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AscTaurus
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From: Pretoria, Gauteng,South Africa
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posted December 15, 2009 04:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AscTaurus     Edit/Delete Message
To be beautiful is as much a curse as it is a blessing; for it is the beautiful one who will be doubly mesmerising and doubly doubted all at once- Anonymous.

I used to believe that physical beauty was the "be all and end all" until I experienced things differently.

For a long time, I considered myself "average".I didn't see myself as sexy nor even as cute(on a physical level)but it didn't matter because I was(and still am :laughing a guy- and if you are a guy,at-least in my culture- it really doesn't matter how you look.

I played on the soccer team and finally, even though at first my Coach was skeptical,was elevated all the way to Captaincy. What was interesting is that, as my popularity grew, so did my "beauty".

Oddly, even though I am gay and have been openly so, I gained so much more momentum from females than males because most females thought that they could "change my mind" and ,ironically,the males grew more and more threatened by my seemingly unaffected so-called "masculinity". Why guys still believe that being gay affects a person's playing abilities is beyond me.

Suddenly,when I looked in the mirror, I had so much more to be thankful and greatfull for, I felt proud to be in my body. I guess it was through seeing myself through different eyes?

I then went off to varsity. I didn't participate in any sports this time around,I guess I was lazy,but my high self-esteem was still intact.

I approached a guy one day, who just blew me off coldly, and I felt shattered after that rebuff but than I realized "Hang on, this would have never happened to me in high school. Do I now have to prove my worth all over again?"

When I looked in the mirror, I was still the same guy from high school. So what changed? And then it occured to me "Don't be silly dude, you don't need people to make you feel beautiful and special,you only need to keep seeing yourself in the same eyes; as beautiful, special, perfect and for god's sakes-be greatful, stay in that place of constant gratitude."

It is really ironic that on the one day when I didn't care who was watching me; having a great time with my friends, that this wonderfull guy took an interest in me. I am not the best-looking of my group-not by a long shot-but he said that there was something "natural" and unpretentious about me that drew him to me.

I guess it is true what the old proverb says about beauty: "True beauty is confidence; to be unapologetically who you are wherever you are and with whomever you are with."

Years later, I now think that I am beautiful and I can say it with feeling.I've even been complemented by people(so I guess when you belive it, it starts to show itself on the physical level). I am always comfortable in my own skin and don't need to "impress" anyone by being someone other than who I am.


Anyone willing to share their thoughts on what they think true beauty is.

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belgz
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posted December 15, 2009 04:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for belgz     Edit/Delete Message
Lovely story :*


I think the most beautiful person is one who has a beautiful heart. IT means so much more than physical beauty. Loving yourself also means other people love you as well.

I guess beauty to everyone is different.

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Dolphin07
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posted December 15, 2009 06:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dolphin07     Edit/Delete Message
Well said by both of you. I agree.

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Coffee
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posted December 15, 2009 06:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Coffee     Edit/Delete Message
Beautiful. Im in tears. Whats this got to do with astrology?

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aka Kat
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posted December 15, 2009 06:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aka Kat     Edit/Delete Message
How do you attribute this to astrology since this is under an astrology topic?

Depending on the country you live in actual physical beauty can be more beneficial than a drawback. In the US, it is definitely a benefit. Studies show attractive people get more mates (ands with higher status), more money, hired easier, better grades, are considered kinder and smarter. I've seen this first hand being plain Jane. It's really ugly how many people will behave unknowingly. Regarding you being gay. Don't flatter yourself - women know and are not trying to change you. Women just like gay men because you're a lot like us.

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milyi
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posted December 15, 2009 07:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for milyi     Edit/Delete Message
"To be beautiful is as much a curse as it is a blessing" , come on who are we kidding?

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milyi
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posted December 15, 2009 07:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for milyi     Edit/Delete Message

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aka Kat
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posted December 15, 2009 07:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aka Kat     Edit/Delete Message
milyi

The curse of beauty in some countries means you get to be a geisha and not a common ***** . For men, they are considered dumber by their peers, but will quickly get hired as salesmen and in the areas of marketing because people like attractive people. Overall the benefits outweigh the drawbacks unless your a woman in a third world country.

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PeaceAngel
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posted December 15, 2009 07:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeaceAngel     Edit/Delete Message
Moving non-related thread out of Astro forum into LLC2.

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milyi
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posted December 15, 2009 08:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for milyi     Edit/Delete Message
oh c'mon, picture this : a group of average looking people plus one( and I am only using the term because ugly is not a word in Lindaland) complaining about their looks and then the pretty one says: "If only I wasn't so beautiful, God it's such a curse!". Am I the only one who wants to do something nasty to the pretty one? (and not the good kind of nasty )

Lets face it, being beautiful makes life much easier, and that applies to men too. Sure it doesn't make everything perfect but it sure helps.

