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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted February 16, 2011 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How do you get through to people who only see things their way?? Try to fix things or drop their friendship?

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NickiG
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posted February 16, 2011 08:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NickiG     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
drop the friendship...they'r not worth it if they cant see others points of view....if they are a true friend then they will see the wrong they did and apologize and try to change

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Randall
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posted February 16, 2011 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Drop 'em. You can do better. You deserve better.

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GypseeWind
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posted February 16, 2011 08:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Take a break at least, if you don't want to drop them completely.

I had to do this with a couple people.
I just told them that I didn't want to be involved with all their drama anymore.

With one of them, the friendship ended, which clearly told me that she didn't value it, she just wanted more blood to suck, so to speak... emotional vampire and all that.

With the other person, she came around some months later, and apologized, so you just never know.
Sometimes people are so emeshed, they don't know their doing it, and sometimes people just live that way.
You have to figure out which ones are which.
Good luck, you are a sweetheart, you'll do fine.

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EverEvolvingSpirit
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posted February 16, 2011 09:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EverEvolvingSpirit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Drop the friendship. I've been doing alot of that since the beginning of the year, it's amazing how much your life improves when you get rid of unhappy needy people that want to unload their sh*t on you and go along their merry way. You're not needed until they need someone to unload on all over again.

Ugh . . . to think about it really angers me, how people can be so damn selfish and not even realize it :/

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Ami Anne
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posted February 16, 2011 09:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Drop,drop,drop
God will bring you the people who are right for you if you open your hand and your heart.
Let people come .Let people go.
Be you.
You don't have to be perfect.
Learn from each person and bless them as they leave

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Deux*Antares
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posted February 16, 2011 10:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Deux*Antares     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No man is your friend
No man is your enemy
Every man is your teacher.
- old saying

If you can't drop the friendship, try to focus only on their positive side. Your attention to their negative side feeds it more energy and will just reinforce what you don't like about them.

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Lonake
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posted February 17, 2011 03:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lonake     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow,
i went through this.

You can't.
Stubborn lives and dies stubborn.
No changing them.

My trend is to drop the friendship.
if I have to see them then I keep the conversation cordial and as distant as possible.

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charmainec
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posted February 17, 2011 04:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A true friend is willing to listen and is understanding.

From personal experience, I drop those that cause too much negativity,it's draining.

They have to be willing to change, you can't make them change.


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Lyra
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posted February 17, 2011 08:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lyra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Depends what the issue is. Is it small enough to let go?

Can it be talked about?

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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted February 17, 2011 08:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you everyone! Dropping and moving on does seem like a better idea.

Lyra: Definitely not small, it's been brewing for months. They're so insecure about friends and they have to be the center of everyone's life. If they're not, step back and watch fireworks

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charmainec
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posted February 17, 2011 08:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
CS

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Randall
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posted February 17, 2011 10:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As you progress Spiritually, it is the natural order of things that you will attract people more like yourself. Thus, you will also lose friends, because of the change in vibration. But a loss is a win. Nature abhors a vacuum. Metaphysically speaking, that means new friends will appear to take their place.

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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted February 17, 2011 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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Ami Anne
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posted February 17, 2011 09:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Randall
This is happening to me.
It is so weird.
I am changing so much.

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Randall
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posted February 17, 2011 10:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted February 17, 2011 11:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
*cue emotional music*
(tears) I love you guys

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Randall
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posted February 18, 2011 02:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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charmainec
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posted March 09, 2011 04:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Was wondering how it went with your friend CS.

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Cancer/Scorpio729
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posted March 09, 2011 04:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cancer/Scorpio729     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by charmainec:
Was wondering how it went with your friend CS.


Thanks for asking, from their perspective we're all good (we talked about it; no one said sorry) but I still avoid them. And everywhere I go people are expressing their deep dislike of them. I'm glad the drama's over.

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Randall
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posted March 10, 2011 04:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Glad it worked out.

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Ami Anne
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posted March 10, 2011 05:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am going through this.It is hard.You feel like you did something wrong.
Maybe you did.Maybe other people did,too.
Most likely,it was both people.
It ,usually,is.

When things don't fit anymore,it is OK,I tell myself.
I think we have to open our hand to let people come in and open our hand to let them go.
You can never squish a person like a butterfly, trying to capture it's beauty for yourself.
Certain things won't work in life.
Holding too tightly to others is one

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charmainec
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posted March 11, 2011 02:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charmainec     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Cancer/Scorpio729:
Thanks for asking, from their perspective we're all good (we talked about it; no one said sorry) but I still avoid them. And everywhere I go people are expressing their deep dislike of them. I'm glad the drama's over.

Good to hear.

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