posted June 26, 2011 04:56 AM            

A couple of surprises have come up, firstly, unfortunately my mother in law has been hospitalized and is spending the next few days or weeks in the ICU after an emergency operation on her colon. It didn't look good at first, she was deteriorating rapidly, but she is showing signs of improvement and so they are slowly removing life support systems. She is in her seventies and is on a lot of medication for various things and so recovery is slow but I'm glad she will stay to see her grandchildren grow up a bit more. Like my husband says, we are pretty sure she has chosen to not check off Earth yet, we are all very sad though, seeing her like this,

Secondly, my ex didn't show up for his breach of intervention order court hearing, which included 19 charges of threats, there's a warrant out for his arrest, but he doesn't care, he knows he'll get bail and prolong the process while instead he continued to meet with his own lawyers about family law, and today I received documents about attending family law court in august to meet his demands about seeing his daughter. His affidavit made my jaw drop to the floor. He has tried to stack as many lies up against me as he can. At least I know deep down I will always defend the truth & uphold the truth. The good part about telling the truth is that you having nothing to remember, no 'story' made up to retell carefully. So good luck to him. I say, having to remember all those lies. He thinks he is very smart and twists the truth around and sprinkles it with lies, he even said that I am the one that punched him. I know you all don't know me in person, but seriously, I punched a drunk because I am so aweful? Righto. And where in this is he showing signs of caring about his daughter? Or just to attack me? I am meeting with my own lawyers asap, and unlike him, I will be putting the welfare of my child first and tell the absolute truth about his condition and behavior. Lies are ugly and the truth is beautiful. Faith, Love, and all that is good in the world is on my side, at least I know that. He has chosen the path of lies, ugliness & cowardly reactive spite.
I have made so much effort with him, I could cry, I have been fair when he did not deserve it, I gave all I could emotionally when I could have been cruel, but I did not. Lies aren't going to get him access, rehabilitation, a change in attitude and honesty will. How simple, but he's wicked.

posted June 26, 2011 07:08 AM            

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I believe in the compelling power of love. I do not understand it. I believe it to be the most fragrant blossom of all this thorny existence.

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posted June 26, 2011 04:13 PM            

I love my daughter so much I don't want her spirit trampled on like he did me. He's a sick, sick man, who is capable of the most charming, professional, well adjusted persona, but there are holes in the mask he wears and I intend to shine a light there.

Anyway, it's 6am, my first phone call starts at 7am, and I'm off to tackle all this.

posted June 27, 2011 01:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Take all the time you need. I actually felt a strong feeling of positivity when I read about your ex. I know it will all work out in your favor. Don't stress too much about it. Higher forces are looking out for you. It will be okay.

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Ditto.

posted June 27, 2011 05:52 AM            

Thanks CS.

Re: Mother in law... needed a second op, more dying tissue poisoning her body. Her organs are shutting down. They can either keep her alive tonight or turn off life support. Either way her organs will continue to shut down, kidneys now, liver is also, heart not too good.
I'm glad she got to see all of us last friday, and cuddled her baby grand-daughter.
I think they are turning off life support tonight and let her move into the light. I'm home with the children, but my other half and his family are all there with her.
Bless.

posted June 27, 2011 08:43 AM            

Be well and we await your return!

posted June 28, 2011 02:21 PM            

Sorry for the loss.

posted July 01, 2011 05:06 AM            

There must be a higher power at work here, I have been given an excellent Barrister who's name is the same as my favorite Saint and my it's also my Christian name.
When my solicitor told me her name, I felt tingles.
My little girl is worth every penny I have ever saved.
I can't get on a dragon with a sword and fix anyone so this will have to do.

The funeral is next week, I told my girl that Grandma is gone I used our cat as an example. She sort of understands.