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Topic: Can You Only Accept Your Good Side and Not Bad Side
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Ami Ann
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posted August 13, 2010 11:43 AM
 
Why I asked this is self explanatory  X Ami ------------------
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WinkAway
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posted August 13, 2010 01:46 PM
I acknowledge my bad side.. don't like it, but yeah I guess I accept it..IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 13, 2010 04:08 PM
Thank you ((Wink))
You know what is bad about this Board  ?
You can't erase whole threads lol Ami ------------------
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WinkAway
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posted August 13, 2010 04:43 PM
Yeah probably because that would open up a whole new can o worms lolIP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 13, 2010 04:47 PM
Wel, on my other Board, the originator of the thread could erase his own thread--only. I feel embarrassed about my 8th house Stellium thread .
That is why I bring it up .
Actually, I feel embarrassed about this thread ,too,lol Ami ------------------
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WinkAway
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posted August 13, 2010 05:44 PM
((AMI))Well I think it's refreshing to see topic's like you post. Others find it worth replying to, so it's all good  But if you post a thread that nobody has replied to, you can email me and I'd be happy to make it vanish for ya **poof** lol. I think when people have a problem with it may be if someone replies to it then it becomes personal to them.. IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 13, 2010 07:11 PM
Thank you (((Wink))
It is nice to know I can step in it and then get out 
X O X Ami
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PeaceAngel
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posted August 14, 2010 06:57 AM
I read an interview with Keanu Reeves many years ago where he said he'd rather regret the things that he's done rather than the things he hasn't done. I love this, it's brilliant.As for the thread question, I think that our best and worst qualities are the same. IP: Logged |
Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 07:39 AM
To be honest, I don't think about this much.PA -
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I think that our best and worst qualities are the same.
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Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 08:00 AM
I am seeing my life path more--from writing .
I have to DIG out from under my Mother. I have to separate good from evil.
I have to take tweezers and pull each evil splinter out and replace it with good.
I have to see it no matter how much it hurts.
I have to be out there with my individuality.
I have to put myself out there no matter what happens--i.e. look stupid, make mistakes.
Then, I will learn who I am apart from her and her messages in my head.
Ami
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Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 08:24 AM
You know, I think I see the good/evil distinction every day..
Good:
Angels carrying wooden spoons -
The Love Guru -
Kama Sutra -
Evil:
The one and only -  IP: Logged |
Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 08:31 AM
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I have to separate good from evil.
The best way to tell evil from good is: Watch for people holding their pinky to their mouth - saying "evil" with a sneaky glimmer in their eyes.
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psssst
I'm just mucking around 
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Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 08:34 AM
I know  x o Ami ------------------
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Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 08:47 AM
^ To lighten the mood lol
But ok - on a more serious note.. For some reason I see drawing & enforcing that distinction (good-evil) as the death of love.
Don't ask me why -- because I will spout out some aimless Piscean ramblings - that won't make much sense lol PS.
I guess every person is the star of their own show and every person likes to think of themselves as the "good" guy. But that is very relative. So I usually try not to look at it in these terms, because it doesn't seem useful. But that's just me. I mean I think it is impossible to be objective. Even if there was some clear moral standard of good and evil.. and everyone agreed upon it (which seems insanely improbable).. Even THEN it would be impossible to be objective from our first-person pov - and *judge* ourselves and others "accurately", so to speak. You might do something that you believe is perfectly OK - and the next person might interpret it as hugely negative. I think this kind of thing happens fairly regularly throughout our lives. In the end - I am settling with the thought that I've made mistakes and will make plenty more and so has everyone around me. I don't classify as myself as good or evil - and I don't classify others as this.. I just feel like "it is what it is" and nobody is perfect. Knowing that, simply in virtue of being human - If I walked a thousand feet in the others' shoes (or, more specifically, in the shoes of a person who caused me harm in some way) - I would, quite possibly, be just as capable of the same negative behaviour -- Makes it easier for me to forgive and move on. I'm not sure if this is helpful. IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 08:55 AM
My path is getting honed down, Thank Goodness. I can SEE little by little the puzzle that was my life.
IQ had it right on that thread. He is the first person who ever confirmed my reality.
You never had a mother who was trying to destroy you.
You could never understand. I am GLAD that you can't.
Who wants it?
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Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 09:05 AM
Ami - I edited in some things - sorry my "PS" is longer than my post lol
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You never had a mother who was trying to destroy you.
