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Randall
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posted September 08, 2010 08:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
I have a lot of Earth in my chart and a strong Cappy influence, as well, but I'm not close to my family at all. To top it off, I have no desire to have children. I'm quite content and even fulfilled with not being a father. I do get along well with kids, and I don't mind dating women with children, I just don't feel the need to have any of my own. So, am I broken? What's wrong with me?

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GypseeWind
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posted September 08, 2010 09:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
You ain't broken, you are just from a time and a place that taught you it was 'right' or 'the natural thing to do', to grow up, get married, and have kids.
Life isn't a to-do list.

If you're not feelin' it, better that you don't have any and put all your focus on something that you feel passionate about, that way you don't cheat yourself or the child, right???

Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear.

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Randall
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posted September 08, 2010 09:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Hahaha! Yes, you are all my children.

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Ami Anne
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posted September 08, 2010 09:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message

I think that if /when the time is right you will know it.
If it never seems right, then it is not meant to be.
The worst thing would be to do it to be normal/acceptable to social norms.
I did that my whole life and it added up to a big, fat zero.

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PeaceAngel
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posted September 08, 2010 09:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeaceAngel     Edit/Delete Message
There's nothing wrong with you. Different people have different needs. I think we're taught from an early age that we're expected to fit a certain social expectation about getting married and having kids. Some people aren't built that way and trying to fit that just goes against who they are. You know what's right for you regardless of the expectations others may have. It's okay. Do what's right for you. Your feelings will be your best guide. If it doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't, for you.

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katatonic
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posted September 08, 2010 09:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for katatonic     Edit/Delete Message
of course not! the whole you-gotta-have-kids thing is a concoction that keeps you chained to the grindstone. lots of people do a good job of it and maintain their creative energy, but probably more do not! you are an immortal, right? you will have many more relationships than nuclear family type ones, and you can do all kinds of things parents can't. anyway who's to stop you changing your mind in 50 years' time?

not that having kids is not great, but it's not for everyone, and those who don't, make the balance for those who insist on having 8, can you imagine if everyone did that?

although procreation is instinctive to a point i for one hope that people will be at least a little rational about that option. there are too many of us for my taste already!

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teasel
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posted September 08, 2010 09:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
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Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear.

This was my first thought, as well. (Aside from the fact that there's nothing with Randall for feeling this way.)

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LEXX
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posted September 08, 2010 09:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message
I do not see anything wrong with you!

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AcousticGod
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posted September 08, 2010 11:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AcousticGod     Edit/Delete Message
I'm not real close with my family either. I'm nebulous on wanting children. No strong feelings one way or the other.

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charmainec
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posted September 09, 2010 06:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message
Nope although you have been going through many different phases.And you're not broken

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Happy Dragon
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posted September 09, 2010 07:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Happy Dragon     Edit/Delete Message
*** .. but I'm not close to my family at all. To top it off, I have no desire to have children. I'm quite content and even fulfilled with not being a father. I do get along well with kids, and I don't mind dating women with children, I just don't feel the need to have any of my own. ***

ditto ..

and I don't see 'owt wrong with it ..

** So, am I broken? **

No .. although there's probaly folk with natal chart
setups that might think so from their perspective ..

e.g. to my mum .. 'family' was everything ..
she always thought there was something wrong with me ..
'friends' are more like 'family' to me ..
( sun in 11th house ) ..
being close friends with a relative seems like a bonus to me ..

posting your astro chart ( in the appropriate forum of course ) might help .. ;-)
e.g is there a Uranian influence in there ?? per chance ..

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mermaid26
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posted September 09, 2010 08:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mermaid26     Edit/Delete Message
Broken? Wrong?
No, I really don't think so. I believe your personal truth is exactly right for you.
Maybe it's just time to discover that "they" were wrong...those internal and external "voices" and projections whom implied how perfection falsely appears in this realm of duality. The process of individuation certainly brings forth these matters, so that they can finally be diffused and dissolved, for your soul's unique growth.
Yeah, I agree, you already have lots and lots of children, thanks to all that Papa Saturn influence. Now just don't forget to feed the fish or delegate the task and such...you know.
Oh yeah... don't forget to go outside and play too!

