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juniperb
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posted October 28, 2011 09:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wishful thinking and it would be put that cigarette down, NOW!!

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~

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teasel
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posted October 28, 2011 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would tell her to listen to the advice from the good people in my life, to jump at opportunities (instead of needing little, or big, pushes). I'd tell her to not stop drawing or painting, and to not give more than I'm receiving in specific situations. I'd tell her that she is smart enough, and pretty enough, and that she shouldn't sell herself short - to hold onto those moments when she knows she's just fine, and lovable. (My family never made me feel unlovable, but plenty of other people did, for no good reason.) I'd tell her to not be afraid to dress up and look pretty, and that agoraphobia might actually help her for a while - stabilize her and allow her to do better in the things that she's studying - but that there are good things waiting out there, and that the longer she puts things off, the more she'll be disheartened later on, about the things that she missed out on.

I liked certain things about myself as a teenager, and was smarter in ways, then, than I am now. I would remind her of those things, and tell her to not take certain things to heart, and that there are some in the world who love to bring others down to make themselves feel better- and that the only person to whom she has anything to prove, is herself.

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NativelyJoan
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posted October 28, 2011 12:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NativelyJoan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Probably that the world is full of all kinds of people who are human but very different. To believe in my sixteen year old self and know that even though I may never be good enough to the people in my life that place unreachable expectations on my shoulders for example my disgusting Field Hockey Coach, I will always be good enough for myself.

That you don't always get back what you give, but that's fine. Never stop giving, but learn to give in balance and learn how to give without expectations. Follow your heart and listen to your gut. Don't put your trust in anyone but yourself but believe in people and know that people can change.

I know it's hard being around that Leo Sun sign, that used to be your best friend, and one and only and someone you cared deeply about but keeping distance from him was for the best. In the long run you will understand. You weren't right for each other and you both knew that but it's hard when your young and every moment feels fatalistic and you want to runaway with each other. It's good you didn't throw away your future, and you followed your gut instincts to walk away. Always appreciate the time you enjoyed together as a learning experience that opened your mind and prepared you for relationships with others in the future. No regrets.

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Alma Sun
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posted October 28, 2011 01:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Alma Sun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't be ashamed to talk about the things you went through. Sh!t happens, no one's life is perfect. Let it out. You'll feel better in the end.

Please DO NOT get that tattoo on your neck. It's hard as hell to cover up. Plus, you won't like it 6 years down the line.

Stop spending money on useless crap. Saving is the way to go.


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Coffee
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posted October 28, 2011 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Coffee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would tell myself to never ever smoke, make sure I get a good education, and appreciate a job more. I would also tell myself that some drugs you can positive experiences with, so don't worry about going down that route, just be sensible about it.

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juniperb
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posted October 28, 2011 05:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I would tell myself to never ever smoke

Yep coffee, that`s a biggie for me.

Also, wear sunscreen and tend to youthful injuries in a more pro-active way.

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~

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LEXX
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posted October 28, 2011 06:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would not have listened.
Learn by experience, even mistakes.
Go forward without regrets because the past cannot be changed.
Forgive that idealistic yet foolish young person I was.
I did the best I could with all the severe abuse and hardship............I did what I did to survive and much was totally out of my control......
It is enough that I even survived my teen years......barely.
"shudder"

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SunChild
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posted October 28, 2011 09:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunChild     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My reply would be quite identical to Lexx's! I could have written that myself

I at least would send a message not to be exploited by that 30 y/o man- get out now !!! But I would not have listened!

And I don't regret smoking or other- I enjoyed it, haha!

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PixieJane
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posted October 29, 2011 12:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That life was going to get better. It's not only true it would've been a tremendous morale booster through hard times immediately ahead, though if I hadn't left school yet I'd have made sure she knew that was the way to go, telling her when it was time to go she'd know (I wouldn't want to do it at any other time as the experience could've been radically different if I did, and probably with a much worse outcome).

Of course if I had a lot more time I'd give a heads up on a few things so that hopefully life would be better still...though one does have to wonder about those butterfly effects.

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LEXX
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posted October 29, 2011 07:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SunChild:
My reply would be quite identical to Lexx's! I could have written that myself

I at least would send a message not to be exploited by that 30 y/o man- get out now !!! But I would not have listened!

And I don't regret smoking or other- I enjoyed it, haha!


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BearsArcher
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posted October 29, 2011 10:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BearsArcher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'd tell my 16 year old self not to worry because everything turns out the way that it should. The mistakes will be well worth the outcome and the journey will take you around the world.

Oh.. and yes, there will be plenty of frogs kissed along the way, one major toad but the prince does show up and stays

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teasel
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posted October 29, 2011 10:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bears, you just made me smile a big smile, like the little green guy up there.

Before I bought this little book called, "I'm Spiritual, Damnit!" I would read a few chapters in the bookstore when I was there, and then try to find it when I was in there again. They moved it on me, and I didn't see one for about four months, until Borders was closing and I found one copy left on top of another pile of books - so I bought it. There's a psychic in there, called Therese Rowley, who keeps reminding the author that she is always right where she's supposed to be. I haven't felt like that at all over the past few years, but I held onto that notion in the past. It would be nice to have that feeling back again.

I think this is her own column: http://www.chicagonow.com/from-paranormal-to-pretty-normal/about-therese-rowley-ph-d/[/UR L]

[URL=http://www.staytunedwithjen.com/im-spiritual-dammit]http://www.staytunedwithjen.com/im-spiritual-dammit

http://www.amazon.com/Im-Spiritual-Dammit-Ground-Stars/dp/157174634X

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GypseeWind
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posted October 31, 2011 11:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I love this thread!

Hmmm, I would tell me not to sweat the small stuff, and to use more moisturizer. :P

Regarding men... Oh Lord.
I would tell me (now, of course I wouldn't of listened to me, but I would tell me anyway) that if he doesn't call, come around, write, etc. that it isn't because of some romantic, complicated Romeo and Juliet type of reason, it's because he's just not that into me.
And I would tell me to get over myself.

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Ceridwen
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posted October 31, 2011 04:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have faith! Trust in your own perception!
Don`t let fear make you refrain from going places you want to.

And please, do NOT pick up that crisps-bag! Too many will follow.
And no, eating that junk will NOT fill the hole you sometimes feel inside your soul.
Accept that longing feeling as a part of yourself; it is not your enemy, it is guiding you.

But above all. enjoy the journey, be in the moment, live it, cause if you don´t live your life, noone will.


And I would NOT have listened.

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hippichick
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posted October 31, 2011 04:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nothing~

I brought myself through 16 and my 2 dautghters and, yes none of us would have listened.

That was a very hard age all those years ago, in the 70's even harder when my daughters went through it.

I suppose IF I had to say anything, it would have been "be yourself." Which I always was anyway.

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lechien
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posted October 31, 2011 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lechien     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i'd tell myself leave home and don't listen to other people, don't lose yourself, you are fine just the way you are.

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1-scorp
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posted October 31, 2011 07:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 1-scorp     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm with ya on the the cigs juniperb

I would also tell myself to slow down on everything!

Another thing: I never attracted boys my age, always the older guys. I thought something was "wrong" with me.... now, I would have told myself you're just fine, leave them all alone for a while. Damn those Geminis

"forgive the idealistic yet foolish person I was" - Lexx, I still battle with this one.

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Frozen Queen
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posted October 31, 2011 11:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Frozen Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sh!t happens but it gets better

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Randall
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posted October 31, 2011 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great answers!

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Purrr
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posted November 02, 2011 08:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Purrr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Put.theicecreambardown.NOW.
And do NOT blow off stop signs.

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