No. I just moved half way across the world at an early age - lost all of my friends and family and then went through the death of the people who brought me up, the closest people in the world to me (neither of which I was able to be there for). I am sorry but I don't like comparing lives and situations. Everyone has their own problems. I think the way you DEAL with these problems and the way you MOVE on and manage to forgive certain things in yourself and others - is what matters at the end of the day. I want to bring some positivity in this world if I can and I think that I can. I also think you CAN.. if you choose to and if you want to. IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 09:09 AM
I am gonna think about what you wrote.
I do want to say that you have taught me so much and I am very grateful for that.
I hope we can be closer friends in the future.
You have a lot to teach me.Perhaps, I have things to offer you, too x o Ami ------------------
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LEXX
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posted August 14, 2010 09:11 AM
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You never had a mother who was trying to destroy you.
Yes I did (and do, as they still try)A mother and a stepmother.IP: Logged |
Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 09:15 AM
I KNOW, LEXX.When I wrote this, I thought of you and a few other people I know on here. You MUST confront it or it will eat you alive and spit out the bones
x o x Ami
PS This is NOT to make less of your situation Dyn-a.
*I* cannot understand your struggles cuz I did not have them.
I had different ones .
The way I see it is that we can learn from each other ,from the differences and from the things which are the same, the things that make us human. There are things that only people who went through them can truly understand .
I think God brings us those soul sisters/brothers like LEXX and me. Then, He brings us other friends who lift us up and understand us in other ways like you and me. It is just the variety of life in God's garden, you could say lol Both flowers are beautiful Ami
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Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 09:19 AM
Ami  Thank you - I think your Gem side is awesome and has taught me a lot, because I cannot detach in that airy way.. I lack air for the most part. LEXX - What do you think about the good/evil distinction? Would you find this helpful?
I don't think I could "forgive" and get past something if I portrayed the object of my forgiveness as "evil" - in my mind. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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posted August 14, 2010 09:21 AM
As to good/evil;
A balanced soul understands both.
It is our capacity to be either that matters.
Innocence cannot understand good.
It has nothing to compare it to if it knows not evil, and cannot comprehend it.
Then it can only be good but not understand it, so it becomes a being, not a doing, not a conscious choice.
The same in reverse also applies to evil.
Innocent pure good or innocent pure evil is not a true conscious state of awareness.
As to what you said: quote:
I don't think I could "forgive" and get past something if I portrayed the object of my forgiveness as "evil" - in my mind.
I agree.
Like is my mother evil or is she mentally ill and drinks too much? Is she a rabid Christian bigot full of hate at gays and others and wants them all killed? Yes.
Sexual abuse, bloody whippings, bruising beatings...terror supreme....
so can I forgive her?
I have.
Can I trust her?
Hell no!
She is I believe very dangerous.
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Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 09:24 AM
I lack earth so I can't find my way from Point A to Point B without wonderful friends like you,Dyn-a
Ami
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Ami Ann
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posted August 14, 2010 09:34 AM
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Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 09:52 AM
LEXX, quote:
As to good/evil;
A balanced soul understands both.
It is our capacity to be either that matters.
^ This feels right to me. quote:
Innocence cannot understand good.
It has nothing to compare it to if it knows not evil, and cannot comprehend it.
That explains how I feel. I cannot understand *either* good or evil, in separation from the other.
It seems there is no good in the absence of evil and vice versa.. as you said. I can't really pick anything in this world - any object - any human or other animal - any situation - any institution - that I can point at and say *that there* - that is ALL good... or THIS here is ALL evil. quote:
Like is my mother evil or is she mentally ill and drinks too much? Is she a rabid Christian bigot full of hate at gays and others and wants them all killed? Yes.
Sexual abuse, bloody whippings, bruising beatings...terror supreme....
so can I forgive her?
I have.
I think about it this way - when a person hurts me. I think: "LOOK at their overall situation. If I was brought up a certain way - if I lived their lives.. If I was indoctrinated from an early age that gay people are "bad" (for instance) - If I had mental problems that I cannot control or drug abuse problems... etc... Then what would I be like?" Usually - I can leave it at that and I can forgive. But I am no saint, and I don't find this easy always. quote:
Can I trust her?
Hell no!
She is I believe very dangerous.
I completely get this. There is a difference between forgiving someone -and- inviting them into your life. I am very glad to see you feeling better. IP: Logged |
Dy-na-mi-tee
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posted August 14, 2010 09:53 AM
Ami -Nvm I was just answering - but you edited that part. I think it is true though. We all have our take and our own perspective on things. IP: Logged |
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