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Topic: What Advice Would You Give Your 16yr Old Self
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juniperb Moderator Posts: 2716 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 09:02 AM
Wishful thinking and it would be put that cigarette down, NOW!!------------------ Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 3268 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 10:06 AM
I would tell her to listen to the advice from the good people in my life, to jump at opportunities (instead of needing little, or big, pushes). I'd tell her to not stop drawing or painting, and to not give more than I'm receiving in specific situations. I'd tell her that she is smart enough, and pretty enough, and that she shouldn't sell herself short - to hold onto those moments when she knows she's just fine, and lovable. (My family never made me feel unlovable, but plenty of other people did, for no good reason.) I'd tell her to not be afraid to dress up and look pretty, and that agoraphobia might actually help her for a while - stabilize her and allow her to do better in the things that she's studying - but that there are good things waiting out there, and that the longer she puts things off, the more she'll be disheartened later on, about the things that she missed out on.I liked certain things about myself as a teenager, and was smarter in ways, then, than I am now. I would remind her of those things, and tell her to not take certain things to heart, and that there are some in the world who love to bring others down to make themselves feel better- and that the only person to whom she has anything to prove, is herself. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan Knowflake Posts: 202 From: Boston, MA Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 28, 2011 12:57 PM
Probably that the world is full of all kinds of people who are human but very different. To believe in my sixteen year old self and know that even though I may never be good enough to the people in my life that place unreachable expectations on my shoulders for example my disgusting Field Hockey Coach, I will always be good enough for myself. That you don't always get back what you give, but that's fine. Never stop giving, but learn to give in balance and learn how to give without expectations. Follow your heart and listen to your gut. Don't put your trust in anyone but yourself but believe in people and know that people can change. I know it's hard being around that Leo Sun sign, that used to be your best friend, and one and only and someone you cared deeply about but keeping distance from him was for the best. In the long run you will understand. You weren't right for each other and you both knew that but it's hard when your young and every moment feels fatalistic and you want to runaway with each other. It's good you didn't throw away your future, and you followed your gut instincts to walk away. Always appreciate the time you enjoyed together as a learning experience that opened your mind and prepared you for relationships with others in the future. No regrets.
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Alma Sun Moderator Posts: 515 From: The East Coast Registered: Mar 2011
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posted October 28, 2011 01:35 PM
Don't be ashamed to talk about the things you went through. Sh!t happens, no one's life is perfect. Let it out. You'll feel better in the end.Please DO NOT get that tattoo on your neck. It's hard as hell to cover up. Plus, you won't like it 6 years down the line. Stop spending money on useless crap. Saving is the way to go.
------------------ "All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt." — Charles M. Schulz ☺ IP: Logged |
Coffee Knowflake Posts: 2042 From: Leeds Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 03:45 PM
I would tell myself to never ever smoke, make sure I get a good education, and appreciate a job more. I would also tell myself that some drugs you can positive experiences with, so don't worry about going down that route, just be sensible about it.IP: Logged |
juniperb Moderator Posts: 2716 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 05:34 PM
quote: I would tell myself to never ever smoke
Yep coffee, that`s a biggie for me. Also, wear sunscreen and tend to youthful injuries in a more pro-active way. ------------------ Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 7993 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 06:06 PM
I would not have listened. Learn by experience, even mistakes. Go forward without regrets because the past cannot be changed. Forgive that idealistic yet foolish young person I was. I did the best I could with all the severe abuse and hardship............I did what I did to survive and much was totally out of my control...... It is enough that I even survived my teen years......barely. "shudder"
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SunChild Moderator Posts: 2438 From: Australia Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 28, 2011 09:06 PM
My reply would be quite identical to Lexx's! I could have written that myself I at least would send a message not to be exploited by that 30 y/o man- get out now !!! But I would not have listened! And I don't regret smoking or other- I enjoyed it, haha! IP: Logged |
PixieJane Knowflake Posts: 88 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted October 29, 2011 12:41 AM
That life was going to get better. It's not only true it would've been a tremendous morale booster through hard times immediately ahead, though if I hadn't left school yet I'd have made sure she knew that was the way to go, telling her when it was time to go she'd know (I wouldn't want to do it at any other time as the experience could've been radically different if I did, and probably with a much worse outcome). Of course if I had a lot more time I'd give a heads up on a few things so that hopefully life would be better still...though one does have to wonder about those butterfly effects. IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 7993 From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 29, 2011 07:59 AM
quote: Originally posted by SunChild: My reply would be quite identical to Lexx's! I could have written that myself I at least would send a message not to be exploited by that 30 y/o man- get out now !!! But I would not have listened! And I don't regret smoking or other- I enjoyed it, haha!
