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Topic: How do you find a mentor in this day and age?
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carl
Knowflake Posts: 307
From: China
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 28, 2011 11:30 PM
  
I just feel lost.How do you form this bond? What can one expect from this relationship? By no means do I need someone to direct me persay, but offer a guiding hand based on their years of wisdom and exp. Maybe someone with the patience to get to know a young person (me: 26) and just...vouch for them, I suppose? Or something along those lines. Is the concept of mentor still alive? IP: Logged |
Lonake
Moderator Posts: 3555
From: U.S.
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 28, 2011 11:50 PM
Do you have someone picked out? Or in a certain field?I think it's pretty easy, I've had a lot of mentors. Just present yourself as serious and respectful and interested but not overbearing in the older person whose interest you'd like to gain. If it's a formal situation or informal just treat them as a potential friend but with no mushy sentimentality. Mention where your interests lie after the acquaintance is established (ask how they are, about their family and things that interest them, and offer honest bits of info about yourself, when you see them again ask how their son is doing in school or how their vacation went, etc. to estab a professional bond) and when you're both on comfortable ground let them in on something small that they could help you out with (approach them as respecting their opinion and wanting guidance), just be casual and not pushy about it, dont make it seem like a burden because they're gonna be prob busy people who dont want to waste their time. If it's a work situation or someone at school (or a former teacher) or where you volunteer etc. you could approach them more directly, I'm sure they'd be flattered. I don't think it's something dead, people who feel like they have something to offer typically love passing on their wisdom, and being called to vouch for someone is a huge sign that they're respected. Not sure I understand your question perfectly but if you want to add more detail maybe I can add more specifics. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 7658
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 29, 2011 05:17 AM
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Originally posted by carl:
I just feel lost.How do you form this bond? What can one expect from this relationship? By no means do I need someone to direct me persay, but offer a guiding hand based on their years of wisdom and exp. Maybe someone with the patience to get to know a young person (me: 26) and just...vouch for them, I suppose? Or something along those lines. Is the concept of mentor still alive?
Dear Carl
You need mentors. We,all ,do. The concept is alive and well.
It shows YOUR maturity that you are looking for some.
I have,always,had mentors.
They are like angels to me,God with skin on.
I don't think I am unique in this way.
If YOU try to give love and kindness to others,it will come back to you.
I think your mentor will come back with it
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Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 7187
From: The Goober Galaxy
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 29, 2011 10:59 AM
I'm a Mentor. I have proteges all across the country. It's a great way to learn something.------------------
"All deaths are suicides, do you realize that? Every single one. The only distinction is that, with some people, suicide is a subconscious choice, and with others it's a conscious choice. Otherwise, those who commit suicide and those who succumb to accident, illness or "old age," die for exactly the same reason: belief in the inevitability of death." Linda Goodman IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 7658
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 29, 2011 11:23 AM
Randall
You were born to be a mentor ------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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snarly
Knowflake Posts: 135
From: u.k
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted March 29, 2011 12:19 PM
I would like to know how to find 'my' mentor. All I have found in the past are people looking to exploit others  IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 7658
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 29, 2011 12:32 PM
I have had SO many mentors.
It feels like the Universe gives to me ,in this way.
I,now, try to make myself available to people who come to me.
I try to give without expecting anything in return.
Love always seems to come back to me from someone,often a different person than the one *I* have helped.
This last situation has me wanting to become bitter and hard but I will try to become wise without being hard.
That is not easy at all.
One must be wise but not shut down in fear and anger.
One must keep putting oneself out there ,in love.
Then,one will either be blessed with good things OR learn lessons from bad things.
Either way,one wins .------------------
Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man.
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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abcd efg
Knowflake Posts: 64
From: Mumbai,Maharashtra,India
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted March 29, 2011 01:04 PM
Yes indeed mentors are very much around!! The above given advices are practical and good. You can try these and pray to GOD for a nice mentor. I am sure you will get one. All the best! With love,IP: Logged |
soulful122
Knowflake Posts: 522
From: ←↓↑→
Registered: Jan 2010
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posted March 29, 2011 01:15 PM
I had one when I went to beauty school. This was soon after I kept getting 100's on my tests and other students were being jerks saying how I probably cheated, being douchey 'cause they didn't get perfect scores lol. But yeah.. the owner of the school picked me out to teach/guide (and btw.. she doesn't usually do the teaching, she's hired 3 other people for that). She doesn't bother with the other students too.. she's talked my ear off on how to be a business woman and how I should strive for more, showing me different techniques on how to do things etc. Pretty cool lady. Maybe she saw something in me that reminded her of herself when she was young, I dunno really. ------------------
“If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang.” — Charley Reese IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 5683
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 29, 2011 08:08 PM
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Originally posted by carl:
I just feel lost.How do you form this bond? What can one expect from this relationship? By no means do I need someone to direct me persay, but offer a guiding hand based on their years of wisdom and exp. Maybe someone with the patience to get to know a young person (me: 26) and just...vouch for them, I suppose? Or something along those lines. Is the concept of mentor still alive?
What are you seeking via a mentor? ------------------
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Nikola Tesla
~There is no box.~H♥
~Balance is not letting anyone love you less than you love yourself.~Felipe
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX }><}}}(*>~ IP: Logged |
mochai
Knowflake Posts: 649
From: Charon
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 30, 2011 09:32 PM
You soul contract with them before you incarnate.. make eye contact, and one person talks to the other. It goes from there.IP: Logged |
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