posted February 16, 2011 09:24 PM
Ugh.
Yep, I've had this problem, but for very short term as I have no patience for that sort of thing.
Wow, stories, I could tell ya..Well, I'll tell ya just this one, it should make you feel a bit better at least!
When I was first married to my soon to be ex husband, we rented his mothers house, as she was also getting a divorce.
They didnt have enough equity in the house to sell it yet, so we decided to move in and rent it for awhile.
It was me, my husband and my baby daughter.
My MIL then asks if we could redo the attic (she would pay for the remodeling) and let her younger son live there. It was his first time living away from home as he just got out of the service.
We weren't thrilled, but we thought it would be OK, cos he would help share the cost, and he would have his own very large space.
Yeah, sounds good on paper.
He moved in, and turned out to be the biggest slob ON EARTH.
He had a lil cleanliness problem, and he would wear cowboy boots with NO SOCKS, and then flop on my WHITE couch, with his dirty, smelly feet and literally, run everybody out of the room.
That was the first issue.
We had to tell him over and over to shower when he got home, and to keep his boots in his upstairs apartment.
Even though he had cable, a mini fridge, and all the comforts of a real home upstairs, I couldn't keep him up there!
I felt a bit bad, because I knew he was lonely, and he didn't want to sit upstairs by himself, so I tried to overlook it.
He had a knack of showing up just when I cooked, and he would eat huge amounts, not leaving enough for the rest of us.
He never washed a dish.
Once, I couldn't find any forks, so I had to go upstairs while he was at work, and look for some...
O.M.G.!!!
Up there, it looked like a crime scene!!
Dirty piles of dishes and clothes everywhere.
Empty, and half empty pizza boxes.
and his sheets!!
They were BLACK!
It never occurred to me to see about washing a grown man's sheets. EWWWW!
The last straw was when I walked in my LIVING room, to him.. uhhh.. using my TV for watching some ADULT entertainment, and doing what one does while watching it.
I had my two year old with me!!!
I was so upset I ran into my bedroom, and called his mother.
She said I was overreacting!
I locked myself in my room all night.
Seriously, girl, I was traumatized.!!
My BIL tried to discuss that little incident with me, but what is there to say?
I kept saying, "You have a TV upstairs, why, why, why, on my couch??"
It was terrible.
Shortly after, my MIL's best friend was getting a divorce and needed to move some place ASAP.
I called her, and offered her the rest of my lease.
She accepted.
Those two lived together for about 3 years.
I have no idea how they did it, but they did.
We got the hell out.
Sorry that wasn't a happy ending story, but you asked for a story!
LOL.
Good luck.
My advice to any sort of problem such as this, is to communicate.
Anything left unsaid leads to resentment, which clearly you already have, so before it deteriorates any faster, you should tell them how you feel.