posted December 10, 2025 07:16 AM            

Because of this, so-called “windows of opportunity” never feel like real openings for love, instead they tend to bring painful or unsettling experiences.

This autumn I had several strong relationship indicators: progressed Mars aspecting Venus, and Primary Direction Venus conjunct my Ascendant. Earlier, the progressed Mars–Venus contact produced a brief infatuation with a TikToker who quickly proved to be giving the same attention to everyone. Of course it was light interaction, but I still noted that it was only thing happening at the time. That was end of August and 2 months later I had Primary direction Venus conjuct asc coming. And I noticed that shortly after the Primary Direction, progressed Mars would move to square Chiron.

I had really hoped the Primary Direction would bring something positive, but that didn’t happen. A couple of days before the PD perfected, I met a man in a public place who showed clear interest in me. Because he was so direct, my first thought was that he must not be married..since in my experience single men are rarely that openly forward due to the risk of rejection. But I did feel some attraction toward him as well, which is unusual for me in that setting.

He tried to get me to talk to him, but the situation didn’t allow it. A few days later I saw him again, and decided to take a small step myself. After my hobby class I went to the café in the same building, thinking that if he was genuinely interested, he would notice me and have the chance to approach. And that’s exactly what happened: he came, watched me closely/showed interest, and when I left, I turned, looked at him, and smiled. Howeve he just stood there smiling happily, without making any move.

Then almost two weeks passed. I was busy with work and hadn’t gone to my hobby, yet he still stayed strongly in my mind. While looking up contact information for completely unrelated work matters, his picture suddenly appeared on a website. This startled me. A couple of days before this l, progressed Mars made its aspect to Chiron. At the l time I was working on a ninth-house-related project that forced me to confront uncomfortable feelings around presenting myself, so I thought perhaps that was the event the progression was pointing toward. But when I recognized this man’s surname on the website, I suddenly realised it was the same rare surname my friend had mentioned months earlier.. her new coworker and a husband of one of her friends. That recognition made the whole situation feel uncanny ..
Ten or fifteen years ago this would have thrown me into a spiral. I don’t want to see him or get involved with anything around him, and honestly, at this point I’m very tired of these type of people. It saddens me that even strong, supposedly positive aspects still bring painful or destabilising experiences instead of genuine connection.

posted December 10, 2025 09:40 AM            

Maybe he'll get a divorce in the future but from how you report it, it seems like there might be a twinflame connection, and they're often not lasting due to stark differences in characters, values and poor communication.

Having natal Venus-Chiron does not mean your love life is doomed. I believe it means the opposite, but some level of pain or sacrifice may be part of it. And that's just the nature of this world. We all have Chiron somewhere in our charts.

posted December 10, 2025 10:56 AM            

If you two are twin flames, or soul mates, things will work out that bring you two together. I suspect that my parents were twin flames, they had so much in common, and were so alike in many ways. I feel like a part of relationships, sometimes, is to learn about yourself too.

I have my Ascendant conjunct my North Node. I have to learn to detach a lot from relationships (South Node conjunct the Descendant). So, on some unconscious levels, I am very attached to idea of relationships. I guess this is the astrology part of my post. And as for soulmate, yeah I believe they exist, but we also have free will and can screw things up!

posted December 10, 2025 12:14 PM            

But because this didn’t hurt me and I haven’t felt terribly bad about it, naturally the universe tries harder. So today, when I got on the bus, there happened to be a couple there( I never see them anywhere), the man was someone I had fallen deeply in love with maybe 15 years ago, and when I met him back then, I didn’t know he was married. And naturally, nothing happened between us then, but it took me many years to get over it.

posted December 10, 2025 04:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
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posted December 10, 2025 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by frida:
How does your 7th house look like in your natal chart? Where is your Venus, what aspect to Chiron? Moon?

I empathize… though I don’t have a smart answer. Relationships are hard. I think some people partner up early and grow with their partner (or through different relationships) and some of us need to go through a lot on our own and then partner up (even if feels that we don’t want it that way). Sometimes it is a combination of things. Venus in aspect with Chiron has to do with us valuing ourselves. It’s hard to explain for me (and I don’t b have much time now)… A lot of times it’s not that simple and it is not obvious on the surface. I have Venus square Chiron (as well as Moon square Chiron - Moon opp Venus). I have always been confident (thanks to a lot of Leo energy and strong Sun) and thought I value myself, yet I had very painful love life. It’s complicated.

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posted December 10, 2025 05:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Valmu83:
The seventh house is empty, but it’s unfortunate that it is ruled by Neptune. Because most of 7th is ruled by Mars, it has often brought situations or opportunities related to relationships. Venus is in the 11th house. It’s retrograde and Virgo. It’s in poor condition and makes a very tight square to Chiron. And also, Moon makes a rather loose square to Chiron. Moon is in the 5th house and in a aquarius, which may not help this matter. I feel that I have valued myself.. But… it’s not that straightforward. Anyway there are no issues with self-esteem i think.

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