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Topic: How to stop obsessing over something that has run its course...?
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Virgo-AriesArtist
Knowflake Posts: 225
From: Michigan :)
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted February 15, 2010 02:43 PM
  
Hey fellow Knowflakes,I'd like to ask your advice on something that's been bugging me lately...how do you release the need to obsess over something or someone when you know the need to do so is unproductive? I have a friend who is back in my life, and that is a great thing, but I keep letting my own ego get in the way in terms of wanting to talk with said person more often, even when I have nothing earth-shattering to say. I know having the person in my life again is a blessing, but right now, there's no pressing need for us to talk further, and pursuing conversation makes me feel needy. I have successfully stopped obsessing a few times for two or three days at a time, but then it come back again. This person is not a former bf or lover, and yet why do I get wrapped up in hearing from them? Can I chalk it off to Pluto in Scorpio in the 7th in my natal chart or Saturn in Scorpio in the 8th? Does Scorpio energy even manifest like this? Any thoughts or advice would be much appreciated. ~Kat IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
Moderator Posts: 5188
From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted February 15, 2010 03:55 PM
I have Scorp in the 7th too, and I think it does lend itself to obsessive thoughts and behaviors.All behaviors are learned processes though. Like when I was a child, I bit my fingernails until they bled. So, something would trigger stress, and then my comfort was in releasing the tension by biting my nails. I've found the only way to change behaviour is by diversion tactics. Some people wear a big fat rubber band on their wrist, and when they think of something that is unpleasant, they snap the band, eventually the brain equates that particular thought with pain, and will stop thinking it. There are probably dozens of ways besides rubber bands to do this, I can't think of any at the moment, but I'm sure if you google it, you will find something that suits you. Good luck! IP: Logged |
wheels of cheese
Knowflake Posts: 1461
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Registered: May 2009
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posted February 16, 2010 07:16 AM
It hasn't run its course if you are still obsessing about it.I say go for diversion, like Gypsee said, but also don't beat yourself up if you do get into thinking too much about it. Your feelings are your feelings. You don't have to feed them, but don't deny them either. It will pass. "Everything will be ok in the end
And if it's not ok
It's not the end" There's a Bach flower rememdy for feeling like you're stuck in a rut. White Chestnut. I can recommend. Go easy on yourself 
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Virgo-AriesArtist
Knowflake Posts: 225
From: Michigan :)
Registered: Jun 2009
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posted February 17, 2010 12:31 AM
Thanks, GypseeWind and wheels of cheese! I will try the diversion bit, as I do have something practical to divert me...packing for our move!I also like the sound of the Bach Flower Remedy and I'll be checking out my local health food store. wheels of cheese, thanks for the quote on things not being over or having run their course yet...that was a point I hadn't considered. I thought by saying my peace without specific intentions to the friend in question would make the doors close, and then also thought if the friend opened the door of reconnection that things had to go only one of two ways...I guess I stand corrected. I'll just have to wait and see how this plays out. IP: Logged | |
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