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posted July 13, 2011 11:35 PM            

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and lost it?
Or never had experienced greatest love at ALL if you had to lose it?
IOW,would you rather NEVER to have experienced soul mate love if you could NOT keep it?
Would you rather have a lesser love which you cOULD keep?

Hope this makes sense

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posted July 13, 2011 11:45 PM            

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For me,I would say.Yes,I would rather have had it and lost it than to say I never had it.

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Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
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God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power,love and a sound mind.

He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
Proverbs

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posted July 14, 2011 02:21 AM            

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That's a hard one...
I had someone who I was certain was my soul mate. We met at 3 yrs old. I moved away at 10 yrs old. We reconnected at 14 yrs old and ended up dating for around a year. Long story short-er...we went our seperate ways. But I think of him constantly and wonder what could have been.

But to answer your question... I think I would have not had those feelings. So probably would have been better off not having met him. My first true feelings of love.

Someone whom I kinda love but not completely would probably have been better as sad as that sounds.

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posted July 14, 2011 04:47 AM            

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but that's kinda like "wud u rather have a one night stand with a supermodel or would you rather not?" no?

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posted July 14, 2011 04:53 AM            

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I'm not sure really. I had a particularly intense relationship in my very early twenties that lasted for a couple of years. I've spent the following years being dissatisfied and feeling like something is missing in any subsequent relationships that I've had. It's made it harder for me in so many ways. If I didn't have that as a yardstick then maybe I'd have been able to settle for something less. I don't know.

All I do know, is how it CAN feel and when it's not like that then I feel cheated.

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posted July 14, 2011 06:01 AM            

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I got very close to having that all-encompassing love, and lost it. It's hard sometimes to come to terms with, but I'm not too sure I would rather not have experienced it, iyswim?

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posted July 15, 2011 04:51 AM            

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I would exericse an option which is not here. I would rather both experience it and keep it. Have the cake and eat it too.

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posted July 15, 2011 07:49 PM            

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I have had it and lost it and I would do it all again and again and again.

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posted July 16, 2011 01:56 AM            

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I would rather have it and lose it. There are greater life lessons to be learned in relationships like that. Plus it sounds very tragic romance novel-ish

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posted July 17, 2011 10:53 PM            

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To never had experienced it. I would never know what I lost.

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posted July 18, 2011 08:16 AM            

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i would most definitely want to experience love even if it means loosing it than to never have experienced it at all

and wink, dont we all remember our first true love?

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posted July 18, 2011 09:16 AM            

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I have never experienced GREAT love... At least not yet!

BUT, I would rather ´live´ it... and as we all know, work hard for it to keep it in my life.
That´s my opinion about great loves and soulmate relationships.
We may meet our ´soulmate´ or great love (you name it)... but it´s what we both do to keep it; along with other important factors such as the maturity of that specific time we meet - how ready we are - what lessons have we learned so far and how ´open´ we are to expand our souls and spirits TOGETHER.

Just my 2 cents...

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