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Peace & Purple
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posted September 09, 2010 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Peace & Purple     Edit/Delete Message
Nah! Nothing wrong with you. That's something we should maybe explore within ourselves. So many people have kids that are less than enthused and committed to the responsibility.

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scorpio17
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posted September 09, 2010 02:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for scorpio17     Edit/Delete Message
Gypsee, -Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear-
LOL, daddy Randall!

Randall
It is kind of strange in the books cappy is always related to family etc.
Is there a reason not to be close to your family and to turn it the other way around
maybe your family wants/needs you close?

I would love to have children some day, buth it hasn't come on my path yet.
It upsets me very much because there is a time limit to it.

If someone don't want to have childeren,that's their choice. For religious people the bible tells them otherwise.

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Quinnie
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posted September 09, 2010 02:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Quinnie     Edit/Delete Message
I saw this reply to a friend from one of his friend's regarding the very same sentiments... he wrote...
All credit to your parents, they brought you up well!
You don't need to have kids to prove your worth, you are worthy enough.. So nothing wrong with you from my point of view...

We luvs you

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BiBi DeAngelo
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posted September 09, 2010 02:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BiBi DeAngelo     Edit/Delete Message
Randall....

Perhaps the NO NEED of having children... is that your life purpose doesn't include children... like Oprah's didn't (would you label Oprah as having something wrong with her because her path nurtures the planet and not her own birthing of a child? - no)... you nurture the planet simply by having the passion of this site which nurtures souls all around the globe... Just because more souls choose to birth other souls doesn't mean that is 100% the purpose of all souls.. think how many souls on the planet didn't have this life journey!


Member's: Let's start a list & keep adding names of magnificent souls that didn't have children

1. Oprah

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AbsintheDragonfly
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posted September 09, 2010 03:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AbsintheDragonfly     Edit/Delete Message
Are you early or late Cappy Randall? I can't remember.

All I know is that Pluto is busy re-arranging everything in our sun sign right now, so that might be triggering this questioning.

Nothing at all wrong with you, and no you aren't broken.

ADfly

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Randall
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posted September 09, 2010 03:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Late.

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WinkAway
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posted September 09, 2010 03:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for WinkAway     Edit/Delete Message
Randall...
At least you can see that in yourself.
If only everyone was that honest with themselves..

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remixel-pixelpixie
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posted September 10, 2010 01:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for remixel-pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Yes.

Just kidding. I know you missed me.

Whatev. You don't want kids, that doesn't mean anything-they're a huge responsibility for ever and ever and ever. Plus- they poop and can't do much about it themselves at first.
You have to find other people to watch them when you go to work or go to fun, and it costs boatloads of money.

They will also give you the most pain and longing and heart-densifying love you can even imagine, so for me, the cost is way beyond the yearning. But I totally get if one doesn't long for it, because on the outside it's not entirely appealing for many reasons. On the inside it's squishy and perfect to me though. I'd have seven billion more kids.
Er... or less.
The view from within is multi-layered and not only in a good way, but it's easy to dismiss the notion when looking at it form with-out.

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WinkAway
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posted September 10, 2010 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for WinkAway     Edit/Delete Message
I can honestly say that I'm just too selfish to be the perfect mom everyone says I should be...or media says anyway. I can admit that and if anyone has a problem with it....tough.

If you decide you don't want to have kids of your own that's your choice. Don't let anyone pressure you into thinking otherwise.
If I could rewind things I would have waited much longer and even then I'm not sure I would have had any.

I'm okay too with dating someone who has kids but no more for me. For one I'm too damn old... turning 40 in a couple of weeks..

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