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Topic: I HATE DRAMA!!!!!!!!!!!
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Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 615 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted February 16, 2011 08:26 PM
How do you get through to people who only see things their way?? Try to fix things or drop their friendship? IP: Logged |
NickiG Moderator Posts: 3093 From: Pluto, next to Ami Ann Registered: Jul 2010
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posted February 16, 2011 08:35 PM
drop the friendship...they'r not worth it if they cant see others points of view....if they are a true friend then they will see the wrong they did and apologize and try to change------------------ What happens on Venus stays on Venus -Nasa IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 6562 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 16, 2011 08:53 PM
Drop 'em. You can do better. You deserve better.------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
GypseeWind Moderator Posts: 5207 From: Dayton,Ohio USA Registered: May 2009
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posted February 16, 2011 08:58 PM
Take a break at least, if you don't want to drop them completely.I had to do this with a couple people. I just told them that I didn't want to be involved with all their drama anymore. With one of them, the friendship ended, which clearly told me that she didn't value it, she just wanted more blood to suck, so to speak... emotional vampire and all that. With the other person, she came around some months later, and apologized, so you just never know. Sometimes people are so emeshed, they don't know their doing it, and sometimes people just live that way. You have to figure out which ones are which. Good luck, you are a sweetheart, you'll do fine. IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit Moderator Posts: 610 From: A Place of Pure Love <3 Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 16, 2011 09:36 PM
Drop the friendship. I've been doing alot of that since the beginning of the year, it's amazing how much your life improves when you get rid of unhappy needy people that want to unload their sh*t on you and go along their merry way. You're not needed until they need someone to unload on all over again.Ugh . . . to think about it really angers me, how people can be so damn selfish and not even realize it :/ IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 6995 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 16, 2011 09:41 PM
Drop,drop,drop God will bring you the people who are right for you if you open your hand and your heart. Let people come .Let people go. Be you. You don't have to be perfect. Learn from each person and bless them as they leave ------------------ Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man. He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares Knowflake Posts: 910 From: I am where I am and it's enough. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 16, 2011 10:44 PM
No man is your friend No man is your enemy Every man is your teacher. - old sayingIf you can't drop the friendship, try to focus only on their positive side. Your attention to their negative side feeds it more energy and will just reinforce what you don't like about them.
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Lonake Moderator Posts: 3417 From: U.S. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 03:04 AM
Wow, i went through this.You can't. Stubborn lives and dies stubborn. No changing them. My trend is to drop the friendship. if I have to see them then I keep the conversation cordial and as distant as possible. IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 1951 From: on the other side of the rainbow Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 04:04 AM
A true friend is willing to listen and is understanding.From personal experience, I drop those that cause too much negativity,it's draining. They have to be willing to change, you can't make them change.
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Lyra Knowflake Posts: 278 From: London, UK Registered: May 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 08:15 AM
Depends what the issue is. Is it small enough to let go? Can it be talked about? IP: Logged |
Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 615 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted February 17, 2011 08:29 AM
Thank you everyone! Dropping and moving on does seem like a better idea. Lyra: Definitely not small, it's been brewing for months. They're so insecure about friends and they have to be the center of everyone's life. If they're not, step back and watch fireworks IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 1951 From: on the other side of the rainbow Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 08:56 AM
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 6562 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 10:08 AM
As you progress Spiritually, it is the natural order of things that you will attract people more like yourself. Thus, you will also lose friends, because of the change in vibration. But a loss is a win. Nature abhors a vacuum. Metaphysically speaking, that means new friends will appear to take their place. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 615 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted February 17, 2011 08:49 PM
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 6995 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 17, 2011 09:06 PM
Randall This is happening to me. It is so weird. I am changing so much. ------------------ Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man. He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 6562 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 17, 2011 10:37 PM
------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 615 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted February 17, 2011 11:33 PM
*cue emotional music* (tears) I love you guysIP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 6562 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 18, 2011 02:45 PM
------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 1951 From: on the other side of the rainbow Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 09, 2011 04:59 AM
Was wondering how it went with your friend CS.------------------ quote: I'm everyone.. paint your label on me.. Sneaker Pimps
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Cancer/Scorpio729 Moderator Posts: 615 From: 6,000 feet above sea level Registered: Feb 2010
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posted March 09, 2011 04:01 PM
quote: Originally posted by charmainec: Was wondering how it went with your friend CS.
Thanks for asking, from their perspective we're all good (we talked about it; no one said sorry) but I still avoid them. And everywhere I go people are expressing their deep dislike of them. I'm glad the drama's over. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 6562 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 10, 2011 04:17 PM
Glad it worked out.------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 6995 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 10, 2011 05:48 PM
I am going through this.It is hard.You feel like you did something wrong. Maybe you did.Maybe other people did,too. Most likely,it was both people. It ,usually,is. When things don't fit anymore,it is OK,I tell myself. I think we have to open our hand to let people come in and open our hand to let them go. You can never squish a person like a butterfly, trying to capture it's beauty for yourself. Certain things won't work in life. Holding too tightly to others is one ------------------ Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man. He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 1951 From: on the other side of the rainbow Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 11, 2011 02:33 AM
quote: Originally posted by Cancer/Scorpio729: Thanks for asking, from their perspective we're all good (we talked about it; no one said sorry) but I still avoid them. And everywhere I go people are expressing their deep dislike of them. I'm glad the drama's over.
Good to hear. ------------------ quote: I'm everyone.. paint your label on me.. Sneaker Pimps
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