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Topic: I'd like to vent here - teenage style
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Choc
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posted February 25, 2010 06:39 PM
 
Ok here we go.
I am an adult woman but..
I hate when you tell a guy that you fancy him and he goes all mysterious and "aww I know how you feel, I've been there before", "use your beauty and wits and you can find someone good for you", "nothing's changed between us".
Boo hoo you prick being all high and mighty.
I bet he feels so good about himself right now and I hate myself for giving him that pleasure.
I don't want his effing pity and I don't give a cr#p about him still apreciating me.
He was the one throwing little clues here and there, saying things like "come on, express yourself, let yourself go, you'll feel better afterwards". He was the one constantly eyeing me even though he's effing "committed". I tried to keep my dignity and respective distance through the whole thing.I will move on like as I always do but this effing annoying at the moment.
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vapor-lash
Knowflake Posts: 957
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posted February 25, 2010 07:02 PM
That sounds like something I would say.Does he have a Pisces Mercury? I clam up when people tell me stuff like that - if I don't feel the same way. I try to say something nice. I try to preserve the friendship etc.. but it never works out too well. Choc.. when you were in his shoes.. when a guy you didn't want to (or could not) be with.. told you he was in love (or in like with you) - how did you react? If he is committed - even if he feels the same way.. maybe he'd prefer not to go there. I don't know the situation.. whether he is married, has kids.. etc I'm sorry this has happened 
He really doesn't sound like someone who could make you happy. I avoid words personally (when I want to make my feelings known).. I'd kiss someone's neck in the right context.. rather than tell him I "like" him.
That seems to work so far. IP: Logged |
Choc
Knowflake Posts: 120
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posted February 25, 2010 07:09 PM
We were born the same day/year.We're double Cancerians, with Gem. Venus and Cancer Mars/Mercury. He's got a Scorpio asc. but I am a Virgo rising.
He is also about to get engaged though he seems like a player. [What was I thinking?]. when you were in his shoes.. when a guy you didn't want to (or could not) be with.. told you he was in love (or in like with you) - how did you react?
Only one guy has done that so far but he just was too desperate to get laid so I ignored him. *shrugs* I can't help but imagine how I'd react like if I were actually in love with him. IP: Logged |
vapor-lash
Knowflake Posts: 957
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posted February 25, 2010 07:17 PM
It sounds like he was leading you on.. *sigh*.. Maybe it wasn't intentional. As far as I've noticed Cancers are pretty attached to their partners.. so it doesn't sound like he'd leave her. I think you are being very wise about it when you say you *will* move on. I don't think this is a situation to stay friends or stay in contact. You would be happiest if you cut him out IP: Logged |
Choc
Knowflake Posts: 120
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posted February 26, 2010 04:34 PM
Oh it was intentional for sure. By what he's made me understand so far, there won't be a happy ending for his lady and that's a damn shame - for her, because she seems so in love.I'd have cut him on the spot but I didn't wanna look too bothered or vindictive by the whole thing. IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted February 26, 2010 07:41 PM
cancers have that rep (being attached to their partners) however that is a HUGE generalization!! take it from a cancer's ex-partner!!but just because someone is engaged doesn't mean he's not attracted to others. kudos to him for sticking to his engagement. the fact that you have so much in common may make it easier for you to read his (suppressed) thoughtfeelings but maybe he was just being honestly positive about YOU without giving in to urges that would jeopardize his relationship? IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1734
From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted February 27, 2010 11:06 PM
He was trying to see if you were attracted to him. He wasn't actually prepared to give you anything in return. He wanted to see you go through the wringer. He's probably attracted and desperately needs to see that he can still make an impact on a woman, to feel that 'he's still got the touch'. IP: Logged |
Choc
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posted February 28, 2010 12:06 PM
Well, it was a long convo but trust me when I say this, he only proved to me how incredibly immature and insecure he is. I want nohting to do with him and hopefully his lady, one day, will open her eyes and see what's deasling with.IP: Logged |
Valus
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posted February 28, 2010 04:33 PM
can i vent like a teenager, too?like, oh my god, like,
totally, what the f-ck,
i mean, seriously, you know,
like, sh-t, I mean, God,
like, really, I'm not even kidding,
I swear to God, this is serious,
like, who does she think she is?
I mean, G----o-----d!!!! lol But seriously,
how should he react?
Do you want to make a burden,
or a gift, of your love? "If I love you,
what business is it of yours?"
~ Goethe
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Choc
Knowflake Posts: 120
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posted March 02, 2010 09:15 AM
Love? Not really.IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1734
From: Bay Area, CA
Registered: May 2009
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posted March 03, 2010 03:58 AM
I think it's good you were able to see past the situation. IP: Logged |
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