------------------ ~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX ~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла }><}}('>~ IP: Logged |
BearsArcher Moderator Posts: 643 From: Arizona with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2010
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posted October 29, 2011 10:16 AM
I'd tell my 16 year old self not to worry because everything turns out the way that it should. The mistakes will be well worth the outcome and the journey will take you around the world. Oh.. and yes, there will be plenty of frogs kissed along the way, one major toad but the prince does show up and stays IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 3268 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 29, 2011 10:25 AM
Bears, you just made me smile a big smile, like the little green guy up there. Before I bought this little book called, "I'm Spiritual, Damnit!" I would read a few chapters in the bookstore when I was there, and then try to find it when I was in there again. They moved it on me, and I didn't see one for about four months, until Borders was closing and I found one copy left on top of another pile of books - so I bought it. There's a psychic in there, called Therese Rowley, who keeps reminding the author that she is always right where she's supposed to be. I haven't felt like that at all over the past few years, but I held onto that notion in the past. It would be nice to have that feeling back again. I think this is her own column: http://www.chicagonow.com/from-paranormal-to-pretty-normal/about-therese-rowley-ph-d/[/UR L] [URL=http://www.staytunedwithjen.com/im-spiritual-dammit]http://www.staytunedwithjen.com/im-spiritual-dammit http://www.amazon.com/Im-Spiritual-Dammit-Ground-Stars/dp/157174634X IP: Logged |
GypseeWind Moderator Posts: 5678 From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street.. Registered: May 2009
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posted October 31, 2011 11:03 AM
I love this thread! Hmmm, I would tell me not to sweat the small stuff, and to use more moisturizer. :P Regarding men... Oh Lord. I would tell me (now, of course I wouldn't of listened to me, but I would tell me anyway) that if he doesn't call, come around, write, etc. that it isn't because of some romantic, complicated Romeo and Juliet type of reason, it's because he's just not that into me. And I would tell me to get over myself. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 999 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 31, 2011 04:02 PM
Have faith! Trust in your own perception! Don`t let fear make you refrain from going places you want to.And please, do NOT pick up that crisps-bag! Too many will follow. And no, eating that junk will NOT fill the hole you sometimes feel inside your soul. Accept that longing feeling as a part of yourself; it is not your enemy, it is guiding you. But above all. enjoy the journey, be in the moment, live it, cause if you don´t live your life, noone will. And I would NOT have listened.
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hippichick Moderator Posts: 847 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted October 31, 2011 04:26 PM
Nothing~I brought myself through 16 and my 2 dautghters and, yes none of us would have listened. That was a very hard age all those years ago, in the 70's even harder when my daughters went through it. I suppose IF I had to say anything, it would have been "be yourself." Which I always was anyway. IP: Logged |
lechien Knowflake Posts: 1473 From: in a giant room with 2 little furry friends Registered: May 2009
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posted October 31, 2011 06:41 PM
i'd tell myself leave home and don't listen to other people, don't lose yourself, you are fine just the way you are. IP: Logged |
1-scorp Knowflake Posts: 31 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted October 31, 2011 07:29 PM
I'm with ya on the the cigs juniperb I would also tell myself to slow down on everything! Another thing: I never attracted boys my age, always the older guys. I thought something was "wrong" with me.... now, I would have told myself you're just fine, leave them all alone for a while. Damn those Geminis "forgive the idealistic yet foolish person I was" - Lexx, I still battle with this one. IP: Logged |
Frozen Queen Moderator Posts: 370 From: 11th Dimension Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 31, 2011 11:11 PM
Sh!t happens but it gets better IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 12517 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 31, 2011 11:36 PM
Great answers!IP: Logged |
Purrr Knowflake Posts: 72 From: Registered: Jun 2011
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posted November 02, 2011 08:47 AM
Put.theicecreambardown.NOW. And do NOT blow off stop signs.IP: Logged |