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milyi
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posted December 15, 2009 08:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for milyi     Edit/Delete Message
And aka Kat wrong and that was a hit below the belt, not very nice of you.

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Yin
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posted December 15, 2009 08:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yin     Edit/Delete Message
I this and relate to it with all my heart:
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...and for god's sakes-be greatful, stay in that place of constant gratitude...

Yay! All Saggies are pretty. You should know that by now, AscTaurus.

All I can say after reading your story is that you've matured well without the self-esteem hangups some of us have and that's a wonderful thing.

Is it weird that I don't think of men as "beautiful" but as "attractive"?
I mean I can certainly appreciate beauty in all its shapes and forms - male, female, inanimate objects even... but when I look at men and use the word "beautiful" to describe them, I've already made up my mind that their physicality/spirit/soul is something to be admired from a distance, given that I'm straight. (Low self-esteem, complexes? Maybe. Maybe not.) Women on the other hand can be all kinds of "beautiful" and "attractive". And no, I'm not atually sexually "attracted" to them. Is this cultural conditioning?

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wheels of cheese
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posted December 15, 2009 08:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheels of cheese     Edit/Delete Message
I know a particular Aquarian man that if he wasn't so beautiful he would never be permitted to get away with half the crap he does. I think his beauty is a curse. For the idiot women he gets involved with at any rate, who can't believe their own "luck" at landing such a person. I mean, come on. I think beauty is overrated. Sexiness on the other hand...

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koiflower
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posted December 15, 2009 04:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for koiflower     Edit/Delete Message
It's wonderful to 'feel' beautiful. It enhances a person's natural beauty. So does confidence and so does a smile.

Anyone can be beautiful.

It's ironic - no-one wanted to date me in my home country and the times I have lived in Australia, people have commented on my looks in a positive way.

Nice story, btw.

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GypseeWind
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posted December 15, 2009 06:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
Nice story, and totally true.

Just goes to show, that what you think does project and manifest outwardly.

Funny that the young often suffer the worse insecurities.

I look back at pics, and I remember at the time thinking I was sooooo ugly, and I acted accordingly. By that I mean, dating people well below my own personal standards, because I thought that is what I could get, and keep. Nope. Even they know and insecure mess when they see one.

It took me into late thirties to feel comfy in my own skin, and it totally comes across to other people, I mean, they treat me differently. It is something you not only sense, but can actually see.

....and I do find some men beautiful. Some men are excruciatingly beautiful. Is it a curse? In some ways...I suppose it may be similiar to being wealthy, you may constantly wonder if people are with you for your looks (cause you know that reflects on them) or who you are.

Either way, Bravo for you, for figuring this out, and so young at that.

p.s. Has anyone ever found a person who is by all accounts ugly, beautiful??? I have!

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koiflower
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posted December 15, 2009 06:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for koiflower     Edit/Delete Message
GW - yes, I have found traditionally 'ugly' people attractive.

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blue moon
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posted December 17, 2009 02:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for blue moon     Edit/Delete Message
I opened this up on Astro2 though I'm certainly not a beautiful person. It was probably because DepT wrote it, he stands out as someone with something worth saying. Can't see you though, can I?

Beauty is an aesthetic thing, very nice in its own way. Handy if you want to look at something. In people I prefer evidence of doing something useful, saying something worth listening to or best of all some nice manners and caring attitude.

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teasel
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posted December 17, 2009 03:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
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p.s. Has anyone ever found a person who is by all accounts ugly, beautiful??? I have!

I have. I've also experienced the reverse.

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GypseeWind
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posted December 17, 2009 02:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
OHHH! Good point Teasel! Yes, Paris Hilton, some say is sooooo beautiful, but I see only the....ugly attitude. ewwww.

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WinkAway
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posted December 17, 2009 03:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for WinkAway     Edit/Delete Message
I made it a habit to befriend people who others teased in school.
I had one friend in middle school who's face was horribly deformed. One side of her face kinda sagged. She also had one glass eye and the eye was clear so you could kind of see thru it and it weaped with infection.
Kids were horrible to her. They called her the one eyed purple people eater.
We hung out together till she eventualy moved away.

Then there was a boy in high school who I hung out with. He had some kind of pigmentation problem with his skin. I still don't know and was afraid to ask. But he looked like he was...marbled with black and white skin. You know how you have crazy fears when you're expecting babies? Well when I was pregnant with my twins I was afraid they would come out like my friend. The best way I could describe it was like a strange all over birth mark. And I think he had mental issues too because he was in special ed classes. He walked strange, drooled a lot and his teeth were messed up.
But it made me mad how kids would pick on him.

So as far back as I can remember I befriended kids like them. Who is anybody to define ugly anyway?

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