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From: edmonton, ab. ca
Registered: May 2009

posted August 26, 2009 01:46 AM         

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So I have this freind, since I was 8 years old - we've been inseperable most of our lives until I fell in love with a man who could not tolerate it. Could not handle me having a freind who was male basically. So I told him, I can't be your freind anymore - I may marry this man and spend the rest of my life with him, and that's what I want so...Sorry, but I can't be your freind anymore.
He was angry, and crushed and it took him a long time to get over it...but he did. And then he looked me up on facebook and now we're freinds again! I missed him so much!

But now I think my current love is uncomfortable with it. He's a Taurus, so maybe it's a posession thing? I love my gay freind to death - he has never been anything but good to me, but I don't know if my guy can tolerate it ...(?!)

Ever been there?

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From: canada
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posted August 26, 2009 01:58 AM         

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wow a taurus guy has a problem with a gay guy i never would have thought that.
but i can understand why he is possesive i guess he likes you alot.

does he know your friend is gay. or does he know already and just does not like it.

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From: edmonton, ab. ca
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posted August 26, 2009 02:20 AM         

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Well, I told him he was gay, but maybe he doubts it? Like, sure I believe it, heck I KNOW it, but maybe my guy thinks it's possible he's just bi and in love with his woman...that's what my last boyfreind worried about. But I'm 100% sure he is 100% gay.

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posted August 26, 2009 02:51 AM         

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well if you know hes 100 percent sure then i dont tihnk there is a problem.

maybe he is like your ex wondering. have you acually had a heart to heart conversation about it with him. invite your friend over or if he lives far away then get him on the phone and let your bf talk to him.
most taurus guys me including can be really slow at first maybe he just needs a little reassurance.

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posted August 26, 2009 03:16 AM         

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NO! I have never been there.

Absolutely not, I could not marry a man who told me I should ditch friends he didn't like. No. I would run away.

I have male friends gay and straight, anyone who is unlucky enough to get to be my boyfriend will just have to live with that fact. But there is a lingering boyfriend I have been married to for many years. The one or two friends he hinted could treat me better he turned out to be right about.

He has a female friend that I nickname the Queen, because he treats her like royalty. She's in her 80s so she deserves it. I doubt there is anything dodgy going on.

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From: Bay Area, CA
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posted August 26, 2009 03:39 AM         

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My Taurus ex from when I was 18 called up my best male friend and threatened him never to call me again. I couldn't find his number and he'd just moved out of state, so I didn't know it by heart.
He never called me because he was too proud (Leo with a Libra Moon... proud, but also trying to keep the peace).
We didn't talk for like 10 years and then we reconnected again and he was like I ALWAYS HATED THAT #$%#@ BOYFRIEND OF YOURS.
My friend is bi, and had a thing for me for years.
We always would (and still do) get in fights and he's always got his nose in my love life, and was really jealous when I got married. When I divorced he would rag on my ex non-stop. It was cute for awhile, but got to be too much. After a time I drew boundaries and now we are Facebook friends and still talk, but we try to maintain a distance from the subject of LOVE, because he tends to ramrod his opinions about all men I date (HE HATES ALL OF THEM)...

I think to be fair I can completely understand WHY someone would be jealous about a friend of the opposite sex being close to you (even if the person isn't hetero)... I get it, but I couldn't 'forbid' someone from being friends with them. I'd feel respected if my S.O. would maintain a bit of a distance (I am also very jealous), try and make ME feel like I am the most important person....
So maybe your man just needs extra assurance.

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