a remote session with me! No worries if not and good luck on the journey — it’s so big and so real !! <3

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